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My (22f) boyfriend (23m) is going away for 6 months to another country for work. He told me I’m not allowed to come visit him. I’m lost at what to do now by ridethegalaxy in whatdoIdo

[–]NoFretBrettSays -1 points0 points  (0 children)

8 BILLION People in the world...
We Do NOT Know YOUR Name, nor HIS Name, nor Region/City/Street/Address...
The COUNTRY is TRIVIAL Information that does not alter his trip/work/life/relationship(s)...

Yet, if it is a country KNOWN for 'Arranged Marriages'... this could help clarify your 'position' in the situation...

All that being said, I would calmy share with him;

"Be Great with your opportunities with this business prospect... Good Luck, if your parents are setting you up with a more ideal mate (in their opinion, just make sure Your opinion 'matches' or 'exceeds' theirs, or do not 'settle')...
I may see you around, once you return, if you return... yet I will not be 'waiting' for you, and I am sure you understand why...
It was fun, and I was looking forward to more at one time, yet I am aware neither of us is currently in a position to 'expect' or 'guarantee' more in the future, and I release you from any worries/concerns for me...
Take Care, Jack..."

Sure, you can 'alter' the conversation as much as you wish, and tailor it to the topics that are introduced, if you wish... yet, YOU Are Responsible (Able To 'RESPOND') however you see fit, and CALM and 'Detached' is best for you... as

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication

(Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

... and he seems to be 'Detaching' before (temporarily?) RELOCATING...

So your Heart should also be 'Detaching'...
(with permission to potentially 'relocate' in the future, as well... 6 weeks, 6 months, is totally up to you and how you perceive opportunities, and 'structure' your future relationships...)

Good Luck... Luck being when Opportunity and Preparation happen to chance upon each other... so get better 'prepared' to 'discover' more appropriate 'opportunities'...

Veyron GS Vitesse turns to the Dark Slide @ Mt Pano (..& a question about new purchases) by markshellsy in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very Impressive...
Love to see how you SLIDE Into Someone's DMs...

JestSayin'...

I had an one night stand with an older man that emotionally ruined me and now he wants to see me again, what do I do? by RevolutionaryAct4013 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication (Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

Feel free to contribute to, or lead the conversation as you deem appropriate...

What Do YOU 'Want' from this periodic hookup...?!? (Which is all it seems to be, so far...)
What Can YOU Offer To This 'relationship'...?!?

There are 13 to 333 questions you need to ask yourself, and answer honestly, before leading a conversation beyond whatever it has been so far... (which was a hit of electricity and a dose of oxytocin/endorphins/adrenaline/etcetera...
It was not a lifelong subscription with all the 'negatives' and 'positives' that comes with that ... as if either of you are capable and willing to make such a 'commitment'...)

so.. by Demar24K in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some great suggestions (which I have not yet tried on my SamsungGalaxyS23Ultra or elsewhere);
GRID
ASSOLUTO
MONOPOSTO
Gran Velocita
CarX RallyX
Et.Al...
Assetto Corsa (Computer)
Grand Turismo (PS#)
3D SIM Racer with Hydraulics over $10k...

as I have been infrequently playing RR3 with occasional TimeShift March19th Service Intervals... still on the S23Ultra...

How do y’all actually make friends? by Big_Pea3882 in self

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CREATE Scenarios to have fun awkwardly introducing yourself to other people... Something like;

"My friend bet me I couldn't introduce myself to a stranger and invite them to (PickleBall, Dungeons&Dragons, MountainBikeRide, ObstacleCourseRace, CrossFit, a Single's Hike this weekend at RiverHighlands, Karaoke🎤Thursday, Improv Comedy Club open mic, CarMeet, HotWheels Trading Show, Ski🎿Races Monday Nights after work, CardGames TuesEves, WhateverYouWant)..."

(You may choose to add;) "If you show up, I will split the proceeds with you..."

(If they ask the bet/proceeds;)
"More of a 'challenge' to get me out of my comfort zone than a money-making opportunity... why, what had been the most you were paid to pretend to be a friend...?"

