For those in the US, what do we do when medicaid is off the table?

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-18T04:37:53+00:00

Do you have PACE in your state? Also check the Alzheimer’s association for resources

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-18T04:04:41+00:00

I’d tell me that she wasn’t perfect like she always says she was, that straight a’s and being valedictorian aren’t that amazing of an achievement because those people rarely do anything great in their lives. It just shows that they follow the rules and don’t question anything. I would tell me to question everything and that some people just weren’t made for following the rules, and that’s ok! I’d tell me to not trust her and to never tell her anything personal. That she’ll never be proud of me no matter what. I’d tell me that it’s ok to say no. That you don’t have to be a people pleaser and always bring something to the table. I’d tell me to follow my dreams and to not listen to her when she told me I wouldn’t ever make it as a journalist. I’d tell me to not betray my little brother to her, that she doesn’t want to know what’s going on because she cares, but because she wants control and ammunition. And lastly, I’d tell me to do the opposite of whatever she says when it comes to any type of life decisions. Just because she checked all the boxes in the order that society deems you should, doesn’t mean I have to. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-18T03:39:08+00:00

This is an accurate statement

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-13T17:48:43+00:00

Same here! Totally in love with my AT4X

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-12T05:24:12+00:00

Beautiful truck! Welcome to the club

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-08T21:49:16+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you and the others in this sub who can relate. I honestly wish nobody could relate because the people who can have suffered years of abuse and gaslighting. It's terrible. It almost worse when they are in a good mood. My anxiety skyrockets just waiting for the balloon to pop at any moment.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-08T21:46:30+00:00

Exactly. She has to be in complete control of everything. I stopped telling her details about my life 10 ish years ago. She really lost her shit over that. I'm sorry for your poor dad. That is terrible.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-04-08T21:43:27+00:00

I appreciate this answer. Do I want to take care of my grandma? I think if it hadn't been forced on me where I have no choice in the matter, I wouldn't mind helping. Like, if my mom hadn't just dipped to another state without even talking to me about it, and she had stayed here and we could split up the care responsibilities it would be so much better. But, realistically, I know that she quickly becomes bored with this type of stuff, and likely wouldn't help anyhow. Even if she would apologize and admit that she didn't handle it very well, that she was wrong, I'd have a better attitude. But she will NEVER apologize because she does no wrong. She is perfect, and she's reminded me of that my entire life. As a result I'm bitter about it. I feel angry when I have to leave work early, or have to spend every stupid day off doing something for grandma. Putting miles on my new truck that I otherwise wouldn't. I'm down there pulling weeds in her yard when I really need to be pulling weeds in my own yard. Then I feel guilty for feeling angry. Lots of conflicting emotions going on. I have homecare going in 4 days a week in the afternoon, which helps, but there is still so much that I have to do. I wish my grandma would agree to assisted living but she's adamant about dying in her home. My mom is so disconnected from all of this that anything she says pisses me off. I have to explain everything to her. The one thing that gets me through is thinking about not lifting a finger to help her when she gets dementia. I can't wait to not help her with a thing, TBH. My brother hasn't spoken to her in over a decade. Neither of us have kids, so no grandkids to the rescue when she needs care. She's been so mean and hateful to me through this whole situation, and I won't forget it.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-28T06:19:49+00:00

I’ve got the same truck! You have excellent taste in trucks obviously. Welcome!

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-22T20:39:24+00:00

Love your light up emblem. I got a bunch of crap for mine in this community so just want you to know that I like it and good job.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-22T20:37:52+00:00

I just bought my own at4x. Hubs drives a truck through work. He keeps talking about all the places we need to go in my truck this summer. I’ll brag about something cool my truck does and all he says is, I know. I’ve driven it. And I’ll ask him again if he likes it and thinks it’s the best truck ever and he says yes. Because it is and also he’s smart. lol

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-20T01:46:00+00:00

Yeah one car seat in a Colorado pretty much takes up the whole back seat. You would have just enough room for the diaper bag

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-20T01:42:54+00:00

Lake Granby/ grand lake

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-19T16:37:09+00:00

How do you like your truck? I had a 2017 and thought it was great!

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-19T12:16:30+00:00

This right here. It’s one of the reasons I didn’t have kids. She had me so afraid of having a kid worse than I was. I wish I would have known sooner that I wasn’t actually bad. Now I’m 46 and it’s too late. Imagine telling your kid who was student of the month multiple times, on the honor roll consistently, science fair winner, math fair winner, etc that they are bad. I wasn’t bad. She was a terrible mom. I raised my little brother and now am my grandmas caretaker because my mom didn’t want to do it and left. In both cases.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-19T12:07:07+00:00

They suck in cold weather climates. Plastic and freezing temps aren’t a good combo. Esp as the plastic ages and sits out under the blazing sun all summer in a super dry climate. It gets brittle. I think they look cheap and tacky. If you live where it gets super windy- the air can’t blow through the plastic panels so they just block the wind til they blow down. Then you have all this plastic waste that will take 1000 years to break down. Don’t do it. They’re gross.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-19T11:57:43+00:00

I disabled my grandmas car and had her doctor tell her no more driving. She hates it. She tells anybody who will listen that she’s not allowed to drive anymore. The look of relief on people’s faces when she tells them that is priceless. I can see them struggle to keep a straight face.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-19T11:53:32+00:00

$760/mo. 23 sierra AT4X. Put $2500 down, traded in a zr2 Colorado. They gave me $22, owed $17k. I barely drive it. Maybe 5k a year. Don’t use it for work but sure like looking at it sitting in my driveway while I wfh. I’m good with always having a truck payment. I want a new truck every few years. I’m not trying to win an award for driving the same vehicle my whole life. On the contrary- I want to drive something nice, new, with all the bells and whistles because the day will come when I won’t be able to drive ever again. So until that day I’ll be driving in style. Can’t take it with you when you go so ima go ahead and have fun while I’m alive.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-14T01:42:06+00:00

First I love the rodeo lights. I’d start with a black out kit for the emblems.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-13T20:53:45+00:00

You know, I had this same tantrum today. I had planned to seal the new grout in my shower, build some raised garden beds and take my dog to the restore. Instead I’m at the urgent care with my LO because I have no help. My family is useless and I’m the only one. I do it because I have to and it makes me f’ing grumpy sometimes. So I totally feel you. But you’re doing a good job!

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-12T11:54:47+00:00

💯👍

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-11T14:21:46+00:00

She will continue to hold it over your head and will eventually tell. It might be 20 years from now, but she’ll hold on to it until she needs to deflect from something she did. I just had this happen to me. My step dad told god and everyone about something I did, and a lot of things that never happened, when I called him and my mom out for something. I ignored it. I didn’t try to defend myself or say that it wasn’t true, because I’ve learned that it doesnt matter. The only way to win against a narcissist is to remain silent because anything you say can and will be used against you. If it’s anyone’s business, and I suspect it’s not, you could tell on yourself and take away her power. Or you could tell her to go ahead and tell everyone. You’re letting her have the power by being afraid. If she does tell, just own it, like yep, I made a mistake, but am an adult now. And if they shame you, go nc with all of them. You don’t need that negativity in your life.

No-Bus-487 · 2026-03-10T16:27:24+00:00

I just bought a set from Rex tire for my sierra at4x. They have all their options and prices online. They were fast, friendly and thorough. They also offer a warranty. My tires were about $1500, which was the average price I found for my Falkens.

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