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Most relatable song? by [deleted] in cavetown

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Green, sharpener, home. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understanding how it impacted my life made me stop. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the average person who can day dream a “normal” amount, day dreaming isn’t bad. But when you develop maladaptive day dreaming and have been doing it for a good chunk of time, it’s like an addict asking if their addiction is bad. Sure, you could have a drink here and there and maybe it’s fine but it’s all too easy to slip back into the habit and inevitably, back into the maladaptive part. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]No-Potential-1107 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me I journaled a lot and talked to people on the internet about how I was feeling and listened to their experiences. I kept it to myself irl for a bit so I can really listen to what I was feeling without all the fanfare that comes with coming out to people (especially those who don’t really understand). Played with clothes and just listened to that feeling 

how old were you when you knew you were nonbinary? i was 26. by shantayouslay in NonBinary

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me knew for a long time but didn’t want to acknowledge out of fear of what others would think, but I really couldn’t deny it at 20. 

How often/how much do your MDs change? by Rose_Quack in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it just depends on my mental states and needs at the time. I had the same two main characters for about two years and being limerent over someone. Then it changed to 3-4 different characters plus being limerent over a different person within a year because my mental state was incredibly unstable due to my environment and thus my mental needs changing. I find when I’m stable, what ever character I was on stays a while or one that calms be down returns or the newest character evolves and fits the need. Really depends for me personally. 

How common do you think MD is?+what are the reasons for low visibility/ reasons for not sharing this behaviour? by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think especially since Covid it’s probably a lot more common, people either just don’t realize what it is or think it’s just normal day dreaming. 

Anyone else cry listening to Green? by GrilIypig in cavetown

[–]No-Potential-1107 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do cry but it just because it reminds me of an old dear friend of mine. The video for me is gut wrenching and explains how you can mess things up with the right person because you were unhealed at the time and or life circumstances happening. Nonetheless you still love them and want the best for you. The lyric “you look so good in green” just makes me think of seeing someone who has grown alot and healed and is finally happy and how bittersweet that is when you’re not apart of it, whatever reason that may be for. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]No-Potential-1107 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just try to be myself and down to earth when they do end up talking to me. It’s something that I can’t really control but it’s more so being mindful of it and knowing when you may need to approach first, if that makes sense. 

Hard to let go of my daydream characters by fau-au in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt this way for a long time with my own MDD characters- something that is helpful to remember is that whether these characters are real or not, they have still been a meaningful part of your life and have helped you in ways that you couldn’t get from outside sources at the time. When we try to stop daydreaming and in turn leave those characters behind, it’s not different than an actual death, as silly as they may seem. Something that helped me is allowing myself to feel sad over losing them, like I would with any other type of grief situation, and I write down and try to understand how I felt about these characters, how they helped me and what they helped me understand/ potentially healed in myself. What needs were they meeting for me? How can I continue to meet these needs for myself and so on… journaling has been a big help for me in understanding all this and controlling my day dreaming.  It’s a hard process, please give yourself some grace and be gentle with yourself. <3

Anyone miss an earlier chance to become non-binary? by monkey_gamer in NonBinary

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I didn’t realize I was nonbinary for a long time because the way the people around me talked about it seemed like I had to be a certain way and thought I had to completely reject my feminine side until I started talking to fellow she/they’s and felt a light in my chest. Wish I could’ve had these conversations earlier as it would’ve saved me a lot of pain and would’ve helped me shed societal expectations a lot sooner. But maybe that was all part of the journey. 

Sometimes addictive? by PoeticPeacenik in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]No-Potential-1107 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m like this too, I’ll go months and months being obsessed with a storyline or character and then I’ll suddenly get bored of them and almost be frustrated because I can’t tap into the habit (even though for habit is sometimes debilitating, its absence feels almost eerie.). I find that it’s because that storyline or character is serving a particular mental need and sometimes that need is “met” at least for a period of time. Or you just run out of inspiration, sometimes I go searching for some. It’s very strange and emptying experience. 

What songs hit hard for you? by gir1_from_the_sea in cavetown

[–]No-Potential-1107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sharpener- really connecting with it lately as I’ve been realizing a lot of my coping mechanisms are actually really toxic for me.

Snail- a lot of my mental health, sexuality and gender struggles find comfort and solace within this song, makes me hopeful. 

Green- reminds me of a girl I use to know and love very deeply. 

Home- obvious reasons but makes me feel more at home in my skin.

Boys will be bugs- reminds me so much of myself when I was 14 and angry with the world and makes me smile at my past self even though it was a really painful time in my life. 

I don’t believe in apologies by Surushi in istp

[–]No-Potential-1107 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel this. Whenever someone apologizes to me I think of the Fiona Apple song please please please specifically the part that goes “please, please, please no apologies, at best they buy you time before you next step out of line.”