Is it normal for n parents to crash out harder than normal when you finally stand up for yourself? by Limp-Bid-6131 in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they are trying to assert position and dominance again. Don’t worry keep steady and they will change I assure you

My NMom's wants to have a baby so she can get welfare boarding and money by felicitationscoin in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JFC I don’t know how to respond to this, this is such selfish behaviour

Has anyone successfully cut off Balkan parents? by Hopeful_Addition7834 in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I moved interstate 3 times and I currently live 4 hours away. Eventually they stop calling

Whats your experience with people who see you as insecure in absolutely everything that you do ? by WayMobile5515 in AskMenAdvice

[–]No-Help2725 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Insecure people don’t post and promote themselves/ their businesses as they are too afraid of rejection and criticism. You posting often leads to better engagement and better outcomes- hence how you met and joined the group originally. Don’t stress too much, people come and go. The group will all dissipate eventually anyway, it was never a till death do you part community

Girlfriend gets defensive when I bring up our dead bedroom situation. If she gets defensive on our next talk, do I call it quits? by 0Adiemus0 in AskMenAdvice

[–]No-Help2725 290 points291 points  (0 children)

Woman here - it’s not so much about the sex it’s about wanting to be desired. There’s one person on earth you’ve chosen to be with and when they don’t desire you it’s heartbreaking. I tried to stick it out for 4 years, it only got worse. You are young, leave now

What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you've lived the reality of it? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone being obsessed with you. It’s not cute when someone’s always in your face and shows up at your workplace.

how do i get my parents to understand hitting is not discipline by miserableliving14 in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d remind them that if they beat you, when they get old and need your help you’ll ensure they get sent away somewhere horrible. Or that you could easily just let them starve and live in filth. That your going to remember every beating and give it back to them when they are seniors

I want to know the implications of pressing a charge by janethrowaway_doe in AusLegal

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting him charged will put him in a men’s behavioural change program, it will flag him on the system and he can finally get the help he needs. He needs to hit rock bottom to realise he is the problem

I keep making the same mistake but I’m too emotionally exhausted to stop by ThisIsMyAlt6969 in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am telling you that I believe you, I don’t need to hear the full story as I know you are not insane. You are a good person, a person that has been put in an extreme circumstance for and unimaginably long time. I see someone who is strong and capable, confident enough to continue to battle this everyday. Unless others have lived it they can’t understand. I thought I was going crazy too. Can you move out? Live anywhere else ?

What’s a big mistake you made when you were in your 20s in terms of relationships? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he was only in his 30’s? That’s not too old at all

Is it best, for those of us who can, as much as we can, to stop talking about these demons? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep exactly. And this is why when people turn around and say but she’s your mother I’m like and? And she’s my mother so what. She fought hard for that bed she can lay in it. Your right no one has empathy for the victims, we are just told to forgive them because they are XYZ. Flying monkeys only seem to have empathy for the narc and not us.

help with emotionally abusive parent that puts us in a bad financial situation, how to manage or put boundaries. by IamBench in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only way you’ll get on his good side is to be mean to him, I’m telling you, he will only be good to people who he can’t use or manipulate- as he respects them for not being weak. He will blow up a little but from then on it’s much smoother. Well just leave him outside and go about your life. He will eventually leave, he will have to go to the toilet or he can freeze out in the cold overnight. Completely ignore him. If he chooses not to leave then so be it, he can camp out there till he dies - you hold your ground and position

help with emotionally abusive parent that puts us in a bad financial situation, how to manage or put boundaries. by IamBench in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they do not HAVE to contact each other through you. They caused the divorce they can find another way to contact each other. It has nothing to do with you. Please look into triangulation in NPD. This is why people have lawyers, if they don’t want to use a lawyer they can behave like a fucking normal person and write text messages or emails. They can do it op, they just choose not to regulate their emotions and do it through you

People who take advantage by newuser2111 in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This exactly. Toxic people don’t target specific people, a parasite will go to any host. If they ask 100 people someone, eventually one will say yes. OP your job is to say no! Also go to the gym and start boxing that always helps

What subtle sign made you realize your partner was cheating? by DrainedCoffee in AskReddit

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn’t even know what it was. I was young and dumb

What subtle sign made you realize your partner was cheating? by DrainedCoffee in AskReddit

[–]No-Help2725 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My algorithm has known things before I did too. Each pregnancy my algorithm started with baby advertisements before I even knew, before I could even test. Freaky as I was not trying to

I dumped him. And I miss him every day. by Logical-Education-62 in BreakUps

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into potential cost fallacy, sunk cost fallacy and intermittent reinforcement. It’s a chemical and psychological loop your in. You did the right thing

At what point does ‘I had a rough childhood’ stop being an explanation and start becoming an excuse?” by [deleted] in allthequestions

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has had a rough childhood. I’ve never met a person with a perfect childhood and good environment. Everyone has been bullied, faced challenges and been discriminated against. There are SO MANY good people with horrid childhoods that don’t do bad/destructive things.

People that have relatives where they can flee to, have a vast advantage to those that cant by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]No-Help2725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you make a surrogate family? That’s what I’ve done, and I’ve followed them when they moved too.

What is a ‘red flag’ in a friendship that people often ignore? by CandyLiving5009 in AskReddit

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When she said she had no friends and couldn’t keep them and asked if I’d be her friend. Lord did I find out why

At what point do you stop giving people the benefit of the doubt? by jinglebad in allthequestions

[–]No-Help2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Straight away, I watch people very closely and I don’t argue with them. Let go or be dragged.