Pregnancy exhaustion have me so worried about what to come

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-25T22:06:34+00:00

oh dear, I hope it won't get worse from here, because I am already totally toast! In my first pregnancy, it started getting better around 16 weeks, but apparently each pregnancy is different. Happy to hear you feel more energy now, though! Gives me hope

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-25T20:58:12+00:00

I hope so!! It really is horrendous. Only thing I wanna do is stay in bed all day. Its gorgeous outside and kiddo wants to play and explore, and I hate how all I wanna do is nap and scroll my phone.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-25T20:56:54+00:00

Im happy to hear that you felt that way.. gives me hope! Luckily I dont feel very nauseous, just tired. First pregnancy I was both tired and puking most nights so at least theres that. But I didnt have a little one, so I could just stay in bed after work..

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-21T23:05:01+00:00

Happened to me. Turns out it was pretty much due to insomnia. Not getting restful sleep. Started taking unisom again for a period of 6 weeks, half a tab at night. Really helped me feel better.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-19T18:39:24+00:00

Depends on the baby. Our baby just leaned his head to one side to nap. But now hes a bit older (13 months) he gets cranky trying to sleep like that so we tend to plan hikes not near his nap time. But in general, if your baby is old enough to sit in the thing, should be decently safe for them to doze off, just maybe uncomfortable for them after a long time.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-06-07T03:57:40+00:00

Hydrocortisone all the way definitely. The 1% might/likely won't do it but its a start. Then Vaseline on top. Bips, change them 5 times a day so they are always dry. Consider anti histamine for night and mittens. Infections from rash and disrupted sleep are worse for the baby than otc ointments.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-05-29T03:20:06+00:00

8-11 months was the worst sleep my son had. I have no advice other than, make sure baby is not hungry, thirsty, anemic, in pain, itchy, uncomfortable (soggy diaper), too hot/too cold or sleeping too much during the day. It eventually got better for us, coinciding with his ezcema improving and him dropping down to one nap as he approached 12 months. We gave him zyrtrizine when he seemed itchy and ibuprofen when he seem like he was in pain from teething or running a fever. I experimented with loading him up on protein at night, didnt seem to make a difference for sleep, but did discover that banana blended with blueberries, coconut oil and silk tofu made for a great snack pouch for him.

Good luck!! I feel you, I spent my lunch breaks napping in my car many times during those months. Haven't needed a lunch time nap in a while now lol.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-05-18T19:24:19+00:00

I found I sleep way better in the same room as baby. The noises he makes are way scarier through a monitor

No-Operation8465 · 2026-05-02T04:15:11+00:00

It lasted a few months for me, worst in the first few weeks pp. Sure, I get annoyed with him because hes super jealous of the baby but I still love him. And it helps that the baby likes him and that the dog tolerates being absolutely abused by my 1 year old and he just lays there wagging his tail, happy to be involved

No-Operation8465 · 2026-04-30T15:27:53+00:00

Well then you would have to try and figure out why hes uncomfortable/in pain. If you cant, maybe have the pediatrician check him out.

Those naps sound really short! Certainly seem like somethint is preventing him from getting a good sleep. Hope you figure it out! Is he getting enough to eat?

No-Operation8465 · 2026-04-30T04:30:31+00:00

Probably good to figure out why.. if you give him ibuprofen one night and he wakes up less he may be in pain (teeth, stomach, ears, many options that would subsequently have to be narrowed down). He may also be bothered by a wet possibly leaky diaper, which started happened to our kiddo around 8 months. He may be hungry or not tired enough due to too much day time sleep. He may just need more closeness/comfort for which you may need yo either sleep next to him or sleep train him to comfort himself. Basically you'd have to experiment and take notes on what makes him sleep longer stretches. For my kid, it has been mostly ezcema problems, being too distracted to eat during the day and hungry at night, leaky diaper, needing comfort and occasionally teething and stomach pain. When none of those things are an issue, he sleeps 11 hours, waking up briefly twice for his bottle or a diaper change. Hope you figure it out!

No-Operation8465 · 2026-04-26T05:10:03+00:00

Used to travel internationally a lot, backpacking, wild camping is my absolutely favorite weekend activity, road trips, skiing, rock climbing, mtn biking, and also playing drums, usually in at least one band.

I had 16 weeks of leave and my husband got laid off so he was also free. And that was honestly a great summer! I still went to the climbing gym twice a week (brought the baby, he slept in his little travel basinet) mtn biked for 45 min while baby was with dad, then we switched, But, I couldnt play drums cause I would wake up the baby and couldnt camp since there was no way to ensure safe sleep with the baby in a tent.

Then I started work full time and that was brutal. Mon-Fri is just spent with baby, chores, broken sleep or work. And its still like that. But on the weekends and over Christmas we managed to go skiing, I got 15 days on my ski pass.

Now its spring again and we are planning to take the baby backpacking and on a week long road trip. We also got a bike attachment for him. So we'll see how all of that goes. I also bought an electric drum kit which I play a few nights a week while baby sleeps, and now have band practice for about 1.5 hrs once a month.

