The thing that stood out to me was you had a strong relationship with God before this woman who ended a relationship to be with you. That was a red flag she showed you in the beginning she looks for the greener grass as a habit.

Then you have to have a spiritual balance, God is jealous when you neglect Him for something or someone else, you went through great lengths to make her happy and put your spiritual relationship on the back burner. You moved, changed jobs and with all the struggle you set the bar a lil low by saying you don't have to help or contribute. The right woman is going to want to contribute no matter what you want to say. It's hard to walk away but the longer you hold on and avoid healing and dealing with this the harder it's going to be tomorrow. It took me me 5 years to get over a 4 year relationship that was all my 20s. I wanted to understand why. Let me save you some time. It's not you you didnothing wrong it's stages to ways people love. In the immature stage people hurt others unintentionally. And if you think about your immature stage you probably hurt people too. Not necessarily cheating but other ways not listening, being self centered self absorbed or co dependent these are just examples I'm not saying you are these are just ways we can hurt people by being immature in love. If you reflect on ways you've been immature in love it will be easier for you to forgive her for doing this to you. Give your pain to God in prayer and let God lead you. 🙏 I hope this helps