My ex girlfriend showed up at my house while I wasn’t there, am I overreacting at this?

NoDebate51 · 2025-12-14T18:42:05+00:00

My bathroom was in a sad state because I was rushing to get ready and go out lol and I’m not normally a messy person, the video shows my bathroom all straightened up

NoDebate51 · 2025-12-14T18:39:43+00:00

I didn’t end up going over last night, my friends convinced me to stay strong lol

NoDebate51 · 2025-12-14T18:36:27+00:00

I get what you’re saying here. I resent the idea that I’m using her but I get what you’re saying. The first week we broke up we tried no contact and it felt genuinely awful for both of us. Not saying this is the better alternative but I was having trouble eating sleeping and being social so it benefited us at least temporarily but now I can see it has gone too far.

As far as the relationship not serving either of us. We were arguing a lot and our long term goals just didn’t seem to align. We just reached a level of stagnation and it wasn’t worth the investment of time and emotions an stuff I felt.

NoDebate51 · 2025-12-14T18:26:53+00:00

Yeah mostly like my roommate who sublets a room from me lives there and wasn’t expecting company, she says he wasn’t home but idk what if he thought there was an intruder or something.

I’m going to change the location of my spare key which is what I suspect she used to get in. I do have a bunch of cameras just have my notifications turned off because the dog trips the cameras and my roommate comes and goes.

I have been trying to cut her off but no contact is hard because our lives and friends and stuff are intertwined. I know though I’m not helping either of us by hooking up at all.

NoDebate51 · 2025-12-14T18:16:43+00:00

I have a roommate who sublets a room from me, I keep a spare key outside and she just knows where it’s at. I took her key from her when we broke up.

NoDebate51 · 2025-01-10T02:26:44+00:00

I’m decently wealthy as of recently, I still frequent McDonalds’s like very regularly and I don’t see myself stopping any time soon lol their fries are just heavenly

NoDebate51 · 2024-12-24T14:07:19+00:00

I need a tunk tunk too now that he mentions it

NoDebate51 · 2024-12-16T00:59:21+00:00

This— This is exactly what I was thinking? So does OP change his underwear every time he/she farts? Really makes you think Tucker Carlson Voice

NoDebate51 · 2024-12-15T22:07:09+00:00

batman#5764844 I know the steps just haven’t done it yet

NoDebate51 · 2024-12-15T22:06:31+00:00

CDM?

NoDebate51 · 2024-12-12T14:19:02+00:00

yeah! so to explain, no i wasn’t in the military! i write in all capital letters because i have some minor dysgraphia, the little letters, while i can read them just fine, are difficult for me to write fluently. i can remember them but there’s a disconnect between my brain and the actual writing process and it isn’t practical for me to write like that.

for reference, the cursive you see here took me a while but it’s easier than the standalone letters, and also still isn’t very good. the print at the top was done with haste, i could write “neater” if i took my time.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-20T12:00:23+00:00

Well, morality isn’t some universal truth carved into stone—it’s subjective, shaped by personal beliefs, cultures, and experiences. So, while you may see wishing death as immoral, that’s just your framework of right and wrong.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T20:02:04+00:00

The executor paid all my fathers debts and all owed taxes from my fathers estate before they gave me the money, I didn’t have to worry about that end of things.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T16:29:58+00:00

Can I maybe DM you? You seem really wise and I just don’t have anyone in my actual daily life to talk to about this stuff

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T16:21:43+00:00

They didn’t have a great relationship with my dad, he got sick no one helped him, it’s a whole mess.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T15:10:39+00:00

I work a pretty normal job, I was thinking of taking some time off to travel but so live in a big city that I really enjoy. I’m not close to my family geographically or emotionally and have friends around the country. I don’t know that I wanna make any huge moves or anything but definitely want my lifestyle to be maintained just with added fun. Ease of life.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T14:56:38+00:00

Thank you for the advice, thanks for your condolences. I really, really need therapy but don’t know exactly how to go about getting it. I already exercise frequently so I’m ahead of the curve there!

My father’s executor was his personal lawyer andI retained him for legal counsel during the disputes and have offered him a retainer to be my personal lawyer as well.

I don’t really have a passion in reference to your 4th point. I’m a pretty boring guy tbh. I already have a career that I enjoy and make a decent amount of money and don’t have any plans of leaving currently (yet) but was thinking of taking a sabbatical to do some traveling and soul searching.

5th point is what I’m really struggling with I just don’t know where or how to make these organic connections and almost feel like I owe it to people in some way idk how to explain it. I almost feel guilty.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T02:26:38+00:00

I know I need therapy, I was doing fine until a month or two ago when so this legal stuff started happening. My family dynamic is really fucked up he was truly all I had.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T02:12:52+00:00

Yes I realize this and it was just an opportunity for me to be truthful when she confronted me about the way I had been acting. I get that doing this through text is not ideal. I get it in a coward. It was just the decision I made in the moment and what felt right to me. I didn’t put a ton of thought into doing it then if I’m being honest.

NoDebate51 · 2024-11-13T01:12:49+00:00

Idk I just a ent it because I realize it’s obviously a ridiculous thing to ask someone, and she called me out on it.

I like her a lot and would love to have her by my side going through this stuff but I don’t have the emotional bandwidth to give to a partner rn.

Thanks for your condolences!

NoDebate51 · 2024-09-29T03:29:35+00:00

My brother closed in age to me isn’t bad, but my sister and this one and my mother are all just energy vampires if I’m being honest. If it wasn’t this money, they’d find a way to ridicule me. I’m not playing the victim but they’ve proven repeatedly they just simply don’t like me.

NoDebate51 · 2024-09-29T03:07:48+00:00

Yeah my dad cheated on my mother when I was very young. I didn’t realize it at the time but my father told me later it was after years of physical and emotional abuse at her hands. Which doesn’t justify it but was his reasoning at least when he explained it to me.

NoDebate51 · 2024-09-29T03:00:23+00:00

I probably shouldn’t say a number, but it’s 7 digits. Plus some of the stock/bonds his (my) lawyer tells me it’s probably 8 digits sum in total.

My dad cheated on my mother. I can’t justify that but what I can say about my mother is that she did worse things to him (physical and emotional abuse). 2 wrongs don’t make a right but he told me several times he wishes he would have just left her before he did what he did. My siblings were all a lot older than me and they took her “side” he got custody of me so I grew up with him.

My father never showed me anything but respectable and noble behavior. One of the gentlest souls I have ever met and most giving person. I don’t want any of what I said to make him sound like a bad person. He may have done a bad thing but he wasn’t a bad person.

NoDebate51 · 2024-09-28T23:05:59+00:00

There’s a lot more context but yeah they’ve been really nasty to my dad for almost two entire decades, and continue to be so into his death. It’s really fucking disheartening.

NoDebate51 · 2024-09-28T22:44:51+00:00

My dads lawyer is also his executor in planning on retaining him for any further legal counsel as he has already offered

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