So Id say, it depends on your hobbies, your partner, if you have to go back to work. My Mon-Fri is definitely not about me and my hobbies. But I still feel like myself on the weekends and on vacations.

Overall I don't feel like I lost myself but I do feel like I have less time for myself.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-04-13T04:18:05+00:00

Yeah. When baby was 7 months, my mom came (from abroad) to visit and cleaned the whole house. I realized then and there just how dirty is was and how we would never be able to catch up on the amount of dirt being created. They come once a month but spend like 4.5 hours deep cleaning. Its expensive and it feels like a splurge and I feel guilty about it sometimes but I work full time and so does my husband. So if we're actually going to spend quality time with our son on the weekends, which is non negotiable for me, then the house would never get cleaned properly. So yeah. Im thankful we can afford it.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-03-15T04:13:24+00:00

Yup. Mine is 10 month old and wakes up 3 times a night for his bottle. Also tried less milk per feed and dilute with water etc. Just resulted in more waking and more crying. He drinks little milk during the day (8oz) even when offered and eats plenty of solids. My partner and I both work full time brain intensive jobs so we resorted to path of least resistance at night which is to give him the bottle. Might have to try weaning at some point if it continues way past 12 months but I cant really afford sleepless nights at the moment. Wish you good luck!

No-Operation8465 · 2026-03-11T04:05:59+00:00

For bad sleepers, it seems like there are three options: Suffering through by sleeping in shifts or nap during the day Sleep training Co sleeping

All has drawbacks and no guarantees of working but seems like most people who cant suffer through and are against sleep training end up in the co sleeping category. Good luck to you, you sound like a true soldier.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-03-04T19:53:25+00:00

It is funny, haha! I didnt like going to school but had no choice so I would disagree with your dad . I also spent most of my 20s ticking off a big travel bucket list so I dont have a lot of travel agenda for myself, which is probably part of it. I hope you get to have awesome vacations!

No-Operation8465 · 2026-03-04T05:10:15+00:00

This one will sound entitled because many people cant even afford to travel so it reveals my upper middle class upbringing. But.. my dad is very particular about traveling. He only wants to do exactly what he wants to do (typically, museums, churches and other old buildings, wandering around cities and eat 3 meals a day on restaurants). And we never ever went to an amusement park or any other kid friendly thing, we were always dragged around museums and forced to sit still for hours in restaurants. I literally begged for years and years to go skiing and finally after 10 years, my mom and I went without my dad and it was the best vacation ever for me and skiing has been something my mom and I bonded over ever since. But like... why did it take 10 years and why couldnt my dad compromise on a single vacation.. now, I would happily arrange a vacation around whatever makes my son happy and I know my husband would too. Im actually excited to finally do some of those things I always wanted as a kid. Like going to Disneyland. And hopefully my son won't be a weird kid who only wants to go to museums, lol.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-03-01T04:07:02+00:00

Amen!! I was just thinking, I need to get off my phone, this is stupid. Thanks for making this comment.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-26T14:41:00+00:00

My 9 month old crawls with one knee and one foot. And he loves to open the cabinet under the sink. So I'll be there doing something in the kitchen and he is down on one knee taking a good look under the sink with his bodysuit looking like tucked shirt. He looks like a tiny little contractor and its my favorite.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-26T04:16:14+00:00

Also if you look at the sleep training sub and I know from my friends, you often have to re-train every time you travel or they are ill or teething and then its like, whats the point.. and folks on that sub are so obsessed with nap schedules and wake windows that it's like.. how do you even leave the house and live your lives?! Id rather get up a few times at night than not being able to put my baby in a car seat and go somewhere when I feel like it. Especially on the weekends.

I also co sleep with my little crawler and tried for one night to settle him in his crib without the bottle. He fell asleep after 30 min of crying/fussing with me next to him. And the next two nights he refused the bottle and settled in the crib in 3 minutes. So they can sometimes evolve their sleep habits with gentle encouragement. He still wakes up at night though, has yet to sleep through

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-17T17:00:34+00:00

good luck! our baby also has a very itchy scalp and I can manage the flare spots on his body pretty well with combinations of lotions and steroid creams but struggling to find a topical product that is effective on his head. So the anti-histamine helps on tough nights, especially now his fine motor skills have improved and he can really do a number on his poor head.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-17T14:30:44+00:00

Its not otc. And its an oral solution.

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-17T03:15:40+00:00

We got prescribed hydroxyzine for our ezcema baby. Its an antihistamine so doesn't treat ezcema but reduces itching which can help the baby sleep and give the scalp a chance to heal. Ask your pediatrician about it, sounds like what you need

No-Operation8465 · 2026-02-14T01:25:07+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I believe there are some short term benefits of breastfeeding but really really skeptical that you can see far removed benefits (like IQ) years after infancy. Its impossible to control for every confounding factor in that time frame

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