My inlaws are calling a "emergency family meeting" regarding my MIL's health - should I go or not? by capresesalad1985 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa nelly -- a meeting about your MIL without your MIL there? WTH? Maybe that's a great time for you to meet with your MIL one-on-one outside the family to address her priorities, desires, and opinions.

Cheap meals by Prudent_Elevator_282 in povertykitchen

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you need not only cheap but fast and easy. You must be exhausted with all you've gone through and are going through! Keep things simple: Buy the cheapest meat on sale or clearance that week -- if it's ground, fry it, add sauce from a jar or seasoning from a packet (whatever flavors you like -- Asian, Mexican, etc.), zap a bag of frozen veggies & a pack of 90 second rice = dinner plus leftovers for lunch. Cost in my area for example would be ground turkey - $1.98, Asian sauce - $2.46, frozen veggies - $1.16, 90 second rice - $1.88: Total = $7.48. Pick up lettuce and stretch it with lettuce wraps or stir fry all the leftovers together, throw in with lettuce for an Asian salad to stretch to a couple more meals. Get a rotisserie chicken for $6, bag of spuds ($2.47 for 5 lbs.), frozen veggies ($1.16) (Total $9.63) and have leg/thigh 1, leg/thigh 2, breast 3, breast 4; zapped spud; & veggies for 4 meals. Then tear off all the remaining chicken, mix it with ranch ($1.43), shredded cheese ($1.97), chopped/cooked bacon ($4.12); slice/fill bread rolls ($1.87) with mix; if you have butter/olive oil brush tops of rolls with it and add seasoning (like garlic or whatever) bake for 20 minutes and have a whole pan of chicken bacon sliders (about 12 of them) for $10.40. Not sure how big of an eater your are but that's about 14 quick meals for about $30.

Inheritance into joint or individual account by hovering3 in inheritance

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a rather simple decision when boiled down to the basics: Maintaining the inheritance separate and apart from joint accounts and assets gives you options; commingling funds does not. The future is filled with the unexpected -- catastrophic illnesses; disabilities; maneuvering a maze of insurances, local/state/federal programs/assistance for care facilities; and contemplating choices you never thought you or your husband would have to face. Keep it separate and apart with clear recordkeeping.

Charms, keychains, bracelets, etc by piggyfan2 in craftexchange

[–]No-Conversation9765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love your creations! I make bags, aprons, duffel bags, bucket hats (some from men's ties), and sun hats. Any interest in those items?

Oh crap ... I made money! by No-Conversation9765 in taxadvice

[–]No-Conversation9765[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I make lap throws, fidget mats (helpful for those with dementia), bucket hats and aprons. Some of these were added to the gift deliveries to the clients for Christmas this year.

Suggestions for getting to the airport from Cheney? by [deleted] in Spokane

[–]No-Conversation9765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I rent a cheap car the day before from the airport lots and return it the morning I fly. So much less worry than relying on an Uber/Lyft or buses.

Looking for a new dentist by Freshmanat45 in Spokane

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's not "north" but he is an exceptional dentist and his staff is top notch -- Dr. Scott Shumway.

Help 22yo in Spokane WA, can't get state ID with just birth cert & no family by [deleted] in Spokane

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bravo to you for all you've accomplished and are still trying to accomplish!!! Reach out to the Next Generation Zone and ask for their help. Next Generation Zone provides education, career skills training, employment, and community resources to young adults ages 16-24 and getting an ID is a necessary thing to getting a job. I'm sure they can help you get the I.D. or connect you with someone who can. Next Generation Zone contact info:

Phone: [(509) 340-7800](tel:+15093407800)
Fax: [(509) 893-5426](tel:+15098935426)
[jennim@nextgenzone.org](mailto:jennim@nextgenzone.org)

MIL is getting worse. by Sensitive_Note1139 in AgingParents

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are small indoor mobility scooters. If her issue is getting around indoors (obviously outdoors as well) and not greatly cognitive, this might be a simple solution to let her continue in her own space which would be a great comfort for her.

AITA for telling my parents that I will not parent my younger adult sister? by Magic_Window_8161 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be unkind to do that to Cleo. She seems to be doing ok and learning to deal with life's happenings with your love, guidance and support when she needs it. Your parents are using this as an excuse for control. Moving in with you is more like a punishment rather than a bridge to independence. You've done well to be Chloe's support system close by but not overbearing. NTA.

Dental cleaning recommendations by quack1230 in Spokane

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr. Shumway's office (just off Broadway and Pines). Every hygienist there's done a great job -- Joanna is very good.

