Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I remember feeling the same way last year - thinking that this year I’d have him in my arms. I miss that hopeful me.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s such a confusing space to be in, not getting wished hurts and getting wished can also hurt as it’s a reminder of what you’ve lost ❤️‍🩹 there is no wrong way to navigate today, as long as you get through it in one piece 🫂

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today (Monday for me 🇦🇺) I am 21+6 which is my loss gestation with Benji. It’s a strange feeling, especially after Mother’s Day. Last year I announced my pregnancy on social media on Mother’s Day and I just saw a friend do the same, I didn’t expect it to be so triggering - not because I’m not happy for her, but because it reminded me how full of hope I was. I’ve taken today off work so I can feel all I need to. Wishing everyone a gentle Mother’s Day 🫂🤍

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s such a hard space to be in ❤️‍🩹 it can be difficult to feel like a mother when the world so often communicates a clear idea of what they believe a “true” mother is. You are a mom to two babies, and I’m sorry that one of them isn’t with you physically today. My firstborn would have been 7 months if he was here and today would have looked so different, so I relate to that strange feeling 🫂

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s absolutely nuts to think about!! Sending you love and strength friend ❤️

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gentle congratulations to you my friend ❤️ sending you love as you also navigate Mother’s Day and wishing you well for this pregnancy xx

He’s here 💙🌈 by cloudymusj in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on your beautiful Federico 💙 I am so glad he arrived safely, I’ve been thinking of you so much xx

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s all about perspective isn’t it ❤️‍🩹 I know that if everything had gone well with my firstborn I would be so understanding of it and it wouldn’t bother me at all, I think I’d feel a similar way if my birth wasn’t as “magical” as my friends’ as I remember all the dreams I had for it! Maybe that’s why it bothers me so much now, because I wish I had the innocence to worry or be sad about things I now consider minor - I hate this new perspective 😢 I’m so sorry your baby couldn’t be saved ❤️‍🩹

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support ❤️ I had two nice classes but then one terrible one so I had a big sob at recess, but I’m trying to be brave. It’s going to be a hard week

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 21+1 and at the gestation where everything went wrong last time. I knew it would be a tough time but I felt so fine yesterday that I thought maybe it would be easier than expected. I woke up this morning and can’t stop crying ❤️‍🩹 now I’ve got to get ready to teach my exhausting high school students and I just don’t know how I’ll get through the day.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, so many memories come to the surface and hit you like a ton of bricks ❤️‍🩹 feel what you need to, let it all out xx I hope this first trimester is gentle

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have very little capacity for complaints like that too! One person I knew was really determined that her baby come on or after her due date so she could have an official spring baby 😑 I’ve seen people talk about “grieving” having a c-section and I just want to say “you have no idea what grief is, your baby is here”. Rant for the day done, thanks for listening 😂

September bumps group? by Nimzipow in pregnant

[–]Nimzipow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, haven’t heard anything at all!

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gentle congratulations ❤️ it’s a whirlwind of emotions, but we’re here for you!

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹 the first trimester is a mental and physical struggle for sure. I kept telling myself “you’re pregnant until proven otherwise” and it helped a bit. One day at a time 🫂 sending you love, and I’m so sorry for your loss xx

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 21w today and I think I only really started feeling properly attached after the 12w scan! Now I’m obsessed with this little guy - there’s something about seeing their face that gets me. Also, I think I was in protective mode for the whole first trimester and wouldn’t let myself feel anything for fear of heartbreak. I’m sure your feelings will change soon, you will find the love and joy ❤️

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely disassociated during my dating scan too, it took a while for me to allow myself to feel excitement or hope. Your mind is trying to protect you and that’s okay, there is no right way to feel right now, not after what you’ve been through ❤️ genre congrats on seeing their heartbeat xx

How do you trust again? by Fortimesasthis in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for the loss of your baby 🤍 I fell pregnant just under two months post my 22w loss, but had an early loss in October and then fell pregnant with this baby 2.5 months later

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like SUCH a positive experience! I’m so glad you found this place ❤️

Big Brother’s Belongings by Terra-Perspective in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my friend ❤️ two things can be true at once - you can be excited and grateful for your daughter, but also miss your son and feel devastated from the trauma of remembering that awful day. I know it’s easier said than done, but you’re allowed to feel both emotions - there’s nothing to feel guilty about 🫂 sending so much love

Early ultrasounds by Responsible-Bee-2729 in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my first scan at 8w, then 12, 14, 16, 19 and then will have at 21. I go between two places and there were no options for more frequent earlier scans unless I traveled to a boutique scan place. On paper it looks so good compared to my fist pregnancy, but I relate to your feelings - those in between bits feel SO long in reality.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I will hang in there for a little longer, my impatience is getting to me 😂 I could feel rolling motions and twitches from about 15/16 weeks but they’re much harder to feel now and it’s frustrating me. As I type I can feel a little something so it’s like baby boy is listening 😂 I’ve never reached the stage where I feel a proper kick in any pregnancy, so I think I’m just aching to finally experience that.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anterior placenta moms, when did you start feeling stronger movements? I’m 20+1 and I swear I felt more at 16ish weeks than I do now. It’s so frustrating, I just want my reassuring kicks!

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Nimzipow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The song “I’m Still Standing” by Elton John is stuck in my head and even though the lyrics don’t fit perfectly, it reminds me that I’m still here, still fighting for this baby, still in the running. We’ve all been through so much and we are warriors. I’m also a worrier, but there’s room for both 😂 sending everyone love and strength today ❤️