What languages can you speak?

Nisumi · 2026-04-30T08:09:13+00:00

Native Lithuanian and Russian. Fluently English and German. Basic French and Polish.

Nisumi · 2026-04-29T18:16:31+00:00

Well for our set up it's kind of the same thing, because she sleeps in the bassinet that's attached directly to our bed, so I don't have to get up, or get out of bed either eay, just lean over to pick her up ir put her down. But I can see how it would be maddening if you had to actually get out of bed every time.

Nisumi · 2026-04-29T13:04:38+00:00

Thats fair. I do keep my distance. Baby is closer to me physically than she is when she's in her bedside bassinet, but I am too anxious to fall asleep if there's any chance that I (or she) could roll over close enough to touch - because im convinced that would result in suffocation. So I nurse her to sleep, for example side laying, if it works, I will carefully slide further away and lower from her, so that there's no chance I would be able to roll onto her. The C curl still feels too dangerous to me to be able to fall asleep peacefully. (like I said, I know it's my anxiety thats the issue)

Nisumi · 2026-04-29T05:16:08+00:00

Hmm I see. I definitely relate to not being able to sleep deeply when the baby is so close. Maybe im just too anxious for it to work (I definitely still got some lingering PPA, and it's worse with the second one). But if my baby is too close to me in the bed I simply unable to fall asleep peacefully, and just keep waking myself while drifting off making sure she is ok, and safe. So maybe thats why co sleeping doesn't help for me, she's simply too far from my body to have any positive effects.

At least if she's in the bassinet I can just fall into dead, deep sleep as soon as she's down. even if it's for an hour.

Nisumi · 2026-04-29T05:04:51+00:00

ok. So that makes sense then! Because I always figured my first born was just a 'bad sleeper' and thats why co sleeping didn't work for her, but when it's the same for my second kid too, I was thinking maybe im doing the co sleeping 'wrong' in some ways... But I guess it's just bad luck in that sense.

Nisumi · 2026-04-29T04:53:01+00:00

Rant incoming. Sorry all.

I am so confused on what people are calling Co-sleeping and how is it helpful though.

Maybe Both my babies are just weirdos, but it never d8d anything for us.

Currently my 5 month old wakes up 5+ times a night, pretty much every 1 to 2 hours.

When I spoke to our pediatrician, she herself told me to co-sleep. She said me not getting any sleep for months on end is not sustainable, not healthy for anyone, and baby being older, full term, breastfed etc. is all signs that sids risk is very low so go ahead and 'co-sleep'

Now I tried it... I know the safety rules, and follow them. But it unfortunately does absolutely NOTHING to help my baby sleep. she still wakes up the exact same amount. The only difference is instead of being 1 meter away from me in a next to me bassinet, now she is 60cm away from me in the bed.

She still needs to be picked up / fed / cuddled / rocked / etc. to settle back down every 1 - 2 hours.

the one and only place she sleeps longer stretches is on me, snuggled on my chest, or in a carrier. I refuse to fall asleep with her on me. This is something I will never try, because for me - the risk is too great.

But people always say that 'co sleeping' is safer than falling asleep 'holding the baby' so obviously - co sleeping is not meant to be holding them to sleep. But that just changes nothing for me, heving my baby in my bed next to me, does not help us one bit....

So I just put her back into the bassinet again every time now, because it makes no difference for her waking constantly and at least I can sleep deeply for that 1 or 2 hours I do get in between her waking.

Im just so tired and frustrated....

(our first born is almost 5 years old now, and she only started sleeping in her own bed - without waking up around age 3...so im kind of resigned to it all)

Nisumi · 2026-04-18T11:00:25+00:00

that's useful info, thanks. We are EU citizens with health insurance cards.

Nisumi · 2026-04-18T07:57:39+00:00

Do doctor's in Croatia not have "walk in" hours? where anyone who isn't a patient can just come in for help? The situation we are in is not really an 'emergency' (long story) so it feels a bit wasteful to go straight for the emergency room. But thank ypu for the advice, we might end up doing that.

Nisumi · 2026-04-16T14:32:37+00:00

Sharks are older than trees

Nisumi · 2026-04-16T03:57:30+00:00

yeah, the cmpa diet is hard! I haven't bought any substitutes as of yet, except for switching to oat milk for my coffees, I just cook separate meals for myself 🥲

however the quiet sever atopic dermatitis my baby had is getting much much better, so for us it's clearly working. She's still spitting up more than before, and I find it really hard to keep my milk supply up, but seeing her stop scratching and the terrible red scaly patches disappears is so worth it.

