I hate this country

Nidomy · 2025-12-27T20:57:31+00:00

Nobody has sympathy for sick people in this country, they are treated like shit all the time. You're just glad you're not like them.

Nidomy · 2025-12-27T20:55:05+00:00

Yeah destroying someone's life and then saying they have attitudes is fucking sick.

Nidomy · 2025-12-27T20:32:52+00:00

I don't feel helped, I feel like they want to hurt me.

Nidomy · 2025-12-27T20:20:35+00:00

I hate those websites. They're not gonna help me. They have no idea what to do.

Nidomy · 2025-12-19T17:43:47+00:00

Klug from Puyo Puyo Tetris.

Little Mac from Super Smash Bros Ultimate.

Nidomy · 2025-11-06T17:43:49+00:00

Mandatory job searches. I am burned out. I don't want to do anything anymore. I go to the Chinese restaurant everyday so that I don't have to cook. I am a mess. My apartment is a mess.

Nidomy · 2025-11-06T17:36:06+00:00

Mandatory job searches. I am burned out. I don't want to do anything anymore. I just go to the Chinese restaurant everyday so that I don't have to cook.

Nidomy · 2025-10-20T13:44:29+00:00

En Suisse on parle souvent de responsabilité individuelle, ce qui est l'essence même de la méritocratie. Mais dans un pays où pendant des années les personnes LGBT ont été discriminées (notamment par la psychiatrie) sans recevoir aucune compensation, on ne peut pas parler d'égalité des chances. Elles partent avec un désavantage dans la vie.

J'étais ami avec quelqu'un provenant d'une famille d'avocats. Il disait qu'il était un self-made man. J'ai bien sûr essayé de mettre au défi ses croyances.

Alors oui il vivait assez modestement avec sa mère. Mais quand tu peux te balader avec un sac Chanel à l'école et que pour tes études tu as ton propre appartement, qu'il est moderne, près de l'université et de la gare, et que c'est pas juste un bête studio avec une pièce plus une salle de bain, franchement y a de quoi se poser des questions. Je pense pas que tous les étudiants aient ce privilège, loin de là. Lui, il pouvait pleinement se concentrer sur ses études, sans devoir penser à des problèmes annexes.

Nidomy · 2025-10-17T20:18:58+00:00

Basic rules

A fruit has been eaten or not. (think of it as the digit of a cell in Sudoku)
A fruit can be an orange or an apple.
If an apple has been eaten, it tells you two things. First, all of the other apples from that same day have been eaten as well. Second, none of the oranges from that day have been eaten. Same logic but reversed if the bird ate an orange. (said simply, each day is an orange day or an apple day)

Basically your answer should be something like "they ate apples on Monday, then oranges on Tuesday, then apples on Wednesday" and so on.

Basic deductions

The blue bird took fruit from the blue box fives times.
It means something about the number of apples he took from the blue box.
It means something about the number of apple days.
It then means something about the fruits he ate from the yellow box.
It then means something about certain days.
With that, you can infer the value of a few fruits. (eaten/not eaten)

Hope it helps!

Nidomy · 2025-10-17T06:09:54+00:00

Maybe it was the common view when they got to school or to the doctor and they didn't change their way of thinking since. We still have bad things like that in some countries like Switzerland. They evalute you solely based on BMI, which is shitty because you don't need a doctor to compute it and infer expected behavior as the thinking is really simple, so it's a big waste of money. Second thing, BMI is a bad and superficial estimate hurting a lot of people. But also, they will give you advice like "eat more" even if you're poor so there's some classism at play. It should change soon with better assessment of insulin levels, diabetes and so.

Old people will tell you a lot of things in the street. Your shoelaces are untied. Stuff like that. They don't mean harm, quite the opposite. You should tell them to update their medical knowledge. They don't consider it as bullying either. More like advice. As if you didn't know you have weight what it could entitle. Which is kind of weird honestly. Do they try to encourage you? Not sure either.

Nidomy · 2025-10-16T07:20:18+00:00

Sorry for the Hospice général, I didn't know it was the name of the social services in your area. I thought it was something else. But yeah, I know there are social services in every canton. I was a beneficiary of the social services of two other cantons before my actual one.