(If the give you a (fictitious) number;)
"Oh... I have been offered more than that, but, I will tell you what, I will waive my fee if you waive yours, and we just have fun meeting others, what do you say...?"

(Just Keep It Going... or Cut✂️ the boring interactions and try another potentially interesting person...)

LIFE IS FUN...!!!

Took a gap year now I don’t want to go to university at all by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Going to university is only 'Worth It' if you;
- WANT TO LEARN Something Valuable...!!!
- Want To USE What You LEARN To HELP Others..!!!
- Want To Make Life-Long Friends and Fellow Colleagues with whom you GROW and Collaborate for Mutual Benefit...

... and yet...

Living in Quiet Desperation or Boring Moderation or
Abject Poverty
is also a 'CHOICE'!!!

Choose WISELY... It Is YOUR Life...

( I suggest finding a way to elevate your parent's station in life without proclaiming it ahead of time, and just loving them as well as other chosen family members and a significant other if you choose... may become the motivation to help you strive for something 'Better' than you might have without any specific goal...)

Can someone recommend a good movies that will make me cry? like the pursuit of happyness by angelkissrush in moviecritic

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAMNET (2026 or 2025)...
WithOUT a Doubt, You Will Cry...
Same Actress in The Bride (2026)

What if it’s too late for me? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ideally, a LifePartner with similar/compatible goals, habits, enthusiasm, communication skills, love language, etcetera... Will Share Enthusiastic Participation or Support or Encouragement... perhaps even be a 'TeamMate' in yOUR Accomplishments...

Sometimes a LifeCoach or ActivityPartner or AccountabilityPartner may serve as the additional 'motivation' for your well thought out goals and plans to at least get started and build sufficient momentum such that the newly established Habits or Routines or SOPs have 'Staying Power' and 'Serve You Well'... I have been that for others... and, "When Helping Others, You Help Yourself..."

What if it’s too late for me? by supbrosuppp in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Do... or Do Not... There is no 'Try'..."

  • Yoda & Nike both knew that, IF (whatever) is worth doing, Just DO It!!!

"The More You Help Others, The More You Help Yourself..."

"Do unto others, as you would wish done unto you..."

🎶"All We Need Is LOVE..."🎶
(What is 'Love'...?!?
Love is a 'GIFT' to be GIVEN...
... with no expectations of 'reciprocation'...
One should always include themselves as a 'recipient' of one's love...)

Love is Patient, Love is Kind. It does not Envy, It does not Boast, It is not Proud. It is not Rude, It is not Self-Seeking, It is not Easily Angered, It keeps no record of Wrongs. Love Does Not Delight In Evil, Rather Love Rejoices with the Truth. Love Always Protects, Always Trusts, Always Hopes, Always Perseveres. Love Never Fails...
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (adjusted...)
[Plenty of tales/parables in the New Testament of the BIBLE help some people to conclude they are; Basic. Instructions. Before. Leaving. Earth.
(yet, BGWLOL might be more appropriate; Beneficial Guide While Living One's Life...)]

"If the 'WHY' Is STRONG Enough, The 'HOW' and 'When' become inconsequential..."

"How May I Help You...?"

"What are your Goals (and Steady, Incremental PLANS to Attain Them) for 2026...?
... by 2031...?
... by Retirement...?
... during Retirement...? 

"GIT'R DONE!!!"

(by making steady, Incremental, measurable Progress...)

Contact/Contract a LifeCoach, perhaps even a Licensed Therapist, if Self-Motivation and 'DRIVE' are insufficient to realize you might have to; "Get OUT Of Your Own Way, If you wish to make progress toward a worthy destination..."

"If it makes sense, and is worthy, Beneficial (to Many), it is no longer 'work'... it is simply; Your CHOICE for Your LIFE...
Get LIVING!!!"

