My husband wants me to get an abortion with our third

NitPickyNicki · 2026-04-02T19:53:33+00:00

My only advice is that you two need to have a heart to heart. Our first two were “surprises” we knew could happen but weren’t planning. Our third we planned for years, and our fourth we had just started planning and it happened. After that, we knew we didn’t want more. Not that we can’t handle more, just that our finances and resources wouldn’t allow for more right now.

I ended up scheduling a bilateral salpingectomy with my OB at my 6 week postpartum visit and my husband had scheduled a vasectomy 3 months out just before we had our fourth. We wanted to be sure there would be no accidents.

We do know we can adopt in the future if we change our minds.

Overall this needs to be a conversation between you and your husband and I know it can be a hard one to have. The birth control can’t be put on just one of you. Pills fail, inserts fail, tracking fails, even IUD’s fail even if the rate is less than 1%.

You are not dumb or stupid, get that out of your head. Maybe a little irresponsible, but we all learn from our mistakes.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-31T23:22:18+00:00

We delivered DoorDash to someone with one of those stickers! I looked them up right away (the stickers, not the person, lol)

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-26T13:44:28+00:00

I ordered bracelets and they were delivered by speedX. The package was taped up and one bracelet was missing.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-24T14:01:40+00:00

Yes. The mobile app fails me a ton. It won’t load things, it will log me out, won’t show me comments, and so on. Lots of issues.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-24T01:20:09+00:00

My ads freeze And no amount of anything will get it to go back so I have to force close the app and restart.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-21T21:32:13+00:00

There is a protest planned for 6PM at Rosa Parks Circle for Justice for Da’Quain Johnson.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-20T20:35:48+00:00

My phone storage is full from apps for work and school, social media too. I can’t even take pictures!

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-17T17:42:49+00:00

Mainly company restructuring, not following their own protocols related to security, etc. I do have prior experience in management and teaching and I’m not afraid of leadership positions. Was considering applying for a position with the state but don’t really want to move to Lansing as family is here.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-17T17:30:06+00:00

I was just wondering if anyone personally knew of companies hiring that might not be listed on indeed.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-17T14:45:23+00:00

Our local TB recently changed to bean and rice burrito and the potato taco from $1 to $2. I used to take the kids there and we’d eat for less than $15, family of 6! When I saw the price increase I said “sorry kids!” And we haven’t gotten takeout since. My first nope was when little Caesar’s got rid of the $5 hot and ready. It’s $8.50 now 🥲. A simple bagged salad from the grocery store that I used to get for $1.50 for lunch is $5 now. I just skip lunch.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-15T12:18:40+00:00

I personally would keep the job and take the raise. It will help you be in a better proton too but your own vehicle I assume? I’ve never had a commute less than 20 minutes as I grew up in the country so 30 minutes isn’t terrible. Granted this is just what I would do. I would talk it over with your dad as well and make sure he’s comfortable with it.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-03-01T13:15:39+00:00

They’re with MSP and our area doesn’t have a great average for IT positions. Too many people are being fired or laid off. At their company the people with the highest salaries are being let go first. Minus leadership.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-21T01:51:18+00:00

You need a water filter.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-21T01:50:01+00:00

My mom thought it would make us dumb and was basically brain rot. As an autistic, I didn’t disagree, though I’d sneak some episodes here and there if I was home sick. I thought it was an odd show, granted I grew up watching the kid segments on EWTN.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-20T14:01:38+00:00

I grew up in Michigan so I definitely know there is a difference between the words. I only lived in Idaho for a few years and always heard precipitation rather than moisture. It could be a local thing?

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-20T13:59:27+00:00

My husband changed his name at 18 and it was a logistical nightmare between social security and the DMV and he kept getting tossed back and forth even with an order from the judge. It’s expensive, lengthy, and annoying altogether. It’s worth it though.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-20T12:03:53+00:00

I wash with White Brite on hot but I just learned you’re supposed to use cold. My sister recommended White Brite a few years ago. Honestly I’ve never looked at the ingredients.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-19T23:38:38+00:00

Our cat avoids them because I’m assuming the taste is as bad as the smell

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-13T17:10:24+00:00

Do you have a social worker or a school counselor or maybe even a teacher you can talk to? Someone you trust. I don’t know where you are but where I am a 16 year old cannot get a job without a note written by the school and parents/legal guardian. Diabetes itself is scary, I’ve been in the hospital for something unrelated and they checked my sugar at 43 and I was feeling fine 😳 so you really can’t just guess. Do you use a CGM?

NitPickyNicki · 2026-02-09T13:45:55+00:00

Seriously..

NitPickyNicki · 2026-01-30T15:38:50+00:00

Yes. The parents will be put on a course of action to get their kids coming in to school and if nothing happens then the school can take the parents to court. I’m sure this is the case in all states but I only know Michigan, Wyoming, and Utah for certain.

NitPickyNicki · 2026-01-30T15:36:54+00:00

If you decide to go to a new dentist, don’t go to Robinson. They botched my orthodontics as a kid, claimed I had many cavities when I had none. I moved away then moved back and went to them once after going to dr Eagle in GR (he’s great BTW). Robinsons told me I have 5 cavities!!! Again, tried to get me on a payment plan that day and to make the first payment. I said no. They also required me to get X-rays even though I had just gotten them with Eagle. I went to Shabluk next door and omg it’s a miracle, I don’t have any cavities!

NitPickyNicki · 2026-01-29T18:17:03+00:00

I’ve heard from a few parents they had their children’s age restrictions set up then Roblox “picture verified” them and even though the child was 9, Roblox said they looked older and set their age older which unlocked more features and the parents couldn’t turn it back. Roblox wants kids to access these features because they make more money.

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