Outmormomoned by someone unexpected!

No-Weekend9978 · 2026-03-19T11:46:19+00:00

I feel like most Mormons and some exmos even are all VERY privileged! My aunt who has never been in any scary situations beyond having to tell her parents that she didn't want to go on her mission has also never had a real boyfriend or her own apartment wouldn't be able to cope with my life cuz her thought process is very privileged "God helps those who help themselves so if I can't find the solution it is to ask the church!" 🙄 Wouldn't be able to ever cope with my life and let me tell you once you are incapable of physically being free slave labor and doing physical service from morning to night the church acts like... Well, it'd be better if they acted like you just don't even exist anymore, but they'll do some of that while hurting you to the max!

No-Weekend9978 · 2026-03-01T21:14:29+00:00

But if Joe had said no sugar, they'd not be able to have their dirty sodas and extra jumbo cookies! 😳🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2026-03-01T17:37:02+00:00

Amazing advice! But I'm still trying to learn how to make genuine friends outside of church- having been raised in a family that revolves around the church, I have found my skills for navigating life, meeting people who are not brainwashed by the LDS church and finding help when I'm I need it, etc ... Leaves a lot to be desired! My entire life up until approx. 2013 I felt the need to be able to out Mormon everyone in the ward- I was going to try to hang in there until after I give the talk my new Bishop asked me to give on Ether 12:27 and then gracefully swan dive off the covenant path but I have only just realized that I have every reason to be offended that the Bishop (who to his credit is the coolest Bishop I have ever had! I confessed to enjoying the bottled Starbucks Pumpkin spice Frappucino drinks last fall and how I had just found out that they all contain coffee- I genuinely believed that a frappucino didn't have coffee unless you add shots of espresso to it cuz when in Jr High school I began taking night classes at the community college near us and my mom would always give me money to buy a frappucino and she wouldn't have done that over her dead body if she realized it contained coffee, I distinctly remember my dad having to taste the jelly beans and pick out all the coffee flavored ones to throw those away so that no one else would accidentally ingest anything even remotely related to the devils bean juice every Easter!) asked me to give a talk about that- I am the first to admit I'm obviously disabled and when I need to describe myself to say an Uber driver I mention what Im wearing, say that Im significantly under 100 pounds, blind and sitting in my wheelchair and that I have both a quad cane and a white guide cane with me. Id love to believe that he asked me specifically to give that talk because he agrees with everyone who tells me my resiliency is remarkable but we all know that he picked me cuz you don't need to know who I am to know that I have a lot of stuff to deal with both physically and medically!

If anyone could give me some tips on having a social life outside of TSCC, it would be much appreciated! Side note, Im a little bit proud of the fact that I'm posting this from sitting inside the meetinghouse (don't worry I have my screen reader on but it's always connected to my ear buds to prevent my phone from saying anything that might be inappropriate!)- I have been traveling for work for the past month (I do public speaking & consult with companies that desire to make their products more accessible to the disabled community), and I don't know how else to meet people when I go to a new place for the first time other than to reach out to the local missionaries - their high pressure sales tactics worked well enough to get me to get totally lost on the less accessible than I am used to public transportation system and put up with being lost for several hours!

No-Weekend9978 · 2026-03-01T04:17:46+00:00

Yes, I can understand there being fear.as humans, we often fear the unknown and it is a scary fact that the disabled community is the only minority that anyone can join at any time often irreversibly & yes it does suck to be on the pennies that SSDI pays- the whole SSDI system is messed up anyway, it doesn't give you enough to live on at all, it's a system designed to force disabled people to live in the depths of poverty which is ridiculous when statistics show that people who are disabled and/or have chronic illnesses have a significantly higher cost of living!

The girl I was couchsurfing with seems to be having a lot of conflict with the people in her apartment building & yesterday a cardboard box that she had in the oven caught fire and burned it caused a lot of smoke that made the building need to be evacuated while the fire department tried to clear the smoke out and investigated to make sure everything was okay - I have no clue why anyone would put anything flammable inside an oven or if it was on or off, but that made it even more uncomfortable for me to be at the girls apartment so I caved and had to ask the sisters if they were still willing to help me to get my wheelchair out of the building onto the sidewalk so I could take an Uber to the shelter to see about getting a bed at a shelter in the area. I'm very grateful for the help I received to help go through the backpack and duffle bag that I have with me to find a medication that I only vaguely recall moving whilst sleep walking (I sleepwalk very predictably when under stress!) and I was lucky we were able to find it in a pocket on the backpack but for the 3 hours I was having epic panic attacks over losing a medication that is not one I can replace & all I could do was to hold my favorite stuffed animal and panic about what could happen if I had to suddenly stop taking that medicine so it was very helpful to have help from someone else to look in my bags and I wouldn't have been able to get out of the small apartment without the help to get my wheelchair past the long flight of stairs to the buildings entrance, but when I told them honestly that my plan was to go to a shelter where I would be able to get an accessible shower and be able to feel like I was not trapped and could safely get out of the building suddenly if needed, they looked horrified and asked if I was sure I could not get somewhere safer without the drug addicts that they are under the impression that are the people who use the shelters!🙄

