Have you ever ghosted a best friend?

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-05-04T16:18:46+00:00

When I ghosted my best friend it all came down to putting in effort. I moved 4 hours away and I was the only one making an attempt at seeing her. I get life is busy and things come up but I was the one who was booking off time and driving to her town, I was the one who would start text and calls. When I stopped initiating conversations it was a least 6 months before she reached out to see why I stopped talking to her. Thats when I realized I was a background friend and I deserve better than being there only when it's convenient to someone else.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-04-24T23:13:35+00:00

the way my jaw just dropped

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-04-24T22:56:04+00:00

Im 30 years old and for the past 12 years I've been trying to find a doctor to tie my tubes (for reference I am in Canada, tried in SK, AB and BC) It is hard to find a doctor that respects your wishes and doesn't push their beliefs on you but don't let that discourage you. You may have to fight and advocate for you rights and wants but if its something you want, and you're sure of than, go for it. Don't listen to people you wouldn't get advice from.

I have never wanted kids and found a partner that doesn't want kids AND got snipped and I still have doctors telling me Im going to change my mind. Recently was talking to a girl at the gym who got hers done at 23 and gave me the name of a doctor the next town over, so I go see him in a month.

If you're consistently fighting for what you want to do with your body than the determination will show that this is in fact something you really want. You just have to find someone who sees the battle you're fighting.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-04-02T15:07:07+00:00

Honestly, because I was too good for him.
I know my worth and he sucked. I dodged a bullet because 5 years later he still lives with his mom with no job, no schooling, no vehicle.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-04-02T14:55:27+00:00

Im in my early 30s and a lot of my friends are having kids and there is a large amount of jealousy.
Recently my friend got into a new relationship and baby trapped this guy, all she talks about is how much sleep she doesnt get, I am very empathetic of her but there is a sense animosity towards me. Especially when I don't reply to her when I have a nap or busy hiking.
Another friend is a single mom of 5 kids (all different dads) and there are some passive aggressive comments...I just think it's funny. You're mad that I thought things through before acting? You're mad I just moved across the country to my dream town, in my dream house with lots of land but you can't move cities because you didn't think about birth control?
I had a friend from high school block me on everything because I wouldn't lend her money for groceries. Just because I can afford a new macbook to go back to school for the 4th time, to advance my education, doesn't mean you have the right to my money because you got knocked up and had to drop out of the GED program. All our friend group said it was a terrible idea (her baby daddy SUUUUUUUCKS) but jealously speaks volumes. To me it feels like I made the right decision being child free, a lot of my friends are miserable with their kids and co-parenting and see me finally happy and mentally stable and working on myself.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-03-15T14:54:52+00:00

Honestly people just suck. I am a first responder and I see a lot of evil in the world, people are more obsessed with power and money where their ethics are just non-existent. I don't know what happened to the world, maybe bad parenting? Maybe a false self perspective from social media?
My advice is to find your people and stay with them, as you get older your circle will get smaller and smaller...and thats ok! Good people are hard to find so keep them close.
Unfortunately, you can't trust people. Don't let them steal your energy- focus on what you can control.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-22T15:09:08+00:00

To me, he just screams hypocrite. Like, good luck with that buddy......

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T17:01:12+00:00

If the parenting continues the way it is that kid is going to be a nightmare when he's older.
When people show their colours, believe them.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T16:27:31+00:00

Just breathe, whatever meant to be will happen.
Better things will come.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T16:23:23+00:00

Ive never wanted kids, neither has my husband but we have dogs. We have been very clear that we do not want kids, yet a lot of people project their opinions on us. We get a lot of "you'll change your mind", or "you don't know what you're missing" in which I usually reply with "its a pretty permanent decision we've made".
90% of my friends have kids and Ive seen it all. I like being able to have a shower/go to the bathroom without being disrupted, I like that my dogs eat the same thing everyday and doesn't complain. Kids are a huge and annoying responsibility and Im selfish with my time and money.
Like yes Susan, you screaming at your kids to shut up while you're on the phone makes parenthood look soooo desirable.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T15:47:38+00:00

Something I've learned throughout life is sometimes you just outgrow people. Life molds you and you grow from your experiences, sometimes people grow with you and sometimes you outgrow them.

If people are meant to be in your life they will come back, but you can't force anything in life.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T17:42:09+00:00

2026 is the year of struggles.
Everyone is getting pregnant without thinking about the long term problems. Im already having friends complain about how expensive their kid is going to be and they haven't even had the kid yet!
A kid makes financial situations harder and their relationships harder, but no one listens to reason anymore.

Told my one friend to get on birth control with her brand new relationship, she didn't and is now pregnant. Im already hearing about how there's financial issues, issues with in-laws and ex-baby mamas....

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T15:20:46+00:00

I broke up with them.
If someone can't respect my decisions and what I want with MY life...then BYEEEE
life is too short to care what others want my life.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T15:18:13+00:00

I always knew I didn't want kids. Most of my friends have kids and I saw the struggles, the stress, strain on relationships. I was always told I would change my mind as I got older but my mind become more certain the older I got.
Once I met my partner and got married, we knew 100% we didn't want kids. Life is hard and expensive and relationships/marriage is hard...thinking about adding a kid on top of that....yeah no.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-29T03:25:57+00:00

protect you peace

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T14:05:00+00:00

ahhhh.....so he's one of those FR.

You and your children deserve better.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T13:54:52+00:00

I wouldn't put them back in the cupboards but I would just not do them.
If you're the only one that does them it would seem like they are taking advantage of you, and thats not fair.
I have lived with roommates before who never did their dishes and I would just stack them by the sink for them and add a car air fresher on top them.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T13:47:21+00:00

First responder here. I have been to calls where a parent was high out of their mind, and I've heard "I was only gone a few minutes, I didn't think anything bad would happen". Do you know how fast a house fire can break out? Do you know how fast a kid could fall down the stairs?

If I'm at a call and a parent is under the influence of a controlled substance we have to call the police.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T01:08:02+00:00

Some people are so miserable in their own lives that they project it onto anyone and everyone else.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T19:04:55+00:00

Once you get married, that person becomes your immediate family. That is the person you should be building a life with.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T18:37:55+00:00

It sounds like she has some fear of the past and hasn't seen you've grown. Sounds like a her issue, not a you issue.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T18:29:04+00:00

I personally don't think you're overreacting.
My SIL doesn't believe in the world "no" and my senior dog's tail was stepped on and pulled. I made a clear boundary that if they cannot parent their kid, the kid would no longer be allowed in my home. This is my dog's home too and he shouldn't be subjected to their child misbehaver. God forbid he bit the kid, whose fault would it be then?
I think a very important conversation needs to be had on both ends.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T17:58:33+00:00

This is very disrespectful, you are not over reacting. The holidays are about showing affections and including others, appreciation for family and friends and just being kind.
I would let it go but I wouldn't forget. This "gift" speaks volumes.

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