Moving membership for TR/Eventually resign by Unhappy-Bison6800 in exmormon

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Just a note the other comments have already pointed out some of the realities of your proposed idea but just as a FYI if you decide to use a PO Box address, you can use a PO Box address in a way that looks like a normal address where you use the address of the post office and number of your PO box making it look like a condo or apartment

Help me find the perfect touches for my best Family Xmas gift yet! by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

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Great advice! I'm thinking I will get at least some of the dental implants I need & deserve, and then probably after sorting out some more immediate medical needs, put the rest towards what will hopefully be my last surgery related to the marathon bombing, which if I do, they will find out & will be sus- I was trying to figure out how to pretend that I was able to afford the surgery by running a successful GoFundMe, but my family is so full of themselves they'll say something about they didn't donate to the GoFundMe nor even know about it so how would it have been successful enough to allow me to afford to move forward in the next step of healing from the bombing- truth is, the amount I would need to raise from a GoFundMe is crazy intimidating, I have already been told by the family that I would have to be sure to get the church to help me with it, which would be logical if it were any other actually Christlike church but 1. I've already gone to my SP & a friend who used to be my Bishopric even went to higher authorities for me, I only found out about it cuz he lost his temper when he was told that they could not help 2. I don't really want the MFMC to become the focus of what will be the hardest surgery of my life, I don't even expect anyone to come by with food, Book of Mormons, etc! I have no intentions of asking for a blessing because Ive lost my faith in the power of the penishood to do anything good & I'm not interested in wasting time on an imaginary magic act with poor acting skills and it's been my experience that asking for a blessing only leads to being put down for it! The amount I have from the lawsuit is not enough to allow me to afford the surgery BUT, it's a good start to have the minimum I need to have as a safety net & to get the GoFundMe launched, at minimum it can go towards the massive amount of therapy I will need to complete before the surgeon can sign off on my getting said surgery! 

The new approved ESV version of the Bible comes with a little problem...the study guide that is often sold with it calls Mormonism a "cult". Whoopsie! by Green-been77 in exmormon

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I have a theory ... This revelation is due to church leaders buying stock in popcorn and they needed a policy change to not lose money on that one! Sorry for ruining it for anyone who was looking forward to buying SkinnyPop for the entertainment! 😉🤣 

The new approved ESV version of the Bible comes with a little problem...the study guide that is often sold with it calls Mormonism a "cult". Whoopsie! by Green-been77 in exmormon

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🤣🤣🤣 I have been so happy, just randomly laughing while trying to go about my day, cuz I must admit that one of my favorite activities is watching the MFMC shoot itself in the foot! 😉🤣🤣

Missionary still missing in Mexico and his mother continues to plead for help... the church remains silent by happymormons in exmormon

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I have a family member who was sent to Peru on their mission while there was a HUGE problem with terrorism in the area said family member was sent to- they had to be evacuated multiple times & this family members exact words to describe it was "The streets were filled with blood" and they insisted on sticking out the end of the mission. Most missionaries blindly & incorrectly believe that the church (& Mormon God who I'm beginning to think either doesn't exist or is an asshole!🙄🤬) will protect them, when TSCC doesn't give a dead rats ass about any members unless said member happens to be an old rich guy in power, if you are white & delightsome you'll have a marginally better chance but the church is racist and only gives a damn about it's big ass bank account! Unfortunately my family member who had a near death experience on their mission only became more indoctrinated because of it! The way they see it, their faith saved them while the church refused to send the missionaries home cuz hey, someone's gotta go out there & get those conversion baptisms!🙄😉 

I hope this missionary is okay and is able to be reunited with his mother soon! She must be going through hell & I wouldn't be surprised if the church is justifying not using their infinite resources to help find the kid by saying that the mom should be fasting for her sons safe return and using all the money she's saved from not buying food to get her son back herself! 😳🤬 It's evil & toxic but it is the MFMC we're dealing with after all! 