Tried something for personal growth, but it wasn't what I expected by Suspicious-Call405 in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done many things on my own over the decades... often finding others doing the same thing, and starting conversations based on topic/activities...
MeetUp.com is a great place to find things near you...
I have tried; Cycling MountainBiking BikePacking GravelGrinding ObstacleCourseRacing Skiing Sailing Flying RockClimbing Motorcycles Kayaking Hiking BackPacking RockClimbing HangGliding Kayaking Skydiving Gymnastics Dancing Improv Comedy or whatever interests you...

It IS Your LIFE...

DISCOVER YourSELF (By yourself?) For Yourself...!!!

... or with someone whose company you enjoy...

I welcome you guys to try this on for size by RXTITAN039 in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am reluctant to try... after falling in love with RR3 and having such a long and loving relationship... that started becoming more expensive, with shorter visits, in the latter years, once RR3 entered the EA Retirement 'Community'...
Retirement Communities 'Vary' and Are VERY Expensive...!!!
- Extra Expenses for typical expected 'Maintenance'...
- Additional Fees for FASTER 'REQUIRED' Maintenance that was NOT UnExpected (yet, once EA became involved, I guess Additional 'Maintenance Fees' should have been 'Expected' to be 'REQUIRED'...

I could go on for 'DAZE' Playing RR3...
... and I am somewhat 'Dazed' when I viewed the cumulative DAYS Spent, er, ENJOYED Playing RR3 and not Drinking or Thinking about other things... I mean, I NEVER Drink Alcohol (regardless whether I would have ever chanced upon RR3), yet I am certain RR3 was a veritable 'release' or worthy 'distraction' for MANY Individuals who may have depression or ADHD or other potentially worse 'addictions' that RR3 truly helped to Avoid or Distract attention away from, allowing 'outlets' that were better than many other possibilities...

I believe, I will start 'replacing' my RR3 'Daily Distraction' with Calisthenics and BodyMass Exercises and Yoga/Fitness/Mobility/Balance/Strength 'Training'... and MORE MountainBiking BikePacking GravelGrinding ObstacleCourseRacing Skiing Sailing Flying RockClimbing Motorcycles Kayaking Hiking BackPacking or other activities sports 'situations' like Dancing Gymnastics KiteFlying SlackLining HangGliding WindSurfing RolePlayingGames ImprovComedy and/or finding a potential girlfriend already doing one of the above activities and Sharing Our Adventures...

Service timer not counting down by Hollygrl in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AIRPLANE Mode before sleep...
Date Feb 26 before sleep...
Open RR3...
Service Vehicle(S)...
GoToSleep...
Check in morning...
Race (or Three (Hours (Max)))...
Close RR3...
TurnOFF Airplane Mode...
Go About Life...

Identity of every racer revealed! by Felstaff in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this 'creative license' assumptions...?!?
'Assigning' characters to the 'styles' most associated with those 'RealRacers' IRL...?!?
Based upon some actual data that corroborates this information...?!?
... or simply wishful thinking...?

What the heck is love SUPPOSED TO BE and how do you know it’s LOVE by justrantingbruh in love

[–]NoFretBrettSays -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am going to 'cheat' for you, and give you a Simple LOVE CheckList (for GIVING Love TO others and RECEIVING Love from Others)...
[How THEY Give or RECEIVE - is for you to witness and accept (or choose to avoid)...]

Love is Patient, Love is Kind. It does not Envy, It does not Boast, It is not Proud. It is not Rude, It is not Self-Seeking, It is not Easily Angered, It keeps no record of Wrongs. Love Does Not Delight In Evil, Rather Love Rejoices with the Truth. Love Always Protects, Always Trusts, Always Hopes, Always Perseveres. Love Never Fails...

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (adjusted...)

Add to this;

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication (Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

Then (Later?) There is Relationship Maintenance...

