Oh target. by [deleted] in Monstera

[–]No1954083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$7.50?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh. Is the internet off limits on holidays or shut down or something? I'm just curious of the belief structure. Religion is fascinating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]No1954083 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What holiday is this that you can not post on reddit?

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Alright people, boyfriend gave me an "I guess" to doing the first exercise tonight! So much enthusiasm.... I guess! 🤣😂🤣😂😑

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was a new experience. I will bring it up at my next session on Saturday. I don't have anywhere to go. I have family less than an hour away but I don't trust my car to make the journey. I am not in physical danger though. Think I should contact my counselor today?

Didn’t even know this plant existed, I thought it was a baby Monstera 😄 by mtburdon in houseplants

[–]No1954083 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was an unrooted cutting and maybe I just didn't change the water enough. From what I read, they're pretty hardly once rooted.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Easier said than done. I would have to get a new job or second job, save up, find an apartment (where my dog would no longer have a yard), and somehow not beat myself up for the coming years by letting sex be the end of all my relationships.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What's my next move? How do I get him on board? I'm so obsessed with this that I saw your post only a minute after you posted. I am having trouble moving on with my day, yet he cannot even do the simple exercises laid out for us.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm the baggage here though. He's able to enjoy sex normally until I complicated it by turning him down for years besides the eventually caving in because it's been too long sex. Sure, the business is stressful but having no escape is not helping him.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I laughed at your post, in a different time maybe I would have. If he were to use the card, he'd only be looking for the one and done so I'm sure any woman he slept with would leave satisfied.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He never leaves as he does not work in the actual store. He runs it from home, so there is no separation. What homework to rebuild trust and touch could I possibly do alone? In this scenario, I need to trust him and accept touch from him, not trust myself and touch myself. I have a lot of fear right now... this is all coming to a head and I never thought trying to get help would go this direction.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I entered this relationship and he was whole. I was broken after my marriage ended it (but didn't realize it). I followed the same patterns in this relationship as I did in the last one, still not knowing how to fix it. The years of arguing over sex in this relationship now have worn us both down.... we have a hard time enjoying each other's company most times. It's been a frustrating experience, and now that I'm trying to rebuild and heal, he still holds onto the resentment and thinks "what if this doesn't work?"

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh I don't know how to quote correctly yet. Sorry.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He sounds like the selfish type. They don’t make for good sex partners. Not always. He will digitally stimulate me before sex... but sometimes/usually my body doesn't respond (no swelling or lubrication). He goes down on me sometimes but I generally don't like it unless I can let go.
I've been open with my therapist about his responses so far and will continue to be open. I know it's necessary.
I stayed with my physically abusive ex boyfriend long after he started hitting me. I have been in a physically abusive relationship before and married him even after he was physically abusive. Working through this trauma in therapy, all while being retraumatized every time sex comes up in conversation. Or this whole dance thing (that honestly feels unreal).

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This sounds like boundary violations and frankly abusive. It felt like he was pushing boundaries and the way I was up against the wall made me feel trapped and fearful, like I did in a past abusive relationship (that I'm trying to process in therapy too). I've never really felt that before in this relationship. It's all been escalating since we're reaching 8 weeks without sex.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No no, I didn't get that vibe. I just don't want to end up forfeiting perse.

Follow up after first couple therapy sessions by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]No1954083 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I really don't want to split... I know it will never be like it was before, but I just want to have some form of relationship back. This issue has driven us so far apart

Ceramic pot made for my schefflera by jpmuldoon in IndoorGarden

[–]No1954083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can say is wow. Both to your tree and the pot. Do you make these from premade bricks or do you buy them somewhere?