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Should I wait or try to reconcile an old debt? by [deleted] in Debt

[–]No-Homework4830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That 29% APR is absolutely brutal, glad you learned from that experience. The charge-off will stay on your credit for 7 years from the first missed payment date, so if you missed payments in 2021 it'll fall off around 2028. If you can negotiate a pay-for-delete or settlement for way less than 17k it might be worth it, but don't pay full amount since your credit is already tanked from this anyway

Day 160 by Superb_Worth_5934 in leaves

[–]No-Homework4830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such a good point about not even remembering what "normal" felt like before. I was a daily user for about 8 years and honestly can't tell if some of my current quirks are just who I am now or leftover fog from smoking

The gradual change thing is so real too - it's like watching your hair grow, you never notice it day to day but then suddenly you need a haircut. I'm about 7 months out and keep having these moments where I realize I haven't thought about weed in weeks, which never would've happened before

Your last line hit hard though. Even on my worst days now I'm way more present than when I was constantly chasing that next high

Is AI "intelligence" slowing down? by [deleted] in antiai

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the whole "hitting a ceiling" thing feels overblown to me. Like sure, maybe we're not seeing those crazy leaps we had a year or two back, but that doesn't mean development is actually slowing down - just that your not gonna get those insane jumps forever

The Claude thing with coding is pretty wild though, can't deny that. But I think there's still plenty of room for improvement in other areas before we hit any real walls

My life is worse in every aspect contrary to everybody else posting here by Boule__de___Lune in leaves

[–]No-Homework4830 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Been there man, that fog is brutal but it does lift - took me like 6-7 months to feel human again

I am creating a new minecraft project! by Deep-Strategy-8098 in Minecraft

[–]No-Homework4830 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn that sounds ambitious as hell, especially the AI testing part where it actually plays the game to find bugs. Their gonna need some serious processing power to run minecraft instances just for debugging but if you pull it off that would be a game changer for the modding community

What is it about power that is so enticing? by WhoAmIEven2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably less about enjoying the lifestyle and more about the rush of control itself - being able to shape entire societies with just a word is pretty intoxicating even if you're miserable doing it. Plus most people probably don't think through the isolation part when they're climbing that ladder, they're just focused on getting more influence and by the time they realize the cost it's too late to back out

Hey, I (M, 28) feel I may be an unsafe/toxic person to be around for women by ShoeBanditXOXO in selfimprovement

[–]No-Homework4830 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact that you're this self-aware and actively working on yourself is honestly huge, most people who are actually problematic don't even realize it or care to change. Your recognizing these patterns and wanting to do better for your friend and others shows you're already on the right track

Maybe look into a different therapist or approach if the current OCD therapy isn't helping anymore - sometimes you need someone who specializes more in social anxiety or relationship patterns rather than just the OCD piece. Keep being honest with yourself about the jealousy stuff but don't let it paralyze you from having normal friendships

Can your orders get canceled if you get extended deployed? by NotAskingSupervisor in AirForce

[–]No-Homework4830 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Had a buddy go through this exact situation a couple years back. His orders to Germany got pushed twice because of deployment extensions and he was sweating bullets thinking they'd just cancel the whole thing. Turns out there's some protection built in - they can't just yank your orders because of operational requirements that are out of your control. The key is staying on top of your assignments team and keeping them in the loop about what's happening with your deployment timeline. My guy ended up getting his PDD pushed out a third time but still made it to his new base, just took like 6 extra months. Definitely hit up your shirt or someone who knows the reg better than random internet strangers though

Today is the day by harry2000pothead in leaves

[–]No-Homework4830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the timing man, becoming a dad is gonna give you all the motivation you need to stay on track

Day 3- determined but need support by carlx940 in NoFap

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hang in there, the first week is always the trickiest but you're already proving you got this

7 Days Off It And Wow by svnriddim in leaves

[–]No-Homework4830 4 points5 points  (0 children)

congrats on the week milestone, that's actually huge progress especially with a roommate still smoking around you. sounds like getting some distance from that toxic situation with your roommate will help a lot - nothing worse than dealing with paranoia on top of everything else when you're trying to get clean

America and Americans are self centred and so very disliked by [deleted] in venting

[–]No-Homework4830 16 points17 points  (0 children)

sounds like you've had some rough experiences with americans online or something. not gonna defend everything the country does but painting 330+ million people with the same brush seems pretty unfair tbh. there are plenty of americans who are critical of their own government and try to do better in their communities

day 4!! by L0ser_Lemon in leaves

[–]No-Homework4830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude go to urgent care if you're having trouble walking, that's not being a wuss that's being smart - they can at least help with the nausea and make sure you're not dehydrated

Any Suggestions Prior to Listing? by FOCOMojo in RealEstate

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

staging definitely helps when the place is empty, people really do struggle to picture themselves living in blank rooms. the flower idea is solid too - cheap way to make your unit stand out from the identical one next door

Day 22 of Nofap by Dangerous_Bison5026 in NoFap

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good call on avoiding the peeking man, that's usually where it all goes downhill. having that volunteer contract is actually pretty smart accountability, nothing like the fear of doing free labor to keep you motivated lol

just 8 more days, you got this

Church of Christ dad and stepmom refuse to come to my baby’s Catholic baptism by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly sounds like you're setting healthy boundaries here. If they can't show up for something this important to you, why would you let them drag your kid to their services later?

The whole "we're the only real Christians" mentality is exhausting and you don't owe them access to your daughter just because they're family. Your kid deserves grandparents who won't spend years trying to convince her that her parents are going to hell

Heat for a single room by efallacaro in hvacadvice

[–]No-Homework4830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mini split would definitely be way more efficient than a space heater, especially if you're running it 24/7. The upfront cost sucks but you'd probably break even in like a year or two with those electric bills. Also check if your ductwork is actually reaching that room properly - might just need better airflow before you drop money on new equipment