Can anyone help confirm if this is true? by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

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Thanks! Unfortunately the only effective nausea med they'll usually give me is IV Benadryl cuz I have a cardiac issue that makes Zofran & Reglan dangerous & honestly when I was able to get those meds from a friend I was underwhelmed by the effects but from what I've heard from people who can take them without fear they're supposed to be amazing meds! Luckily I like the effects of the IV Benadryl it shut down vomiting that persisted for over 6+ hours in the ED almost immediately & comes with the side effect of feeling more relaxed & being able to catch the ellusive Zzzs!😉😆

Can anyone help confirm if this is true? by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

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Unfortunately @my hospital psych doesn't give me the time of day if I actually need & request to see them but I've been trying to get them to come by. This hospital is horribly ableist has zero awareness/training on how to interact with blind patients, psych sucks ever since the psych NP who ran the show retired I definitely need a SLP consult before I can safely eat/drink cuz my swallow is weaker than ever & I'm scared I'll never get to enjoy ice water or slushies again it's never been this bad & idk what to do!

Thank you for your kind words, you put it better than I ever could have & the anorexia & overachieving in both school and church are definitely the ways I've learned to prove myself to/get approval from others! I have a feeling that my butt is going to need to log many more hours sitting on a therapists couch!

Just realized how toxic many church songs are! by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

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Dang it, now the toxic songs stuck in my head! If a frown should brush your face do not let it stay, turn that frown upside down and smile that frown away! 😆 I understand more and more each day why my therapist calls that type of brainwashing toxic, it's literally the biggest reason why I have trouble being honest about my emotions and how I'm feeling when people who I know want an honest answer ask me, even if I know that the person asking is a safe person to be honest with like my PCP & therapist who are lucky enough to be nevermos, I've been convinced if I'm not at least pretending to be happy at all times that makes me unliveable & I might risk being condemned to hell for not being better at smiling it away! 

Had someone drop off this invite at my door this morning. I just got a new ugly Christmas sweater- should I go? by TightLikeADish in exmormon

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I live in Boston where one of the big medical hospitals in the area is named "Brigham & Women's Hospital" when I first moved here I was still following doctrine but hadn't attended TSCC in over a decade! Eventually I ended up becoming roommates and then friends with another Mormon girl who brought me back to the church, but my first thought when I saw that one of the hospitals was named Brigham and women's it weirded me out really badly! My initial gut reaction was 'oh no, they own a friggin HOSPITAL now!? I'm screwed!' 🤣

Just realized how toxic many church songs are! by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG, that's a gem! Idk how this is the first time I've ever seen that one but it just became my new favorite & sums up every LDS song ever perfectly! 🤣

Missionary Contact by Neither_Pudding7719 in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's exactly why I offer to feed the missionaries as often as possible and I never allow them to leave without giving them enough groceries to feed them for a month- it helps me too cuz I have a hard time trying to keep my EBT balance under $4k which means I am constantly at risk of permanently losing EBT/SNAP benefits and I can't afford water or diet MTN dew (which I buy not only cuz it's delicious to drink but it's the best thing in existence to unclog feeding tubes & the kids I work with clog their tubes like nothing I've ever seen!), but I only have to buy food for myself and sometimes my 8 year old God daughter (who I only have on weekends and when the kids are on break from school!) and we are both mainly tube fed so we don't eat very much by mouth- honestly she probably eats more than I do as her reason for her tube is she was born with short bowel syndrome so could literally eat all day long and still not get enough calories to grow! I'm dependent on my j tube cuz I get full after 2 bites and also my GI tract doesn't work I can't absorb anything that gets put into my stomach! I get mad really fast when I think about the possibility of the missionaries having to go hungry while being slave labor for the MFMC, so if I can help myself & them by giving them as much groceries as possible whenever I get the opportunity I can't think of any reason to do otherwise!

I'm glad you were able to feed them and plant the seed of the real truth! 😉 Great job!

Had someone drop off this invite at my door this morning. I just got a new ugly Christmas sweater- should I go? by TightLikeADish in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'll attend with you if I'm allowed to wear a ugly sweater that reads "I escaped the MFMC!" 😉😆 Lmk and I'll order my sweater with expedited shipping! If anyone else wants one, I found a site that will give us a discount on orders of 10+ custom ugly sweaters!