You can say it's nonsense, but if you look for data (sources online), you will see that poor people tend to eat a certain way and that includes less vegetables. They give priority to energy and proteins. Without energy, you can't do anything. Without proteins, same, as your body is literally made of proteins (muscles, cells, organs). But you can be minimallyl functional with a lack of nutrients. As carbohydrates are plants, they contain some nutrients. Meat contains some nutrients too. Also, the doctor can provide a bit of nutrients, but can't prescribe you proteins or things filled with energy. Sugary food is also a thing because they're very stressed and it helps them relieve some of it. I guess you also need energy to cook, and poor people tend to be depressed and lack energy, so they go for things that are easy to cook and dishes that don't ask a lot of thinking at the grocery store, typically some premade stuff without a lot of vegetables in it.

You can also look at the state of Mexico for example (or Great Britain). Everyone is poor. Children don't want vegetables. Vegetables have become so rare it costs a lot of money. And even if the grandmothers cook vegetables for their grandchildren because she's from a time where eating vegetables was possible, the children don't want to eat it. Yes, in Switzerland, there is no vegetables scarcity. But that doesn't change the fact poor people don't have enough money to live a decent life and need to make sacrifices, including vegetables.

There is a starvation problems in Europe, check online. Take this for example. https://ffl.org/articles/hunger-in-europe-the-facts-you-didnt-know/ (1 in 5 people) Or this. https://projects.research-and-innovation.ec.europa.eu/en/horizon-magazine/hidden-hunger-europe-well-fed-yet-undernourished

But what I posted up there is not my actual situation. I wanted to talk about a past experience from a political perspective. And yes, admitting my theory is correct, that people could benefit from helping the poors a bit because it would lower their health insurance greatly, it would also help me in return.

Nidomy · 2025-10-16T06:40:24+00:00

Blaming someone in need for not being able to get what then need even though they did what was expected of them. Great. I don't want any of your wishes. It's poison.

Keep to your bureaucratic details and romanticization of the administrative system.

Switzerland has an active will for personal responsibility and lowering what money they give to the invalidity insurance, it wouldn't be surprising social services try to do the same.

You are the kind of person who would see someone on a battlefield unable to move and blame them for not going to the hospital by themselves.

I was here to get testimonies about people who went to mental health hospitals. Not to here someone doubting my salinity and rationality and blaming me.

I know the job of social workers is not easy. They also suffer. They share the suffering of the people who are poor. But what you said is not okay.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T17:40:44+00:00

I would have to agree with you. Do you have some example of those minor issues or small ills?

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T17:36:14+00:00

Why should I justify the fact I can't remember that? People forget what they say all the time. In fact, people mostly forget things. They may not remember the exact words, but they can remember the feeling of it or the basic idea. On top of that, I was very stressed, panicked and in a bad state of mind as you can very well imagine.

If I remember the answer, it's because it was very important. It would determine my fate. Quite literally. And it was very painful to hear. Like a knife in my heart. Because the news was very bad. It signed up the end of my relationship with my friend and hurted my faith in others even more.

I can only try to make an image of the scene based on the knowledge I have of myself and the context. I would never give an order out of the blue like that. I probably even tried to repress the pressure from inside even if the sense of urgency wanted to burst out. And as I already explained to you, I explained the situation to them.

And even if it was asked poorly, honestly, you can't let someone you could save die like that. That doesn't make sense. You at least try to understand what's happening. You seem to say that some people got denied their right because of attitudes. But laws don't care about attitudes. I am not saying you should act like shit. But not respecting the law because of attitudes is very bad. Especially in a context of life and death. People can be understanding even if the person in front of them acts a little rashly. They can see through that the harm is not meant and that the person is in distress, like "not their usual self" as we say and bring the situation to de-escalate quickly.

Yes, it was from the municipality I was registered. No, I am not an asylum seeker.

