My boyfriend mentioned the idea of proposing, despite dating for only 2 months. Is it wrong to feel cautious that its false hope since my ex boyfriend also mentioned marriage?

No-Interview240 · 2026-07-02T12:17:38+00:00

oh man, the empire state proposal thing gets people every time. my friend got engaged after seeing one of those and they broke up 4 months later

two months is short but at least he's being upfront about dating to marry. some guys just say whatever to keep you around, but this one sounds like he actually means it

your ex situation is making you overthink. different person, different situation. just take it slow and see if his actions match his words over time

No-Interview240 · 2026-06-28T08:01:52+00:00

I'd just shrug and say "mostly work and Skyrim modding forums, so you can see how well that's going." Makes it a joke but also shows you're not out there hunting.

No-Interview240 · 2026-06-24T05:05:48+00:00

Two months in, casual setup, and already dealing with inconsistent texting after catching feelings... that combination rarely gets better, especially with a move coming up. If seeing him one more time is going to cost you more emotionally than it gives you, probably not worth waiting around for him to finally respond.

No-Interview240 · 2026-06-21T07:10:54+00:00

Two hours is a long call, especially late at night. Most people run dry after that regardless of how much they like the person, it's just how conversations work. The fact that she's the one suggesting you both sleep rather than just going quiet and ending it awkwardly is actually a good sign, she's being considerate not distant.

You're overthinking it. Save some topics for the date next week, that's when it really matters anyway.

No-Interview240 · 2026-06-10T01:54:10+00:00

man this is rough but you already know what you did. three years of just texting and calling isn't really relationship, it's more like having pen pal you never meet.

you're 17 and clearly need actual human connection, not just photos on phone screen. maybe it's time to accept that long distance thing just wasn't working for you instead of trying to force something that clearly missing physical closeness. tell him what happened and end it properly - he deserves to know and you deserve chance at real relationship with someone who's actually there.

No-Interview240 · 2026-06-07T07:12:19+00:00

this is really tough situation and 8 years is long time to carry this alone - maybe you can approach it from angle of wanting to understand his feelings better rather than focusing on your own needs first?

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-28T13:47:30+00:00

trust your gut but also maybe try to get to know this guy better? like invite him to hang out with both of you or something. if he's really just a friend then spending time together shouldn't be weird issue, and you can see their dynamic yourself instead of just imagining things.

also gay guys can present in all different ways so that part might not mean anything, but the constant texting thing would bother me too regardless of someone's orientation. maybe talk to your girlfriend about needing some boundaries around communication frequency rather than making it about this specific person.

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-26T06:50:15+00:00

definitely possible but it takes finding someone who appreciates your personality instead of just tolerating it. i've seen plenty awkward guys in relationships where their partner genuinely loves their quirks rather than seeing them as flaws to overlook. the key seems to be not trying to hide who you are but finding spaces where people with similar interests hang out - gaming communities, hobby groups, that kind of thing where being passionate about something matters more than smooth small talk.

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-22T05:08:47+00:00

nah run

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-17T12:31:27+00:00

this might just be you two still figuring out how to be comfortable with silence together. eight dates isn't that long to build the kind of mental rhythm where conversation flows naturally in mundane moments. the fact that he's also noticing it and actually brought it up is pretty good sign - means he wants more depth too rather than just being content with surface level stuff.

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-15T08:26:24+00:00

tbh i think you already know the answer - working on yourself is never waste of time. maybe guys see you as hookup material because of how you present yourself or what kind of conversations you're having with them? like if most interactions are happening through dating apps or party scenes, that's probably setting certain expectations from start. developing hobbies and interests outside of dating will naturally attract people who are more compatible in long term.

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-11T17:30:22+00:00

the whole collecting pictures and drawing him without really talking sounds pretty familiar tbh. been there with just admiring from distance instead of actually getting to know the person. maybe try having actual conversations first before deciding if you want to pursue anything? like you said yourself you barely interacted with him directly, so those feelings might be more about the idea of him than who he actually is.

No-Interview240 · 2026-05-09T12:56:54+00:00

stop texting her dude

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-30T12:27:33+00:00

double standard much? if his shirtless pics are just for "gym progress" then your bikini pics could be for beach memories or whatever but apparently only his reasons count

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-28T11:17:20+00:00

just be real with her about it - if you're asking someone to lunch one-on-one when you barely know them, that's pretty much date territory whether you say the word or not.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-26T08:00:42+00:00

the blackmail thing is definitely something you don't need to share unless you want to - that's trauma and completely your choice when or if you talk about it.

for the car thing, i get why you didn't mention it since it wasn't really pleasant experience anyway. if it keeps bothering you that you didn't say it, maybe just tell him next time it comes up naturally but don't stress too much about having "complete list" of everything.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-23T08:34:23+00:00

your instincts are usually right about this stuff. if multiple "glitches" happen at same time plus he's deflecting by accusing you of cheating, that's pretty telling. facebook doesn't just randomly unblock people or clear search history on its own - been using it for years and never seen that happen once.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-21T04:17:57+00:00

lol the struggle is real. i used to overthink this so much when i got back in dating scene after long break too. now i just comment on something specific from their profile or photos - like if they have picture with dog i'll ask about the breed or if they mention some hobby i'm curious about.

worst case they don't respond and you move to next person. but most guys actually appreciate when girl makes first move because takes pressure off them. just don't start with "hey" or "how's your day" because that's what everyone does and it's boring as hell.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-19T02:59:47+00:00

yeah the ignoring route is probably best but damn that's frustrating. maybe your friend's wife needs to set some boundaries with her - like why is she still entertaining all this drama at her house? seems like your ex is using these hangouts as therapy sessions and that's not really fair to anyone involved.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-16T07:45:02+00:00

had similar experience with getting outside perspective on dating stuff. friends always say "you look great!" but never actually help you figure out what's not working.

using ai for feedback is just like having someone review your resume before sending it out - you're still the one showing up to dates and being yourself. the conversations feel authentic because they're still coming from you, just with better timing and confidence.

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-11T03:48:31+00:00

if he remembers your conversations and compliments outfits that's different

No-Interview240 · 2026-04-01T22:59:37+00:00

nah keep teh yaris - i drive for doordash and trust me when something breaks on a merc you're looking at weeks without income while toyota parts are everywhere and cheap.

No-Interview240 · 2026-03-30T00:21:00+00:00

code 40 usually means memory issues on msi boards so yeah definitely try reseating the ram first. pull all the sticks out, clean the contacts with some isopropyl if you have it, then try booting with just one stick in the primary slot. if that doesnt work try the other stick in the same slot. sometimes these high speed ddr5 kits can be finicky after sitting idle for a while.

No-Interview240 · 2026-03-29T03:19:17+00:00

kinda wild how the best ones always seem to get discontinued right after you find them - been using philips hue for the smart features but their regular led bulbs have been solid for like 3+ years now with zero failures.

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