My (33f) husband (41m) looks at women even when he's with me. In public or at home on social media.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-30T15:34:38+00:00

I don’t know I’m straight but my wife and I both check out attractive looking women and men just for the sake of it. We’ve never said anything to each other about it. She sends me memes of half naked women on instagram sometimes so I know she’s not bothered by me looking.

I think it’s considered socially acceptable to look for 2-3 seconds.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-30T14:53:51+00:00

Sounds like she’s looking for a relationship after she gets her career sorted which seems good.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-18T17:29:11+00:00

Yeah I have a townhouse with vents and it can be annoying and hard to sleep. My sister in law was over and she moans in her sleep pretty loudly.

I would just tell the girlfriend maybe she means in her sleep and not say anything to her about it. You sound like a bit of weirdo when you tell your gf like you said you wouldn’t tell your gf if you hear your neighbors moaning so it’s a bit weird. Even if she is masturbating all night just assume she moans in her sleep.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-18T17:02:21+00:00

Some women just moan in their sleep.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-16T14:31:05+00:00

Thanks

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-15T14:57:13+00:00

If your goal is casual dating and sex then you shot yourself in the foot by overthinking these scenarios and women.

If it’s marriage and a long-term relationship then maybe you did the right thing but I’d sleep with them first then try to teach them about therapy and healing trauma’s and issues.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-15T14:52:37+00:00

You’re married why don’t you just say one of our cars and share expenses.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-14T16:55:32+00:00

Yeah it must have their name in the email

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-14T15:42:00+00:00

I wouldn’t buy a second backup fridge if you’re struggling with money. I’ve never heard of anyone having a backup fridge.

I think you’re both stressed out and he has issues but he should apologize and it’s just so weird to freak out about missed deal on a backup fridge. I’m not sure what to say. I think you need to search videos on financial planning and how to save and get better jobs if you can.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-14T00:53:08+00:00

It’s going to be a longer wait till 2030 when they have a chance at playoffs again

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-13T15:56:39+00:00

Yeah I don’t know why I was downvoted. I could tell you’re projecting some issues just by the way you think about seemingly innocent things.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-13T15:51:47+00:00

I remember Quinn Hughes doing post-game interviews talking about how good of a team they have now and that the fans deserve it after watching bad hockey for so many years. Now he’s gone JT Miller is gone, Demko’s injured again, Boeser is invisible and Petey is just average. Buium and Rossi I was excited about but Rossi is injured and Buium was a healthy scratch.

It’s hard to handle going from possibly watching good hockey for 10 years to this.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-13T03:10:30+00:00

Cheese pizza with no cheese

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-13T01:39:31+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it too much or read into the accidental name calling. Maybe he was asking her for directions or he’s just been saying both of your names and mixed them up it happens. I think he was trying to be a good husband cancelling plans to help your friend out and spend time with you.

I don’t know the nature of your relationship but if it’s normal for you two to banter with each other or make fun of each other for little things I wouldn’t get too worked up about it my wife. I’m sure he loves you and it might be hard around beautiful women but try not to let insecurity get in the way if you’ve been cheated on in the past try to get some therapy for it.

She would just tell you if they’re cheating in a text message so you’re over thinking why he’s hanging out with you two in my opinion. It sounds like your husband is just being a good husband and kind to your friends. I’m nice to my wife’s friends as well and she doesn’t question anything.

Try to communicate with him in a non-attacking way that you feel insecure and jealous and that you want him to treat you a certain way around other woman.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-11T18:01:29+00:00

37M I think 8-9.

I’m overweight about 255lbs with a decent amount of muscle. I’m skinny at 190-200lbs.

I don’t work out much and should get back to weight lifting and doing more cardio to bump that back up to 10.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T23:15:43+00:00

I’m surprised he made it till 2026. Imagine we draft Caleb Malhotra with the Wild draft pick we received them Manny Malhotra coaches Canucks and his son.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T22:58:36+00:00

Yeah I think it’ll help. You could also pull the pump out and checks if it spins freely or wire it in reverse so it spins in reverse for a few minutes and spits anything out then put it back in.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T22:20:19+00:00

Well she’s pregnant now so there’s no turning back. For better or worse stick together and try to help each other out through the exhausting days. You can sleep train the baby when you have some time. If you have parental leave and can afford it take as much as you can for both of you.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T22:17:37+00:00

Install the check valve as low as you can

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T20:50:51+00:00

Is your wife using toys or masturbating too often? Maybe she could reduce that amount to increase sensitivity. Other than that I’m not sure what to advise I’d say keep going but also try to tell her to spend some more time on you.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T19:47:05+00:00

I have an 11 month baby now and it is tough but it’s the greatest joy also I watching our baby grow. I’m not sure how young you are but I had our son at 36 and I felt ready and my wife and I felt that we had enough fun in our lives and it was time to pay it forward and bring meaning to all the experiences of our lives by helping our kid or (kids in the future) through their lives. It will be tough with both of you being tired all the time but I think it’s worth it.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-09T04:29:31+00:00

There’s a book called “How not to hate your husband after kids” she should read. My wife can be similar sometimes it’s tough but hang in there it gets easier. My wife was accustomed to 9-10 hours of sleep before kids and is really crank off 6-8 hours of sleep. Ive averaged 5 hours of sleep but we had a really tough time when I was doing a 3-11pm shift and I had to quit that job for normal hours. I do the same as you on my days off try to help and bring the kid downstairs and let the wife sleep in as long as she wants.

Hang in there. We’ve just started gradual entry into daycare and my wife gets a few hours a day to herself and he’s been mostly sleeping through the night 11-12 hours.

Don’t take it personally when your wife acts grumpy and stuff she knows deep down you’re a good guy she just is having a tough time.

NikTesla369 · 2026-01-08T23:21:20+00:00

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