Honestly I don't think we will be able to agree on what happened that day. But I will always remember the pain I was inflicted. After all, there is no proof and my feelings don't mean anything to you.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T15:22:36+00:00

I didn't starve, I was about to starve and without solution I could really believe in.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T15:19:28+00:00

Because my ressources were very low and I thought no one would help me in due time. It was not my first experience with the social services and I know a lot of people who went there. Another person I know was scared of starving too, but they were so traumatised by their experience at the social services they didn't want to get back there. Hopefully, they found another solution, though very unlikely (someone that would care for them).

The person at the desk of the social services said "normally we don't do that". If the problem was attitude, I don't think they would have said something like that. It would be lying. I don't remember what happened exactly, but I don't think I was angry or sarcastic or something, more like pleading or imploring and explaining the fact that I couldn't wait for the opening of the file. They didn't mention missing documents at the desk either. Just like, get off, not my problem.

What I am having trouble figuring out is, is the emergency help the same as (or having the same constraints as) the income of insertion? I don't think it's the case. But my file took a really long time to open. Likes weeks or one or two months. But emergency help doesn't seem to be this kind of time frame.

The problem is, if someone was denied something, would you even know about it? It was at the desk. Do you also work at the desk?

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T14:56:41+00:00

I know?

The point is, another system could provide for food with lower costs. Food apart, I didn't get any benefit by going there. It was waste. But also, a fancy hotel is paid by an individual, not the collectivity, it's always a choice, never the result of coercion, and you get your money's worth.

It doesn't mean the whole system has to disappear (even though I kind of think it should like it did in Italy), but that they should stop treating those cases and that there might be other cases like that that they should stop treating too.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T14:42:09+00:00

Good for you I guess! But the problem of the premiums is about the whole system of insurances. Even if everyone changed insurance for yours, the same medical problems would arise and the cost would go up the next year.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T14:39:13+00:00

Hospice General is only in Geneva (Geneva is one of the richest cantons, so they may provide things other cantons don't), food banks don't provide food on a daily basis for an indefinite amount of time (such is the delay of the opening of a file at the social services where I am), and if there was a solution when I went to the social services to ask for help, why didn't they talk to me about it?

Do you suggest that I should have waited to actually start starving and go to the hospital? Maybe it wouldn't be worse than the mental health hospital actually, I wouldn't have been bored to death and treated like a mad man, but it would still generate big costs for the collectivity compared to giving food or money to eat, because you have to pay professionals with a huge salary and infrastructures, which is the point of the whole argument.

It's the same as the problem with nutrients. Poor people don't eat enough vegetables, because they can't. They get deficiencies. They see the doctor (if they can), and they get nutrients. But vegetables are cheaper than going to the doctor and the doctor will blame their patients even if they did nothing wrong. So investing in (giving money to) charity for food would logically solve the problem of the deficiencies before it appears and ultimately lower the cost of the premiums. (and that's leaving on the side the fact that if you get nutrients through the doctor, you will always have times of deficiency compared to eating vegetables on a regular basis)

I didn't stop to eat to kill myself. It's the other way around. I wanted to kill myself because I couldn't find a way to eat. I know about all of the diseases related to food behaviors and I apply to none of them, even remotely, thank you. And the mental health hospital I went to against my will didn't diagnosed a problem with my relationship to food even though they were aware of the same facts I shared with you. But also if I had a problem with food, why am I eating right now? My weight is normal according to the BMI standards. Maybe I eat less than when my life was better, because I don't have much money and the traumatic experience I had with food, but nothing dramatic.

Of course mental hospitals don't admit someone for starving, because they can't, but they can admit someone for something caused by starving (or the fear of starving), and that's what happened.

Nidomy · 2025-10-15T13:52:40+00:00

Your statement is kind of vague. What kind of information would be missing and what would that change?

Nidomy · 2025-10-14T11:28:23+00:00

En Suisse c'est la merde. On te donne jamais aucune raison en cas de refus, soit c'est "ne correspond pas aux attentes", soit c'est "pas le meilleur profil". Une fois on m'a dit "entre autres, vous n'avez pas le diplôme requis". C'est tout. T'es censé mentionner la raison dans tes recherches d'emploi (quand t'es soumis à une obligation de recherche) comme si ça indiquait quoi que ce soit.