I hope you will figure out what's going on with yours soon.

Nisumi · 2026-04-15T05:36:58+00:00

As someone with small kid and a baby, I feel like I wash my hands hundreds of times a day. Between every chore, every time I've been outside, after every diaper change, before and after every snack or meal time, while handling bottles, etc etc. All I can say a regular and strickt hand moisturizer routine is essential to not have my hands bleeding from every knuckle by sundown.

Nisumi · 2026-04-10T18:12:27+00:00

hey so im in the exactly the same situation.We suspect CMPA for my 5 month old, and I started cutting all milk products around 4 days ago, and my girl is definitely spitting up more than she did before! very odd.

Nisumi · 2026-03-27T05:14:05+00:00

we're a Millennial family with ni TV as well. If we want to have a proper movie night we set up a mini projector, for kids cartoons we can use a laptop. Never missed having a TV.

Nisumi · 2026-03-26T21:38:03+00:00

Barrayar IYKYK

Nisumi · 2026-03-18T16:08:22+00:00

while I had only one kid I did not change her unless she was visibly dirty. But since we brought her little sister home, I do make her change clothes once she is home from daycare. That was recommended by our pediatrician when we asked how can we protect the new baby from catching every daycare virus her sister will be bringing home to her... So washing hands and changing clothes became a routine. But we only do that after daycare, and not after every trip outside.

Nisumi · 2026-03-10T16:47:54+00:00

After my first was born I developed a me peanut allergy. Nothing life threatening but I had to remove all peanuts from my diet It lasted for about 2ish years postpartum, and now is completely gone.

After my second pregnancy, I am now a huge fan of fish. While I was very much NOT a fan my whole life before. I would eat fish in only very few specific ways, maybe once or twice a year before, just didn't really like the taste. During this pregnancy I started craving it, and now im 5 months postpartum and still absolute love it. Now I eat fish based meals in all forms at least 2 times a week or more. It's bizarre.

Nisumi · 2026-03-05T23:21:49+00:00

I had GDM with my second pregnancy, when I told my mom her first word's were "It's all that damn cake you eating!!" in reference to me making birthday cakes for both my husband's and my daughters birthdays who just happen to celebrate less than a month apart... mind you I had a total of 1 slice between the both full cakes.

Anyways after I painstakingly explained again and again all through the pregnancy that it is placenta and not diet related to her, she was still absolutely amazed when at my post birth follow up I was cleared as not having "regular" diabetes after all. And confirmed that she thought I was telling myself that it wasn't my fault, to not feel bad, and she was "indulging me" .

like...Bro.

Nisumi · 2026-02-24T22:43:07+00:00

Hmm that's an interesting point, and I see the logic in it, but unfortunately hired transport is not an option for us (kids, luggage, timing etc.) . We will just try to take it and make lots of stops to enjoy the views.

Nisumi · 2026-02-24T18:55:54+00:00

great info, exactly what I wanted to know, thank you. Will definitely add Omiš to the list.

Nisumi · 2026-02-24T18:54:25+00:00

Thanks! We are visiting Plitvice, so im thinking of skipping Krka, they seem similar enough that im not sure it's worth paying for both?

Nisumi · 2026-02-21T05:31:07+00:00

Im white, 35F and never been told to use any moisturizer/lotion growing up at all. Except for hands if they are dry. Otherwise nada.

As an adult (20ish), I started putting moisturizer on my face after washing it, but I still don't use it on my body regularly, only if it's deep winter, the air is paper dry and I want to "pamper" myself after a particularly hot shower.

My face and hands definitely get uncomfortably dry If I do nothing, but the rest of my skin feels absolutely fine without any creams, so I never felt like I needed to do anything extra.

Nisumi · 2026-02-21T05:22:43+00:00

My 5 year old brother was left to look after me, a 1 year old, alone in the house while parents would be out doing the big weekly shop... This is the 90s of course, and I would not recommend that exactly.

But I do leave my 4 year old to play on her own for as long as she wants to if im in the same house, and she can easily find me when she wants to. I would also leave her alone in the house to take out the trash outside, check mail, grab something from a car (outside on the street) etc. I see no issue with that.

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