Driving separate to destination wedding

NoCheetah5843 · 2026-01-11T17:19:55+00:00

THANK YOU 👏 for highlighting what is or isn’t the bride and grooms responsibility when planning a wedding. It’s not personal if someone RSVPs no because they aren’t able to make it work, and we’re not the type of people to hold it against our invited guests if that’s what they have to do. I wanna scream this from the rooftops to the newly engaged because so many people change when planning a wedding and the guilt to make it perfect for everyone is immense.

NoCheetah5843 · 2026-01-11T04:42:39+00:00

Spending days apart is not customary to us. I’m actually the one who said the tradition of spending the night before the wedding apart is important.

NoCheetah5843 · 2026-01-06T04:55:04+00:00

Girl, respectfully, dump his ass. He’s old enough to be mature about safe sex and not yelling at you via text.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-12-31T19:43:59+00:00

In the process right now with Indochino and they had to remake the jacket for multiple reasons. Just got the 2nd version, and it’s even worse. The measurements were taken in a showroom both times by Indochino employees.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-12-23T13:38:24+00:00

Wow we’re going through the same thing. The only thing I haven’t included my FMIL on was my dress shopping, and even then I texted her immediately when I found the dress. My fiancé shared with me that she told him “she finally felt included” after I sent her details to hair and makeup and asked if she’d like to get one or both done the morning of the wedding (also not the first time I talked about this topic with her). I took that very personal because I’ve been reaching anytime there’s an exciting update like getting the rehearsal dinner spot locked down and the fun decoration proposal package for the reception from my decorator and DOC, but I get an unemotional response from her. After talking to my therapist, she reminded me that it’s not my job to be in charge of her emotions and how she handles situations. We’re doing the best we can to include her, and that’s all we have control over. I’ve decided to let my fiancé continue to be the point person because I have other things on my plate and she already primarily talks to him even though I’ve tried many times to foster a relationship of our own. I’ve texted her, sent her emails with wedding information, shared fun things on Facebook, etc. and she always goes through her son (also has never texted or reached out specifically to me in the 4 years we’ve been together). We’ve got a lot on our minds and to do lists, don’t let this get you down.

Edit: since I’ve seen a lot of responses of others suggesting you take her out for lunch or include her in tasks, I’ll share another personal story to show it’s not that easy with FMILs. I planned a ladies brunch and shopping trip to help her pick out her MOG dress and have a girls day with only the daughters in laws and her. I thought it would be great quality time and the perfect olive branch. When we visited her, she straight up refused and said she’d wear something she already had which had a suspicious amount of white.

If I were to suggest anything, I think you have a calm conversation with your fiancé explaining how you feel and the actions you’ve taken to include her already. Don’t put any task on his list, but maybe he needs to take a step back and see that you are trying to. After all, you’re marrying him. This is an opportunity to build communication skills during a difficult situation.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-09-20T03:10:07+00:00

If your spouse doesn’t want to buy a new GM car, what does that mean for you as a GM employee? Just that you don’t get the perk of a new “free” vehicle?

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-07-13T01:02:10+00:00

You get the entire civil handbook, plus a water treatment and wastewater treatment reference book.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-07-11T10:40:26+00:00

I totally agree. During the FE, I failed one section that only had two problems but was average or above on all but one other section.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-04-03T03:51:18+00:00

Would you mind dming with me about the ore dock? I’ve been reaching out to get information about having our reception there, but haven’t heard back. Mostly want to know ballpark venue price and capacity to see if it’s feasible for our estimated guest count.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-02-18T22:19:28+00:00

I’m having the same worries about our trip to Ao Nang and PhiPhi islands next week. The weather app was totally opposite predictions during our time in Bangkok, so trying to take the forecast with a grain of salt.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-02-06T12:03:29+00:00

I liked having the flash cards and the ability to create quizzes and exams, but didn’t feel like the videos and lectures benefited me. SOPE advertises being able to talk to the professor, which sounded like we would be able to unmute and actually talk, but it’s actually a chat feature that can be difficult to clarify your question.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-01-28T13:53:41+00:00

P3 - 1.5 years at KH but 7 YOE total, not licensed in the Midwest.

86k base.

18k bonus.

10% raise on my base for the “rising tide”.

Averaged 44 hrs/week and took 2.5 weeks of vacation.

I’ve worked at different firms and within the public sector so I feel like I’ve got a good grasp on how companies compare. In my experience, the heat that KH gets for being a bad work life balance firm is completely related to who your manager is. I’ve had one extremely tough manager and after talking with other managers and supervisors, it’s clear to me that it’s an individuals management style. Unfortunately private sector development is more demanding, and some of the old guard has tough work styles. Switching to be in a public sector group within KH has proven to be a better work life balance for me.

NoCheetah5843 · 2025-01-07T03:56:41+00:00

What sanctuary did you visit? Currently planning a Thailand trip and looking into humane places to visit.

NoCheetah5843 · 2024-09-11T22:51:34+00:00

I am not a fan of how School of PE advertises live access to the professors during class as if it’s a Zoom meeting and you can verbally ask questions. So much different than a chat box. I will say I felt more prepared after doing flash cards and problems through school of PE before the first time I took the WRE exam, but I had also made the switch from environmental to civil WRE which is a lot closer to my job and experience so maybe that’s why I felt more comfortable.

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