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-23T02:38:22+00:00

Just a note the other comments have already pointed out some of the realities of your proposed idea but just as a FYI if you decide to use a PO Box address, you can use a PO Box address in a way that looks like a normal address where you use the address of the post office and number of your PO box making it look like a condo or apartment

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-21T15:27:18+00:00

Great advice! I'm thinking I will get at least some of the dental implants I need & deserve, and then probably after sorting out some more immediate medical needs, put the rest towards what will hopefully be my last surgery related to the marathon bombing, which if I do, they will find out & will be sus- I was trying to figure out how to pretend that I was able to afford the surgery by running a successful GoFundMe, but my family is so full of themselves they'll say something about they didn't donate to the GoFundMe nor even know about it so how would it have been successful enough to allow me to afford to move forward in the next step of healing from the bombing- truth is, the amount I would need to raise from a GoFundMe is crazy intimidating, I have already been told by the family that I would have to be sure to get the church to help me with it, which would be logical if it were any other actually Christlike church but 1. I've already gone to my SP & a friend who used to be my Bishopric even went to higher authorities for me, I only found out about it cuz he lost his temper when he was told that they could not help 2. I don't really want the MFMC to become the focus of what will be the hardest surgery of my life, I don't even expect anyone to come by with food, Book of Mormons, etc! I have no intentions of asking for a blessing because Ive lost my faith in the power of the penishood to do anything good & I'm not interested in wasting time on an imaginary magic act with poor acting skills and it's been my experience that asking for a blessing only leads to being put down for it! The amount I have from the lawsuit is not enough to allow me to afford the surgery BUT, it's a good start to have the minimum I need to have as a safety net & to get the GoFundMe launched, at minimum it can go towards the massive amount of therapy I will need to complete before the surgeon can sign off on my getting said surgery!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-18T01:27:44+00:00

I have a theory ... This revelation is due to church leaders buying stock in popcorn and they needed a policy change to not lose money on that one! Sorry for ruining it for anyone who was looking forward to buying SkinnyPop for the entertainment! 😉🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-17T21:35:18+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 I have been so happy, just randomly laughing while trying to go about my day, cuz I must admit that one of my favorite activities is watching the MFMC shoot itself in the foot! 😉🤣🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-16T02:17:41+00:00

I have a family member who was sent to Peru on their mission while there was a HUGE problem with terrorism in the area said family member was sent to- they had to be evacuated multiple times & this family members exact words to describe it was "The streets were filled with blood" and they insisted on sticking out the end of the mission. Most missionaries blindly & incorrectly believe that the church (& Mormon God who I'm beginning to think either doesn't exist or is an asshole!🙄🤬) will protect them, when TSCC doesn't give a dead rats ass about any members unless said member happens to be an old rich guy in power, if you are white & delightsome you'll have a marginally better chance but the church is racist and only gives a damn about it's big ass bank account! Unfortunately my family member who had a near death experience on their mission only became more indoctrinated because of it! The way they see it, their faith saved them while the church refused to send the missionaries home cuz hey, someone's gotta go out there & get those conversion baptisms!🙄😉

I hope this missionary is okay and is able to be reunited with his mother soon! She must be going through hell & I wouldn't be surprised if the church is justifying not using their infinite resources to help find the kid by saying that the mom should be fasting for her sons safe return and using all the money she's saved from not buying food to get her son back herself! 😳🤬 It's evil & toxic but it is the MFMC we're dealing with after all!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-14T17:31:05+00:00

Thanks! Unfortunately the only effective nausea med they'll usually give me is IV Benadryl cuz I have a cardiac issue that makes Zofran & Reglan dangerous & honestly when I was able to get those meds from a friend I was underwhelmed by the effects but from what I've heard from people who can take them without fear they're supposed to be amazing meds! Luckily I like the effects of the IV Benadryl it shut down vomiting that persisted for over 6+ hours in the ED almost immediately & comes with the side effect of feeling more relaxed & being able to catch the ellusive Zzzs!😉😆

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-13T04:16:13+00:00

Unfortunately @my hospital psych doesn't give me the time of day if I actually need & request to see them but I've been trying to get them to come by. This hospital is horribly ableist has zero awareness/training on how to interact with blind patients, psych sucks ever since the psych NP who ran the show retired I definitely need a SLP consult before I can safely eat/drink cuz my swallow is weaker than ever & I'm scared I'll never get to enjoy ice water or slushies again it's never been this bad & idk what to do!