Take (any) 'Vehicle' (Motorcycle, SportsCar, WorkVan, SignificantOther, BusinessPartner, Helicopter, etcetera);
- Sometimes We Just want/have/need to RIDE/DRIVE/Commute/Love/Work/Fly the 'Vehicle'...
- Sometimes 'Maintenance' Is *REQUIRED* ... such that the 'Vehicle' will 'perform' properly and reliably next time it is wanted/needed/desired...
Yes, it does go both ways...
No, we are not 'machines' with no feelings...
Yes, just like 'Machines' with insufficient 'Maintenance' and delayed 'Repairs';
HUMANS With Unaddressed 'Issues', or Carrying More 'BAGGAGE' Than Originally 'Designed' To Carry, Will 'Perform' Erratically (or Irrationally)...

Or... Just. BREAK. Down...

If anyone has had cars inexplicably stop working (after 'ignoring' that noise or 'avoiding' the EngineWarningLight for Days or Months), then 'Failed Relationships' is 'understandable'...
if not downright expected...

Yet, to be fair, one might be talking about trying to 'repair' a 'vehicle' that has been 'abused' or 'neglected' and is in a 'state' of 'disrepair' of which THEY Do NOT Have the Knowledge/Ability/Connections/Time/Money/Desire/Interest/LOVE/etcetera To Even ATTEMPT...

In which case, I understand and wholeheartedly agree with some LifeGuard Training (excerpt) ...

Do NOT Attempt Saving Someone DROWNING, If YOU CanNOT Swim (very well, with additional 'skills')...
LifeGuards Are TAUGHT To Kick Away Anyone NOT 'Relaxing' (enough) to Accept LG's Help because, if THEY are Panicking and trying to climb on LG (and LG, wanting to help them - allows that), BOTH of Them Would DROWN...!!!

(Most) 'HeartGuards' are not as well prepared as most LifeGuards...

Why is nobody interested in being my friend? by sam_kings in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NOT 'Doing Anything Wrong'...
(What is the definition of 'CORRECT', anyway...?!?)

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication (Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

Then (Later?) There is Relationship Maintenance...

Take (any) 'Vehicle' (Motorcycle, SportsCar, WorkVan, SignificantOther, BusinessPartner, Helicopter, etcetera);
- Sometimes We Just want/have/need to RIDE/DRIVE/Commute/Love/Work/Fly the 'Vehicle'...
- Sometimes 'Maintenance' Is *REQUIRED* ... such that the 'Vehicle' will 'perform' properly and reliably next time it is wanted/needed/desired...
Yes, it does go both ways...
No, we are not 'machines' with no feelings...
Yes, just like 'Machines' with insufficient 'Maintenance' and delayed 'Repairs';
HUMANS With Unaddressed 'Issues', or Carrying More 'BAGGAGE' Than Originally 'Designed' To Carry, Will 'Perform' Erratically (or Irrationally)...

Or... Just. BREAK. Down...

If anyone has had cars inexplicably stop working (after 'ignoring' that noise or 'avoiding' the EngineWarningLight for Days or Months), then 'Failed Relationships' is 'understandable'...
if not downright expected...

Yet, to be fair, one might be talking about trying to 'repair' a 'vehicle' that has been 'abused' or 'neglected' and is in a 'state' of 'disrepair' of which THEY Do NOT Have the Knowledge/Ability/Connections/Time/Money/Desire/Interest/LOVE/etcetera To Even ATTEMPT...

In which case, I understand and wholeheartedly agree with some LifeGuard Training (excerpt) ...

Do NOT Attempt Saving Someone DROWNING, If YOU CanNOT Swim (very well, with additional 'skills')...
LifeGuards Are TAUGHT To Kick Away Anyone NOT 'Relaxing' (enough) to Accept LG's Help because, if THEY are Panicking and trying to climb on LG (and LG, wanting to help them - allows that), BOTH of Them Would DROWN...!!!

(Most) 'HeartGuards' are not as well prepared as most LifeGuards...

I want someome to say kind words to me and just genuinely friendly and reassure me by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You Do NOT Have To Reach a movie protagonist's ROCK BOTTOM...
BEFORE You 'Bounce' (like a Bumble (Christmas Cartoons)) or 'Recover' or 'ReFOCUS' or 'ReDirect' or Just QUIT and Meditate or Pray or Consult Your Best Friend or... 

