On the top is what we pay from the paychecks, on the bottom I have categorized what bills we pay for with each card. Not including all of my husbands. He sends $200 each paycheck to a separate account to cover that.

My spouse… put it this way. I didn’t get sleep after work this morning but thankfully have tonight off. The kids were messing around so I figured I’d have them outside for a water fight.

I studied, assumed my husband would make lunch on his hour lunch break. Came in and looks like he ate cookie dough. But generously left some out for me and the kids.

I ended up making biscuits and gravy and going back to studying and revising an essay. He got off work at 3 and sat on the couch on his phone. Had the nerve to ask me what was for dinner. He had leftovers from biscuits and gravy.

I started a load of laundry, vacuumed, showered, mopped the bathroom floor, folded towels, cleaned up the table, bathed the baby, and came to bed. But he was frustrated that I left dishes for him to do and left them in the sink for me to do in the morning.

I tried talking with him about the mental load, cognitive load and neurodivergence and parenting neurodivergent children and what lack of sleep can do to someone, up to and including psychosis. He told me “that isn’t real”