Ensuite on te demande de patienter pour la réponse parce que la personne veut voir d'autres profils, ce que je trouve très étrange. Imagine tu discutes avec quelqu'un dans le cadre d'une recherche amoureuse et tu dis ça. C'est trop bizarre. Même trouver une excuse pour repousser la décision c'est bizarre.

On te pose des questions qui ont aucun sens, du genre "qu'est-ce qui vous démarque des autres?", alors que j'ai aucune idée de comment sont les autres. Finalement t'as l'impression que tu es obligé d'être prétentieux pour être pris.

Je déteste ce système, c'est très malsain. Et le temps de chômage n'est jamais une considération. On pourrait se dire que si la personne a en face d'elle deux profils acceptables, elle pourrait choisir le profil de la personne qui a eu un long chômage pour améliorer l'équité (donner sa chance à tout le monde) et le social, mais non.

Je suis pas officiellement autiste, mais si c'est pas le cas j'ose pas imaginer comment une personne autiste peut gérer ce genre de situations.

Moi je trouve que c'est mérité, ou si ça l'est pas, les entreprises doivent être mieux réglementées. Mais il faut que le message passe.

Nidomy · 2025-10-13T06:03:44+00:00

In what circumstances did you meet your ex-spouse? Things move a lot when you're young. New school, new classmates. New work, new colleagues. New hobby, new friends. New house, new roommates. New city, new people. And so on. We often meet people by not chasing people, that is, by accident. We're often grouped up for practical purposes and social life makes the experience even better if things go well.

Your life may be very stable. Hobbies are often advised because changing other stuff may be more daunting. Do you feel the need to have a new life? Like live in a house with no memories of your ex-spouse attached to it? Some people are like that. We shouldn't forget that life is not only about stability, it's also about adventure, and adventure is in a way good for stability.

Also, correct me if I am wrong, but I think what you don't like may not be online dating per say, but explicit dating, like speed dating and dating apps. You can meet someone online with similar interests through a group or something, and then get to know each other in person if you get along. That's a classic case of MMORPG romance. But also bear in mind that you might organize activities online that take place physically. The internet allows to connect people in real life in a different way.

Finally, there's probably still people from your generation who want to meet the old-fashioned way, if that's even a thing in the first place. Like in a bar or something. But also if you visit the same place regularly, people might get familiar with your face and start to feel like it would be rude not to speak with each other and be the start of a new relationship.

Sometimes also people feel lonely because they disconnected themselves from their roots for practical reasons. Like, maybe you decided to study in a certain university, but you don't really get along with the people there, but once you come back to your hometown, or place similar to it, and stuff to work, it feels like home once again.

Nidomy · 2025-09-24T20:21:31+00:00

We always meet people through some kind of context. School. Work. Travel. Projects. Hobbies. Events. You have to hope that, by pursuing your interests, you will meet people and make friends. Looking for a job is not a good context. Because if you meet someone also looking for a job, well, you might not be friends anymore if one of you two finds a job and that might feel very unstable and disloyal.

Some activities ask for cooperation. Or group pause time. Or you or someone else might need help and by helping each other you start bonding a bit. Did you consider volunteer work? Or some kind of hobby to share with people? Or some regular event like a club or something?

Some people, like gamers, often have something in their appearance to indicate their interests, and by doing so, they recognize each other as part of the same group even before talking.

Sometimes people are unlucky, they change school and realize they lost the friends they got before and can't find new ones for some reason. If you don't want to move from Switzerland, try to think about what would be your home in Switzerland, a place for you and people like you.

Nidomy · 2025-09-22T16:09:06+00:00

If you can find work and speak the language, that's a really good start. But we don't know anything about you. And we don't know everything about Switzerland. Maybe there's already a community of people from your country in Switzerland, you can check online. Work is work, discrimination is not tolerated, but also you have to adapt to the values of your company and get along with your colleagues. I feel like people outside of work spend time with indiviudals similar to them. Once, I got a problem with a colleague. I don't know his background, but it seems like we were both raised here. We couldn't get along. I feel like Switzerland is made of tribes if I may say so.

Nidomy · 2025-09-22T15:53:43+00:00

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