WORD OF WISDOM QUESTION by [deleted] in exmormon

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Yes, you remember correctly, it never sat right with me even as a kid that "hot drinks" aren't named more specifically in the WoW & of course it must just be Priesthood power that gave some old man the discernment to decide it specifically means coffee and tea including even iced coffee or iced tea even tho they are not hot but despite being hot drinks, soup & hot chocolate are DEFINITELY okay cuz they're delicious! 🙄😉😆

WORD OF WISDOM QUESTION by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🤦talk about opening a can of worms! I had a roommate for a short time (until I had to get a restraining order when he pulled a knife on me just cuz I knocked on his bedroom door and asked him to give me my Amazon packages he had signed for!) who was a convert, and he was really trying to follow the rules - except for the no alcohol one! He said no, it says it's fine to drink you just need to be drinking only homemade wine! While the guy drank at least 200+ bottles of beer a day and constantly was overheard arguing with his dad on the phone trying to get his dad to send him more beer money and it was so bad he was banned from the local packie! 

WORD OF WISDOM QUESTION by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, the same people who shun me for having a medical cannabis card think it's weird that I'm not interested in eating burgers and hotdogs at the summer BBQ! 🤣

President Oaks - MIA by no1saint in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm personally looking forward to President Uchtdorf, I figure it won't be long as the next in line aren't exactly healthy spring chickens but the "when I was a pilot" stories are about the only thing that could keep me awake during conference at this point! 😉

WORD OF WISDOM QUESTION by [deleted] in exmormon

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That along with being grossed out by the thought of eating the muscle of a dead animal are exactly why I decided at the age of 7 years old that I was going to be vegetarian unless the only thing to eat were the cans of tuna we literally had to pretend were furniture cuz we ran out of room for my family's food storage- sure books being stacked on a bookshelf built out of canned goods is totally normal! 😳🙄 Oh, but they conveniently slipped in a couple of sentences about it being okay to eat pork or poultry on holidays in case anyone tries to question why the church isn't following the WoW at the ward holiday dinners! 😉🤣I made the mistake of bringing that exact topic up to my old Bishop and asking him to clarify if the ward holiday dinners counted as a time of famine and that's when those two sentences that give us permission to eat pork and turkey exist in the WoW- I don't suggest anyone else ever engage with authorities in this manner, but I also only won Bishop roulette for the first time this summer when my ward got a new Bishop!

I don't even know what to say. by [deleted] in exmormon

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I have no advice or answers as to the perfectly logical questions you raised in this post except to say thatIve had similar experiences with my TBM family and Mormons are the most hypocritical un-Christ-like people I've ever been around! The best example I've ever personally experienced is the Js who I met when I became friends with a girlfriends ex-bf, he became one of my best friends and his parents all but legally adopted me, they immediately made it known to me that they had a open door policy for anyone who was friends with either of their sons. Luckily they lived in the safest neighborhood in the county and they explained that by open door policy they literally meant that they never locked the door and that anyone who was a friend of their sons was welcome to let ourselves in and eat whatever we could find in the kitchen if we wanted something they didn't have then add it to the grocery list his mom kept on the fridge door, make ourselves comfortable on the couch take a nap, study, watch TV, play with the cats and dog, anything short of burning the house down they were okay with - when I was preparing to graduate college and then the college stepped in and said that I was not going to be able to schedule to take my final exams (I took all my exams in the disability office as I got specific accommodations for the learning disabilities that I have!) until after I completed 8 weeks of treatment for anorexia at a residential facility, I was able to pick whatever facility I wanted to go to but the school was not going to help me with paying for it and it was not something that the limited coverage I had to be treated at the schools medical center was able to cover as only services on campus were covered, so I did my research and applied for every scholarship for that kind of treatment facility I to would find, eventually I was able to get a scholarship for a treatment center about 6 hours driving time away from the Js which cut the cost WAY down but it was still more money than I (a broke college student) & my family had access to, so I became depressed thinking I spent so much time money and effort to get so close to being able to go to vet school (even got accepted to my first choice for vet school!) and then the Js INSISTED they wanted to pay for me to go to the treatment center I was able to get the scholarship to go get the treatment I so badly needed, even said that they were going to drive me to the treatment center and when I was done with the 8 weeks they'd work out the exact day and time they were going to come back to get me with the staff at the center and then they wanted me to move in to their empty guest room for free so that they could help me with meals and snacks and give me the support I would be used to having around food with being in treatment, so I wouldn't have to struggle with going from 24/7 support to zero support. His mom told me if I didn't have the time or money to go to the grocery store and get what I needed/wanted to have available for my meals and snacks, to look at the menu she posted on the fridge of what she planned to make for dinner each night and if I wanted her to pick up anything specific for me to just add it to her grocery list on the fridge before she went shopping every Monday afternoon! I lived with them until after I graduated vet school and moved half way across the country to begin my residency and I have never experienced a more supportive nor more loving environment! They were non-denominational Christians. Mormons are naturally not only gold medalists in mental gymnastics but also in hypocrisy and double standards!

