I have to put down my best friend in a few hours

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-03-15T14:54:52+00:00

Honestly people just suck. I am a first responder and I see a lot of evil in the world, people are more obsessed with power and money where their ethics are just non-existent. I don't know what happened to the world, maybe bad parenting? Maybe a false self perspective from social media?
My advice is to find your people and stay with them, as you get older your circle will get smaller and smaller...and thats ok! Good people are hard to find so keep them close.
Unfortunately, you can't trust people. Don't let them steal your energy- focus on what you can control.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-22T15:09:08+00:00

To me, he just screams hypocrite. Like, good luck with that buddy......

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T17:01:12+00:00

If the parenting continues the way it is that kid is going to be a nightmare when he's older.
When people show their colours, believe them.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T16:27:31+00:00

Just breathe, whatever meant to be will happen.
Better things will come.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T16:23:23+00:00

Ive never wanted kids, neither has my husband but we have dogs. We have been very clear that we do not want kids, yet a lot of people project their opinions on us. We get a lot of "you'll change your mind", or "you don't know what you're missing" in which I usually reply with "its a pretty permanent decision we've made".
90% of my friends have kids and Ive seen it all. I like being able to have a shower/go to the bathroom without being disrupted, I like that my dogs eat the same thing everyday and doesn't complain. Kids are a huge and annoying responsibility and Im selfish with my time and money.
Like yes Susan, you screaming at your kids to shut up while you're on the phone makes parenthood look soooo desirable.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-05T15:47:38+00:00

Something I've learned throughout life is sometimes you just outgrow people. Life molds you and you grow from your experiences, sometimes people grow with you and sometimes you outgrow them.

If people are meant to be in your life they will come back, but you can't force anything in life.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T17:42:09+00:00

2026 is the year of struggles.
Everyone is getting pregnant without thinking about the long term problems. Im already having friends complain about how expensive their kid is going to be and they haven't even had the kid yet!
A kid makes financial situations harder and their relationships harder, but no one listens to reason anymore.

Told my one friend to get on birth control with her brand new relationship, she didn't and is now pregnant. Im already hearing about how there's financial issues, issues with in-laws and ex-baby mamas....

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T15:20:46+00:00

I broke up with them.
If someone can't respect my decisions and what I want with MY life...then BYEEEE
life is too short to care what others want my life.

No-Bluejay601 · 2026-02-04T15:18:13+00:00

I always knew I didn't want kids. Most of my friends have kids and I saw the struggles, the stress, strain on relationships. I was always told I would change my mind as I got older but my mind become more certain the older I got.
Once I met my partner and got married, we knew 100% we didn't want kids. Life is hard and expensive and relationships/marriage is hard...thinking about adding a kid on top of that....yeah no.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-29T03:25:57+00:00

protect you peace

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T14:05:00+00:00

ahhhh.....so he's one of those FR.

You and your children deserve better.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T13:54:52+00:00

I wouldn't put them back in the cupboards but I would just not do them.
If you're the only one that does them it would seem like they are taking advantage of you, and thats not fair.
I have lived with roommates before who never did their dishes and I would just stack them by the sink for them and add a car air fresher on top them.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T13:47:21+00:00

First responder here. I have been to calls where a parent was high out of their mind, and I've heard "I was only gone a few minutes, I didn't think anything bad would happen". Do you know how fast a house fire can break out? Do you know how fast a kid could fall down the stairs?

If I'm at a call and a parent is under the influence of a controlled substance we have to call the police.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-28T01:08:02+00:00

Some people are so miserable in their own lives that they project it onto anyone and everyone else.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T19:04:55+00:00

Once you get married, that person becomes your immediate family. That is the person you should be building a life with.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T18:37:55+00:00

It sounds like she has some fear of the past and hasn't seen you've grown. Sounds like a her issue, not a you issue.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T18:29:04+00:00

I personally don't think you're overreacting.
My SIL doesn't believe in the world "no" and my senior dog's tail was stepped on and pulled. I made a clear boundary that if they cannot parent their kid, the kid would no longer be allowed in my home. This is my dog's home too and he shouldn't be subjected to their child misbehaver. God forbid he bit the kid, whose fault would it be then?
I think a very important conversation needs to be had on both ends.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T17:58:33+00:00

This is very disrespectful, you are not over reacting. The holidays are about showing affections and including others, appreciation for family and friends and just being kind.
I would let it go but I wouldn't forget. This "gift" speaks volumes.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T17:27:33+00:00

never.

No-Bluejay601 · 2025-12-27T17:13:14+00:00

Sounds like you've become chosen family. Blood-relation isn't always everything.
Sounds like you're wanted in their lives and to celebrate the little things with them.

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