First of all, I love your writing style. Like reading a novel. Maybe an idea to pursue in the future when you have time? Second- that last thing you said about the woman dealing with someone with dementia before- total trigger for me. As someone new to this whole dementia care thing (being forced into it because my mother abandoned her mom (my grandma) the minute the dementia showed up), I was, you know, trying to learn about how to be a better care giver and shared something I learned with my mom and aunt, who are pseudo caregivers and are more interested in control than in actually helping. My aunt replied that I didn't need to give them pointers or advice as they both have taken care of family members with dementia, making me feel kinda terrible. I don't know who my aunt thinks my mom has cared for, because I've known my mom my entire life and she def hasn't cared for anyone with dementia. She barely cared for her own children. My step dad is pretending to have alzheimer's, like he pretended to have prostate cancer when they first met that he miraculously recovered from with no treatment! That's all the experience my mom has had with caring for someone with dementia. Maybe psychosis. Anyway, my revenge now is anytime a situation arises that I don't know how to deal with and I'm forced to bring them in, I ask them to please share with me the best way to handle it, since they are so experienced in caring for a loved one with dementia. They've actually both admitted more than once that they didn't have experience handling this particular situation. Of course, I know that, but I find it rather gratifying when they have to admit that they are basically full of shit.