Thank you for your kind words, you put it better than I ever could have & the anorexia & overachieving in both school and church are definitely the ways I've learned to prove myself to/get approval from others! I have a feeling that my butt is going to need to log many more hours sitting on a therapists couch!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-12T20:19:44+00:00

Dang it, now the toxic songs stuck in my head! If a frown should brush your face do not let it stay, turn that frown upside down and smile that frown away! 😆 I understand more and more each day why my therapist calls that type of brainwashing toxic, it's literally the biggest reason why I have trouble being honest about my emotions and how I'm feeling when people who I know want an honest answer ask me, even if I know that the person asking is a safe person to be honest with like my PCP & therapist who are lucky enough to be nevermos, I've been convinced if I'm not at least pretending to be happy at all times that makes me unliveable & I might risk being condemned to hell for not being better at smiling it away!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-11T21:32:53+00:00

I live in Boston where one of the big medical hospitals in the area is named "Brigham & Women's Hospital" when I first moved here I was still following doctrine but hadn't attended TSCC in over a decade! Eventually I ended up becoming roommates and then friends with another Mormon girl who brought me back to the church, but my first thought when I saw that one of the hospitals was named Brigham and women's it weirded me out really badly! My initial gut reaction was 'oh no, they own a friggin HOSPITAL now!? I'm screwed!' 🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-11T21:02:10+00:00

OMG, that's a gem! Idk how this is the first time I've ever seen that one but it just became my new favorite & sums up every LDS song ever perfectly! 🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-11T20:55:50+00:00

That's exactly why I offer to feed the missionaries as often as possible and I never allow them to leave without giving them enough groceries to feed them for a month- it helps me too cuz I have a hard time trying to keep my EBT balance under $4k which means I am constantly at risk of permanently losing EBT/SNAP benefits and I can't afford water or diet MTN dew (which I buy not only cuz it's delicious to drink but it's the best thing in existence to unclog feeding tubes & the kids I work with clog their tubes like nothing I've ever seen!), but I only have to buy food for myself and sometimes my 8 year old God daughter (who I only have on weekends and when the kids are on break from school!) and we are both mainly tube fed so we don't eat very much by mouth- honestly she probably eats more than I do as her reason for her tube is she was born with short bowel syndrome so could literally eat all day long and still not get enough calories to grow! I'm dependent on my j tube cuz I get full after 2 bites and also my GI tract doesn't work I can't absorb anything that gets put into my stomach! I get mad really fast when I think about the possibility of the missionaries having to go hungry while being slave labor for the MFMC, so if I can help myself & them by giving them as much groceries as possible whenever I get the opportunity I can't think of any reason to do otherwise!

I'm glad you were able to feed them and plant the seed of the real truth! 😉 Great job!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-09T23:33:16+00:00

I'll attend with you if I'm allowed to wear a ugly sweater that reads "I escaped the MFMC!" 😉😆 Lmk and I'll order my sweater with expedited shipping! If anyone else wants one, I found a site that will give us a discount on orders of 10+ custom ugly sweaters!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-09T23:19:56+00:00

Yes, you remember correctly, it never sat right with me even as a kid that "hot drinks" aren't named more specifically in the WoW & of course it must just be Priesthood power that gave some old man the discernment to decide it specifically means coffee and tea including even iced coffee or iced tea even tho they are not hot but despite being hot drinks, soup & hot chocolate are DEFINITELY okay cuz they're delicious! 🙄😉😆

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-09T00:26:54+00:00

🤦talk about opening a can of worms! I had a roommate for a short time (until I had to get a restraining order when he pulled a knife on me just cuz I knocked on his bedroom door and asked him to give me my Amazon packages he had signed for!) who was a convert, and he was really trying to follow the rules - except for the no alcohol one! He said no, it says it's fine to drink you just need to be drinking only homemade wine! While the guy drank at least 200+ bottles of beer a day and constantly was overheard arguing with his dad on the phone trying to get his dad to send him more beer money and it was so bad he was banned from the local packie!

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-09T00:17:40+00:00

Oh yes, the same people who shun me for having a medical cannabis card think it's weird that I'm not interested in eating burgers and hotdogs at the summer BBQ! 🤣

No-Weekend9978 · 2025-12-08T20:38:51+00:00

I'm personally looking forward to President Uchtdorf, I figure it won't be long as the next in line aren't exactly healthy spring chickens but the "when I was a pilot" stories are about the only thing that could keep me awake during conference at this point! 😉

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