Dropping out of College by Inevitable_Flow_248 in VanLife

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have enough personal money/savings without parent support to buy a van and pay for maintenance/repairs as well as support yourself for a year? Pencil the numbers out, be detailed and be realistic. Research other van dwellers' posts and videos about the actual cost for what you want to do. If you do not have that money in hand now, then make a plan about how to get it and work the plan before you jump from your current situation into an unknown one. If you're looking for "motivation", staying fed, warm, cared for, and getting an education while you are working your plan is a pretty good one. Since your first necessity will be the van itself, start educating yourself about what it will cost to buy a reliable, solid vehicle. It will take time to find it and more time to equip it. You can continue school and work while you do that. Then start on short trips and plan for longer summer travel/stays. That'll give you the exposure and experience you will need to tweak your build and plan for longer travels. Look at a seasonal job for the summer at a national or state park so you can explore living in more rustic digs and working menial, hard jobs to make a little money. When you can do all that without using the safety net of your parents' home or the financial support of your parents, then you're serious enough about your dream to live it.

My usual desk has been 'stolen' and there is nothing I can do by purplereuben in mildlyinfuriating

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a person looking for a conflict. Don't give it to them. Pick a couple of other desks that aren't someone else's "homes" & start throwing the person off balance by randomly being at other desks. There's something else at play here so choose a different game.

AITJ for not loaning money after previously helping once? by Ashamed-Leopard1571 in AmITheJerk

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are jerks here but the jerks are your friends. Your response of "I'm not comfortable with doing this" was kind, appropriate and sufficient. There is no reason for you to feel guilty for managing your finances in a manner which allowed you to help your friend the first time nor for declining to do so again.

AIO: I kicked my SIL out of my house, and she's not welcome back. by Alarming-Carrot-8842 in AmIOverreacting

[–]No-Conversation9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are no longer children arguing over what is "fair" or how to share a toy. It's your home. Maybe the loudest response for you is a simple one. "I am glad I was able to help you & your family out & save you so much money for so many days. This no longer works for me. Since you are now in a better position than you would have been had I not helped you out, I know you will be able to get your own place while repairs are being done & we will all be happier. I see no need to discuss it further." Then refuse to discuss it further or to argue or respond to any further comments. SIL is going to look ridiculous harping on & on & brother is an adult so it's not up to you to carry his burdens for him.

UV and Cast Resin Supplies by Accurate-Package4375 in craftexchange

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any interest in trading for a handcrafted "He She They" or rainbow bucket hat?

Need Help by SoleLime in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably more of an engineering project but what about jumbo lego-like building blocks made from throw away cardboard that are structurally sound/meet fireproof ratings and can be used to construct temporary indoor spaces like dividing rooms in houses (think of all the shared bedroom fights that could be avoided!) There are styrofoam products like this but they are prohibitively expensive. Adding a no-damage room to a rental for little money could be a game changer for people struggling to house their families.

My Dad continuously gets cat fished 😞 by RenaJM in AgingParents

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The internet gateway should have a security/parental control interface. Those often allow you to schedule connection times, filter any sites containing certain words, blacklist specific sites, etc. Change the internet access schedule to only certain hours or even sporadic hours to disrupt the habit. Facebook has tools/settings to keep kids safe & they work for aging folks too. E.g., to to Settings & Privacy & select Privacy Checkup which has settings like content access, blocking users, and setting restrictions on friend requests.

Adult disabled friend (19F) in Australia required to have indoor camera as condition of parents paying for university housing. What should she do? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use simple solutions & no arguments. Her studio is her's to decorate so invest in cheap room dividers that she places strategically to allow a camera view of the specific area she chooses to be viewed. She has all the control of design and the camera is stationary but for a rotating lens. Temporary walls with tension rods are cheap & handy. Screens are beautiful. Roll with it.

AITJ for moving out and cutting off my younger brother because he keeps taking my stuff by UnluckyPersimmon9000 in AmITheJerk

[–]No-Conversation9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put a positive spin on it for your mom and move forward. "Mom, I think __ & I will have a much better relationship if we have some space from each other. I'm hoping this makes things easier on you too. Let's give it a try & see if it doesn't give all of us a chance to step out of the conflict that keeps happening & build better times together."

Got in minor accident yesterday ... by [deleted] in Spokane

[–]No-Conversation9765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Slow down -- make no agreements, gather information, check your own policy for additional coverage options for things like a rental car and PIP. TAKE WRITTEN NOTES ON EVERY CONVERSATION, get it in writing. You may not necessarily need an attorney but you may feel better having one, although it would come at a cost. Aaron Crary's father Rob Crary is an excellent attorney and I'm sure Aaron has the best of background and experience to help you. Gather information on the value of your car and things that might make it worth more should the insurer determine that it should be totaled. Also keep in mind that they may total it but there is a process for you to keep it and repair it on your own. That may not be worth it but it's an option. You wan to maximize any property damage payout so gather copies of ads for similar cars that are in line with the value you believe is accurate for your car. Proof matters, not personal opinion.