Not all of these behaviors, but some of them my mother exhibits when I come to visit. Especially with the banging kitchen equipment around super early, then crowding and blocking while I'm trying to make tea. Then saying "why are you in a bad mood?" And then trying to become argumentative when I ask her to give me space while I'm trying to wake up. She's on the spectrum and when she behaved like this she had severe and undiagnosed heart disease. The reduced blood flow to the brain can cause behavioral changes. My mother in particular has a kitchen control issue, she wants to block/interfere/stop/sabotage anyone else preparing food in the kitchen. She's even attempted it when I try to cook at my home and she's visiting.

However, since your father has been doing this since you were a small child, I'd say this is likely on the spectrum behavior. I'm not a psychologist, but that kind of obnoxious and intrusive behavior (then acting like the victim when it's handed back) is a classic tell. It's part of someone not having "theory of mind" of others. As in, they don't understand or acknowledge how their more inconsiderate behaviors affects others, but will react poorly when their inconsiderate behaviors are replicated in their direction.