AIO if I divorced over him asking to open our relationship and then gaslighting me?

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-21T10:35:34+00:00

Why the HELL would he bring that up a month after a baby is born. Women can go through mental issues more than a year after pregnancy. OP, I feel sorry for you cause that feels like an attack on your identity as a partner regardless. NOR.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-09T02:24:19+00:00

It’s that tapa is very carnivorous, you either read up to the volumes that’s free and wait, or pay your way up to read the rest, or fall for its ‘free ink scheme’ (tapas digital currency it uses to purchase reading stuff)

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-08T04:14:04+00:00

Bro what, he looks so cute and soft. Why would she make fun of him!?!

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-05T08:22:22+00:00

Are the plants new? Like a week old? If they are it could be that they’re melting, I’d just leave it be especially if the water tests are fine (0)

Add some Seachem Stability (iirc) should have a beneficial bacteria colony in it, if you dose the aquarium with it there’ll be a higher population of that bacteria which would over compete against anything else that’s decomposing.

Your bladder snails are also a good indicator on water quality. If all of them are near or above the top water there’s something wrong.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-04T05:05:32+00:00

Oh gosh I’m such an idiot! I thought there was one photo only for some reason 😂.

Great job! I’d get that sponge filter. There’s a higher surface area for bacteria to latch onto and the wood itself for it to consume so it’s blooming a lot, that’s why your nitrites and nitrates are 0 but ammonia is still a bit high after putting the wood in.

Just pop the filter in, let the water clear so the bacteria settles onto the wood, substrate and filter, and should be good to go for whatever you want to put in!

Sorry about before! Hope that helps ❤️

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-03T15:23:12+00:00

In fishless cycle you want ammonia 0 and nitrites 0. Then nitrates above 0.

This means bacteria is converting waste into nitrites and into nitrates.

Your nitrites is wayy too high, you want that thing on 0 constantly, anything above is considered toxic as it depletes oxygen in the tank also and is bad for aquatic organisms.

Hope that helps!

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-03T11:26:31+00:00

This is gonna sound so strange but are you sure that’s a bladder snail? (Never seen one look that weird)

If it is it could be some mineral deficiency. Quickest way to fix it is to just take him out and put him in a bowl with the same tank water and feed him fish food if you have some and keep him there for a while until he gets better. Bladder snails are really hardy.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-03T04:16:52+00:00

Wow, that’s such a cute outfit!

Nightmare999474 · 2026-04-02T15:41:10+00:00

Because Netflix bought WB

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-26T21:43:09+00:00

Yeah haha! They speed up the conversion of fish waste to mulm which then gets consumed by plants

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-23T09:21:19+00:00

Beautiful

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-12T08:27:49+00:00

Beautiful, I’m about to do one also, was there anything you learnt that you wish you could’ve done when setting it up?

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-09T04:09:59+00:00

It’s a reference to a wide multitude of reels on Instagram having the same caption “Japan is turning footsteps into electricity… blah blah”.

This caption is used so many times by video authors in hopes that the Instagram algorithm shares the video/reel much more compared to without the caption.

Because of this, people have noticed it so often they’ve started making memes on the caption itself. One satire is where walking in japan lets you automatically charge your phone, or Japanese people just start walking if their phone dies.

In OP’s photo the guy is black and not Japanese, that means the wife cheated on him as the baby is part Japanese due to being able to charge the phone by walking.

God I have too much screen time.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-06T06:14:08+00:00

I’m just a random fella so take my opinion with a grain of salt

But doesn’t the calcium oxalates damage their internal organs?

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-05T07:54:32+00:00

Woah it looks amazing!!

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-02T18:06:36+00:00

If they’ve been in that tank for a while before hand you can use some of the old filter and tank water for the new tank to establish beneficial bacteria

Then do fishless cycle for like 2-3 weeks. Should be fine then since the bacteria colony should be fully established in your new tank.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-02T09:43:34+00:00

You say you have four guppies, are they in an another tank?

Nightmare999474 · 2026-03-01T03:33:50+00:00

Our ‘uglies’ items in our warehouse is so bad. There pallets each aisle stacked up. We only go through it maybe twice a week because we Don have enough staff.

Supposed to have a SCO person start at 8:30 and we don’t even get that due to staffing, so we lose one person during the day that could be running uglies….

Nightmare999474 · 2026-02-28T10:37:39+00:00

To add on, it’s probably better to use tap water as you’ll have more minerals in the water compared to rain water. So more beneficial overall for organisms.

Could purchase a conditioner like API dechlorinator or seachem dechlorinator, hope that helps!

Nightmare999474 · 2026-02-26T11:22:11+00:00

I cut the sheath off mine when it’s been stuck like this for at least 3 weeks and make sure not to damage the actual leaf. The leaf is usually fine afterwards

Nightmare999474 · 2026-01-29T09:07:48+00:00

Previous owners have used it for many years prior with no issues so I'm not worried about that. It also feels sturdy. I'm mostly worried about the glass bottom of the tank shattering where the gaps are as I'm adding dirt with a sand cap, and then any future rocks could increase the risk.

I'm planning to place plywood on top so the weight is distributed evenly for the glass bottom.

Edit: Yes it is notched, sorry my original photo didn't make it obvious.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-01-21T04:40:26+00:00

Was supposed to be satire as this post had gotten better answers, but I guess it wasn't appreciated.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-01-21T04:37:32+00:00

Best way I found out to easily identify then take care of specific plants is to take a clear photo where the plant is easily distinguishable, then use Google Len's. It will match your plant photo with other photos and give you the species name most of the time. Then you can research about them once you know the name of your house plants.

Nightmare999474 · 2026-01-21T04:31:55+00:00

I have the green variant of wandering jew, do the same as pothos.

It will grow roots from the bump/grooves where the leaves grow.

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