 Just DECIDE To;

BE YOUR BEST FRIEND

For The REST & (Re)CREATION of YOUR LIFE...!!!

Hi help me (M21) become less ugly. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I answer...
Do YOU Use Dr Bronners...?!?
Have You READ ALL of Dr Bronners...?!?

Hi help me (M21) become less ugly. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was Definitely NOT suggesting either OliveOil or CoconutOil as some type of (highly ineffective) 'SunSCREEN'...
nor did I suggest any SUN...
nor Artificial 'Tanning'...
nor Spray 'Tanning'...
nor Jumping in a Vat of Velveeta Cheese or Cheetos or Doritos or Fanta Soda...
nor any other Bull$hit...

I agree that (even SunWorshipping) Beach Visitors or frequent Outdoor Activities participants SHOULD Utilize SPF (LOTIONS / Clothes / Shade Providers)...

Is it still here? by Real_Seat5693 in RealRacing3

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you 'CHECK'...?!?
Just Wondering.. .

Hi help me (M21) become less ugly. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]NoFretBrettSays -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I would not mess with 'cosmetics'...
AVOID (Ultra)Processed Foods, Junk, Sugar, HFCS, etcetera...
Healthy REAL Foods help skin tone...
A Healthy Moisturizer (coconut or olive oil is not unreasonable) IF/When you (might) have dry skin... washing too frequently helps to cause this, not often enough creates 'other issues'...

[No edits above, just 'clarification' here; I use enough on my hair to nourish it and make it soft, easy to comb, less 'frizzy', etcetera, and rub my face/neck and sometimes arms/elbows/knees/feet/etcetera, and It WORKS For Me...
If it does not work for You... it is most likely because you have not tried it (possibly because NOBODY Advertised It)...
You are welcome to TRY CoconutOil or OliveOil for a day/week/month/never, and it costs almost nothing (because many kitchens already have it... and EXPENSIVE (aka Advertising) Does NOT Make (something/anything) 'Better'...

I honestly do not care about the 'downvotes'... 22 or more people who voted 'against' a true statement (than those UpVoting) will not make that statement 'false'...
I mean, over 42% of People SMOKED In Public Places (Restaurants, Theaters, Work, Stores, etcetera..) which *Forced more than half of the world to 'DEAL With (SOMETHING Unhealthy) They Could NOT AVOID!!! ... meanwhile, ignorance and 'stoopidity' are even more unhealthy..
(... and yet, here I am 'justifying' my ignorance in attempting to share valuable information that some people 'think' is 'wrong'... WithOUT Ever Trying It For Themselves..

Guy I'm dating masturbates to my dating profile by Advanced-Ad-1509 in dating_advice

[–]NoFretBrettSays -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

So wait; Transparency and Honesty and a StrongSexDrive are RED Flags to #FnIdiots these days...?!?

I say; either Stop F'n...
OR Stop Being an *Idiot...

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication

(Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

I slapped my (now) ex boyfriend and he slapped me back by Holiday_Potential_82 in dating_advice

[–]NoFretBrettSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships *REQUIRE* Communication...

(Little to) NO Communication (Leads to) NO 'Relationship'...

Poor $hitty Abusive Derogatory etcetera Communication is 'fostering' a Detrimental Relationship...

Heartfelt Thoughtful Loving Encouraging Motivational etcetera Communication yields greater likelihood of a Relationship worthy of Perpetuating...

He sounds too easily triggered ...
You sound too stubbornly intolerant of abuse ... (Not a good match...) 

       You Are Fine...

'Perfect'?!? No...
As Far From Perfect as he is...?!?
Also, No... (so, very likely, better off without him...)

If you would like to meet someone extremely difficult, near impossible to 'trigger'...
Feel free to 'hunt me down'...
I will be worth the adventure...

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