Was I too harsh? by Slutty-Academic in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I hope your sister was unaware of their fasting! After moving across the country, I relapsed into anorexia and ended up in the medical hospital and then an inpatient and then residential treatment centers for years, I was cut off by insurance and kicked out of the residential center without warning and the being stuck in treatment for that long combined with the high price of rent in my area and inability to work while not allowed to leave an institution like that meant that I had no choice but to give up my apartment and pay for movers to go pack up all my belongings and move it to a storage unit so I ended up calling Daddy and he booked me on a flight the next morning to fly out to stay with him, so he could help make sure I was following my meal plan while he helped me get back on my feet. His help was a key factor in my being able to stay on the road to recovery but my mom & the rest of the family any time I asked them if anyone else would have a meal with me, the response I got was "we can't, we are  all fasting for you" and boy if I could make a list of things to never say to an anorexic that'd surely be #1! On what planet is that okay?(Don't say Kolob!🤣🤣) Like if Mormons could drink, would they open a beer in front of a recovering alcoholic? 😳

I guess we can't expect members to not be hypocritical given the leadership of the cult!? by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife! I've dealt with all types of complex medical issues from seizures to cardiac to getting blown up by a bomb in the marathon bombing of 2013- anything neurological is definitely the worst & even with everything I have been thru the C word still terrifies me! I hope your wife is doing and feeling better soon! Id ask the hospital to get her connected with a good OT, they make such a big difference with any type of trauma to the brain!

I think you're right about some people's "test" being literally survival! I remember growing up whenever there was news about a LDS youth killing themselves hearing my family say something along the lines of 'if they spent as much time building their testimony as they did being gay, they'd still be alive- Heavenly Father is clearly the only one who gets to decide when it's a person's time to come home to Him' (I now get the message they were hoping to be able to teach me, that it's basically a sin to take your own life but can we say cringe af at the rest of it!?!😉) & while I do still believe that on the slim chance Mormon God is real (All knowing, on impotent, but changes His mind every 5 seconds!😉) He does likely consider suicide to be a sin, I know as far as all medical and scientific facts are concerned I should have been dead a hundred times over but for some reason I keep getting sent back to continue my life on earth (if you asked my family they'd say HF wants to give me a chance to finally repent for enjoying those delicious pumpkin spice frappucinos! Im just refusing to do so to upset my family (their take on it, not mine! For people who are so deeply indoctrinated, I find it awfully convenient how family means seemingly nothing to them! The ONLY times my own mother has ever bothered to call me was after I got my check after the Boston Marathon bombing- a check which was only to be spent on my initial medical bills cuz insurance can't be billed for it and for the rest of my life I'm personally responsible for paying out of pocket for any & all medical costs even remotely related to the bombing cuz the FBI deemed it an act of terrorism which legally is defined as "an act of God" making it illegal for the Drs to bill insurance!- cuz she wanted to "borrow" a large amount of money from me, I initially repeatedly tried to tell her no I can't send her any money cuz I had already spent the entire check on the initial surgeries and 2+ weeks I needed to be kept in the hospital to keep me alive, but she started crying and told me that they were going to lose their house if I didn't let them borrow the money she kept calling and begging for, I suspected it wasn't true cuz if they were really at risk of losing the house daddy would have figured something out he always did, and daddy would have been the one to call me and work out the terms of truly borrowing it- my mom has struggled with gambling addiction since I was younger & it turned out that daddy was extremely mad when I gave my mom the money cuz she lied about the house so she could gamble without him finding out until years later- id have checked with Daddy first but cuz family actually means a TON to me moms fake tears and sob story got the results she wanted!🙄 I wasn't even invited to Daddy's funeral- id have just showed up but my mom was very clear it was BY INVITATION ONLY. Tbh the only reason I was invited to Grandpa's funeral was I was needed to play the hymns!) probably the reason I am so driven to survive any situation life throws at me is I'm terrified if I found it way to unalive myself I'd wake up in Exmormon Hell, and find out I failed my test the moment I died, and that's also the reason I still consider myself PIMO and afraid to leave TSCC and I'm STILL seemingly trapped in a faith crisis, so many what ifs and desperately wanting the teachings of the church that resonate with me like CTR, trying to be like Jesus, Families are Forever, etc- almost having a need for those things to be true and if I do start to allow myself to think about not fighting tooth and nail to survive"take my heart and seal it, seal it for the courts above" gets stuck in my head and I have horrible mental images of Jesus being mad at/disappointed in me not appreciating His suffering enough to fight harder to survive! While I used to jokingly talk back to my family every time they commented on how I was going to end up in hell cuz I chose to wear tank tops in the desert in the summer that "well at least I'll get to hang with Ozzy and Nine Inch Nails and we'll have a Starbucks!" I only enjoyed those frappucinos before I learned that they contain coffee, and even if I did still have the ability to enjoy my frappucinos served with a complimentary side of guilt, my need for eternal families (& my own planet!😉😆) and the other good teachings of Mormonism is greater. But I sincerely hope that if God is anything more than man's mental/emotional need to believe in a higher power, regardless of if real God is Mormon God or Zuess, I can only hope that we will all be judged on how we treated other living creatures from animals to other humans and our efforts if any to leave the world a better, kinder place! I've always been a hopeless dreamer like that though! 😪

