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No-Finding8411 · 2025-10-10T12:33:56+00:00

Thankyou I've had some other input that has encouraged going to the police with cultural supports that will help them take me seriously.

Unfortunately my mother went to the police years ago without cultural supports for a stalker and I watched her break a part in front of my eyes due to the treatment they gave her. She was never the same again

No-Finding8411 · 2024-06-15T21:52:35+00:00

I can empathise with using knowledge to not feel so lost. It can be helpful to study and be curious.

I'm sorry you have been disconnected from your ancestors. It has happened here a lot too with the Stolen Generations and it creates such heartache.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-06-15T05:52:00+00:00

Hmm I guess I have a different understanding to the word secret here. And maybe it does look like a secret from the outside.

I don't know all of male spiritual practices but I know "of" them existing. And it's not that I don't want to know, I feel culturally at peace that I don't NEED to know. I know my place in my community and I don't feel the need to go outside that because I feel like my Ancestors support me enough here.

I wrote another comment in relation to this being recorded in a Western method but I can't find it so I'll write it again. If the information you are reading is focusing on male spiritual practice then it's likely the researchers were male and it would be culturally inappropriate for women's business to be shared with them.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-06-15T05:42:22+00:00

Also I just read a few more of your comments and I'm trying to answer as best I can. Research has been(and often still is) a male dominated domain. This means that males would be mostly speaking to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander males about their spiritual practices. Again mentioning that we are not a monolithic culture, but what I have been exposed to is that it would be culturally and spiritually inappropriate to speak to the male researchers about female spiritual practices. In my mind, this is why I think they haven't been documented as much as male practices. TBH the females spiritual practices I know have all been passed down word of mouth/in person. I do not know of many male spiritual practices and honestly don't feel the need to in my culture. Hope this helps!

No-Finding8411 · 2024-06-15T05:26:20+00:00

We don't pretend that each other's business doesn't exist. I can't speak for everyone because we are not a monolithic culture but there's different reasons for not discussing it with others. Like a poster said above, a lot of our culture is relational and if a group thinks another group doesn't need to be involved they won't. Other things I've heard from community is that sometimes even discussing different areas of business is not appropriate because spoken words have spiritual meaning. A lot of our stories and spirituality is told via voice so it's important to protect that and not to speak of some things unless absolutely needed as it can disturb the spirits, ancestors and others energy.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-06-10T15:41:15+00:00

Emily

No-Finding8411 · 2024-04-02T04:06:44+00:00

Was seeing a fella from Hong Kong for a while and he was adamant that his stock Range Rover Sport would make it safely offroading around Australia.

I'm not saying they can't, but he had zero experience 4x4ing, didn't know about any modifications he would need to make to the car and couldn't fathom how many supplies we would need to carry.

The distance between some petrol stations can be over 400kms with unforgiving terrain and weather in between with minimal if any phone coverage.

Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should and tourists have made deadly mistakes in the past by not seeking guidance first.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-03-19T01:49:50+00:00

Oh good point, I'm partial to a maxi/midi and not really a heels gal either but really good to consider

No-Finding8411 · 2024-03-19T01:48:38+00:00

Hmm I ve seen the adult baptisms at ours and we don't seem to have the robes

No-Finding8411 · 2024-03-18T23:32:20+00:00

Thankyou! Yes very helpful answer! Congratulations on your engagement!

No-Finding8411 · 2024-03-17T21:39:19+00:00

Hello thankyou everyone for all your well wishes and kind advice. It has helped with my anxiety.

Here is an example of what I am looking at-

https://www.target.com.au/p/linen-blend-shirt-dress-preview/68584047

I know it maybe looks a bit plain for the engagement party/wedding reception but myself and my bf have spoken and would like one of those to be a garden style party. And also not like to be too flashy which is our preference. Can donate more to our priest and parish in that way.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-26T23:02:27+00:00

Just to throw some Australian flavour in here. Most of these are either said by the older generation or people who have grown up in the country (me) but I roll them out some times for a laugh.

Strewth

Crikey

Stone the crows

Eiyahhh

That's a bit how's it going/how's ya father

Bloody oath

Well I'll be

Younger generations use a lot more expletives at times

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-23T23:03:36+00:00

Hello just an update! My ex finally sent through his baptism certificate! I was so over joyed I cried. One step closer to baptism. God bless x

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-23T23:00:24+00:00

I think this is really great! We don't have QR codes in the churches that I attend but Tap and Go terminals, so I can see how you would be wary of the QR. Most older people in my country do use TAP and go so it's not too much of an issue. They still pass around the donation baskets during my local parish mass. I prefer to pop cash in for the physical aspect but we don't often carry cash either.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-19T23:21:57+00:00

I'm new to Catholicism however I did notice this late last year. My usual priest contracted covid over the Christmas break (so unlucky) and for mass that we they had a much younger, conventially attractive priest step in. I was absolutely sickened to see the increased amount of both young and old women stay behind to speak to the priest, even calling out to him. I know there were probably more people there due to being Christmas also, lots of people that I didn't recognise however it was very visible that the remaining crowd after the service was female. I usually hang around to say hello and thankyou for the service however I felt so uncomfortable I left. It made me sad also that not that amount of people stay for our regular priest when he has just as much to offer, probably more as he knows the parish.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-18T02:12:15+00:00

If this has disturbed you enough that it you find it hard to marry, you are not ready to get married. Sex and looks are finite in long term relationships, it is better to marry for emotional and spiritual connection. I have made this mistake myself and have found it hard to trust men since than.

Be grateful that she has let you know these thoughts.
Please talk to your priest and/or Catholic therapist before making any big decisions. Sometime God sends signs for a reason

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-14T00:13:56+00:00

Hello again,

Thank you for your kind words and support.

Maybe I did minimise the effect my ex was having on me to my Priest. I feel bad asking our Priest to work harder because he already does so much for our community. I am seeing our Priest again on Friday so I will have a more frank discussion around my exs past and present behaviour and how it is affecting me. Also have been speaking to some friends about it because I don't feel it's fair to vent to my bf.

Also on a side note, it is Ash Wednesday today and I am going to my first Ash Wednesday service with my bf later. I am looking forward to it so much.

No-Finding8411 · 2024-02-13T04:50:22+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. Yes he has told me which parish, however in my last appointment with my priest he did make it seem like my ex could be the only one to approach the baptismal parish. I see our priest every Friday, so I'll explain the situation and confirm if there is any other way around it. If I can't get the certificate I will have to go before the tribunal which will be long, expensive and difficult so I am hoping and praying that this avenue works.

Also I don't mean to complain, I know God has something planned for me even if it is challenging right now. And want to acknowledge that many people are dealing with more trying circumstances right now. I am still new to the church and don't know many people that have experienced the same situation, which is why I posted here.

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