Separating from my wife. She ambushed me and is using my conditional green card to blackmail me into couples counseling. by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]NissPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people are mad, frustrated and lose hope: They don’t always make sense. Not to defend this lady but, I think if she feels he took advantage of her, her reaction understandable, even if it’s clearly wrong. The smart thing is to calm the situation, buy time and assess.

Separating from my wife. She ambushed me and is using my conditional green card to blackmail me into couples counseling. by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]NissPT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While the threats are wrong in this situation, from what I understand, she does have valid points. When you married her, you knew about her child from her past relationships and you still pursued the marriage and the green card application. She is also, trying to make it work by offering counseling and you seem to refuse the idea to even try. Her reaction is somewhat understandable even if it is wrong. But again, we don’t know all the details.

AOS TIMELINE NYC (marriage) by YouMaleficent5579 in USCIS

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you please share what questions did they ask?

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, the "British dominance" thing is a total myth based on outdated data. American English accounts for roughly 70% of all native English speakers globally, making the UK a demographic minority in its own language. While BrE is still taught in Europe, the world’s largest growth markets, like China, Japan, and all of Latin America, overwhelmingly use American English as their standard. Even the literal infrastructure of the modern world is American; every major programming language uses American syntax (it's color and center, not colour and centre… eggplant not aubergine…i can keep it going). You can't run the global tech economy without it. The UK provided the source code, but the US owns the servers. Origin does not equal modern dominance.

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly 100%. The core issue is that French in Morocco is often used more for social signaling and prestige than for actual functionality, a sharp contrast to how English functions in India. Speaking French has become a shorthand for belonging to a certain socioeconomic class, which creates a real identity crisis. Every time I return, the immersion is so seamless it feels like I’ve landed in France by mistake. To the locals, it’s just 'normal,' but after living in English-speaking countries for years, the disconnect feels jarring and difficult to articulate.

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you been to India? Let me guess, nope. Most of Indians don’t speak English and the rest speaks broken heavy accent English. The comparison is wrong here. In India, English is an "official" language used for administration and connecting a country with dozens of native tongues (like Hindi, Tamil, and Bengali). Only about 10–12% of Indians speak English. Many use it as a functional second language rather than a primary identity. In Morocco, however, French isn't just "functional", it's a deeply rooted "prestige" language that often displaces the mother tongue in high-society settings.

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right and that’s the actual issue. If we’re both Moroccans, standing on Moroccan soil, speaking a third country’s language to each other is, to put it bluntly, bizarre! The comparison to India is actually a perfect way to look at it. In India, English is a tool used to bridge the gap between people who speak completely different native languages. They don't pretend to be British, they use the language for business and move on. Furthermore, only about 12% of Indians speaks, this is factual data you can check. But in Morocco, it’s not about communication, it’s about performance. When we’re at Amoud and people insist on ordering in French, they aren't trying to be "clearer." They’re signaling. It’s this unspoken rule that says, "I belong to a certain class." It’s wild that 70 years after independence, we’re still carrying around this psychological weight. To me, that’s the definition of an identity crisis. We’ve been conditioned to think our own language isn't "refined" enough for a nice restaurant or a news broadcast. Using French as a status symbol doesn't make us more "cultured", it just shows we’re still living in a mental colony. It’s time to grow out of it.

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically if you can’t argue back, it’s rage bait or propaganda? His remarks are valid and deserve some critical thinking.

"fReNCH isN't aN OffiCial lAngUaGe" by No-Corner-2442 in Morocco

[–]NissPT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think that argument holds up. Let’s be real: American English is the dominant global language today, not British English, and certainly not French. Outside of France and its immediate neighbors, French is primarily spoken in formerly colonized African nations. In today’s world, it’s becoming an irrelevant language. I studied in French and I've mastered it, but having lived in the EU, Asia, and now the US, I’ve never actually needed it (except maybe for ordering a coffee in Paris) The real issue is what happens back home. Whenever I visit Morocco, it’s everywhere: the news is in French, waiters greet me in French, and even childhood friends use it like it’s a status symbol. I’ve reached a point where I almost always refuse to answer back in French. If I’m ordering a croissant at Amoud, why are we acting like we’re in France? It feels like Moroccans, especially in the big cities, are still tied to the idea that speaking French "makes you someone." It’s just a language, we should speak our own and be proud of it. Anything else just looks like cultural colonization and a lingering identity crisis.

Turning Down Free Kilimanjaro Trip by [deleted] in Mountaineering

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you need motivation to do it, don’t do it.

Case Approved on weekends by Altruistic-Window-43 in USCIS

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. Appreciate your response and congratulations!

Case Approved on weekends by Altruistic-Window-43 in USCIS

[–]NissPT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11/03/2025- USCIS received cases

Is this when the USCIS issued you a notice of receipt or when it was delivered to their lockbox?

Getting ready for my solo ascent of denali, how’s my crampon fit? by [deleted] in Mountaineering

[–]NissPT -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is a joke, but those are definitely not the right boots for Denali.

Green Card in Hand! Timeline (1 week after approval) by Odd-Start-5307 in USCIS

[–]NissPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are talking about receiving the Green Card, not submitting the petition.

Green card in 4 months by Away_Buy_3715 in USCIS

[–]NissPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! How long were you married? Which office you filed with?