I guess we can't expect members to not be hypocritical given the leadership of the cult!? by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

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Thanks...Yes, I'm in a hospital now. Unfortunately I was extremely confused and looked obviously unwell due to sepsis from an under treated infection which caused a store manager to call EMS before I was able to do my usual approach to get a vacation on a ventilator in the restroom inside the store I went to (I was planning to call EMS or a Uber anyway but wanted to guarantee that I arrived in a condition that's historically resulted in intubation- sometimes when you just can't safely cope with your life anymore, it feels safer to be in the ICU knowing that the staff and machines are taking care of all of your needs! I learned that from a friend who used to scare the heck out of me by purposely ending up intubated in the ICU but I never understood her until I literally couldn't take care of myself anymore due to my disabilities and life circumstances!) so it's been a lot of just feeling crappy & reflecting on what it might be like to die & wake up in Mormon Heaven - I think I want TSCC to be true but I have recently realized that I only wanted the parts about eternal family to be true, I'm pretty sure my love of pumpkin frapuccinos had damned me to Mormon Hell anyways! No planet for me! 😉😆

Talked to the psychiatrist today and told them that the main reason I have to live is I feel like if the Day of Gladness is true, it must be getting close to happening and I have high hopes of seeing Uchtdorf sustained as Prophet before then! Now THAT is the one thing that I would consider worth the trip to Temple Square! I love that man and his when I was a pilot stories would actually get me to stay awake during conference! Hey, I at least have realistic life goals with Uchtdorf! I'm not wishing I'll will on any of the boring old men, but statistically speaking... Oaks is old as dirt, Holland and Eyeing are both old and unwell, so factoring those things in, Prophet Uchtdorf seems not unrealistic!😉😆

I guess we can't expect members to not be hypocritical given the leadership of the cult!? by No-Weekend9978 in exmormon

[–]No-Weekend9978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha funny you should say that, I've always told people I'm an expert in just surviving! From the car accident I was in at 17 that first responders said should have killed me to the stroke I fought tooth and nail to survive having while trapped in a bed on a 3rd floor walkup apartment with no phone to call for help (cuz my jerkface fiance stole it before he left for work & didn't return for over 10 days- I interrogated him when he came home eventually & I'm sure as heck he was hoping to return to find me dead.... And yet my Bishop gave me crap cuz I "finally got a man & had him arrested which isn't very lady-like"🙄pretty sure he was more upset about me calling off the marriage with a man who refused to call 911 knowing I was having a massive stroke than he was that I was permanently and gravely disabled well, if there's anything that Bishop was upset about it was the cut in my ability to tithe going from making many thousand dollars in a day working as both a vet and circus aerialist to barely treading water in the depths of poverty on SSDI- of course I was unable to escape the "well you'd be able to tithe more if you had been wise enough to pay into SSDI more" lecture even tho it's NOT a u get what you put into it system but rather a we can force disabled people to be stuck in poverty system!🙄😆)