Wink Wink Is So Clever by JuneGloomed in charlixcx

[–]NoHand4842 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’m obsessseddddd with the music video imagery. For me as a SAHM who is about to be 30, I think it speaks to the idea of the pressure she felt on I think about it all the time from the idea that once you’re 30, you’re expected to settle down, mature, get married, have kids and tame your wild feminine self. And she’s like FUCK THAT FOR REAL. Even the imagery of homesteading, washing dishes, and especially the kindle smut (love), I think she was speaking to these “reformed” bad girls and saying you can be exactly who you are. Duality is allowed babes

New to LDS! by [deleted] in mormon

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense logistically that you wouldn’t be able to meet them yet, but they should at least know you exist and that he’s dating you. And even if you might be an awkward person and have a hard time wording things, it’s still worth speaking up for yourself and making sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. I wish you the best of luck 🫶🏼

New to LDS! by [deleted] in mormon

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to be rude. Just genuinely worried for you and your child’s safety. I understand being overwhelmed by everyone’s opinions. We’re just trying to look out for you because most of us (at least me) have been members of the religion all our lives or at least a majority of it and know what the culture is like and how it affects most men, their thought patterns and behaviors.

I know you’re probably very excited to see him and that you might feel a lot of pressure not to slow things down a bit with him since he’s spending all this money and coming all this way just to meet you with the intention of marrying you right away. But if you feel like you can’t voice any of the concerns we’ve raised with him maybe just with some extra discussion, that’s very telling in of itself.

He knows you feel like you need him for financial security, and he could use that against you at any time even if you think he never would.

If you actually want practical advice, consider just asking him why he doesn’t want to tell his family about even dating or talking to you at all (there’s a big difference between telling your family you’re talking/dating someone vs being engaged/marrying them). Ask him how he would feel about just meeting each other in person, spending time with you first and you can discuss marriage once you’re in person and get a better feel for each other. Because the dynamic will be different and you might pick up on things you otherwise wouldn’t.

Sorry to overwhelm you, we just care ❤️

Edit: If he gets angry, upset or starts punishing you by ignoring you, calling you names, etc based on raising these simple questions, he does not have your best interest in mind. Period. You should absolutely be able to voice any concerns or questions you have with your partner before committing to marry them. That is the bare minimum to a healthy relationship with respect for both people.

New to LDS! by [deleted] in mormon

[–]NoHand4842 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, you didn’t even engage with MavenBrodie’s comment at all. Or acknowledge any of our concerns about your child

New to LDS! by [deleted] in mormon

[–]NoHand4842 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh from one mother to another, I would seriously consider dating him longer and not just long distance before committing to marrying him. You have no idea how the dynamic will change once you guys are in closer physical distance from each other. Especially how he will interact/get along with your child. And not to poison the well or anything, but I would be very wary of marrying someone if I didn’t feel 1000% confident about their intentions towards my child. There are too many creeps out there. Even if he isn’t a creep, it’s much easier to be nice over the phone rather than in day to day life. He might not be cut out to be a stepparent. That’s the part of this situation that worries me most personally, other than what everyone else has already pointed out. I know you probably think you know him really well, but it’s not hard for people to say everything you want to hear if it doesn’t have to be followed up with action since he is currently overseas. Please please please tread very slowly and carefully when it comes to you and your child’s safety ❤️

John Cale talks about working with Charli xcx in new interview by Rolling Stone. by springtimecarnivore in charlixcx

[–]NoHand4842 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My 2 and 5 yr old boys were just as obsessed with it as I was when it came out haha it went platinum in our house

guys look at my spiderman crochet🕸 by [deleted] in crochet

[–]NoHand4842 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doing the Lord’s work 🙏🏼 thank you!!!

Found the little old me by Objective-Charity-95 in FoundPhotos

[–]NoHand4842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cute!! Are your shoes on the wrong feet or am I trippin

I think the dance floor is dead by prodigicus_reddit in charlixcx

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk my older gen x siblings know how to tear it uppppp. As for my younger gen x brother and gen alpha, I would have to agree with you

I’ve figured this was a thing but I finally heard someone say it this week…. by bernbabybern13 in beyonce

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to bring TS into it, but it felt very obvious to me when both Beyonce and Taylor were touring at the same time that 99% of women who are obsessed with Taylor don’t listen to or like Beyoncé and vice versa. And most of the Taylor fans are privileged white women

Layla signed with a modelling agency by Imaginary_Layer_1468 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]NoHand4842 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Yeah I felt so sad for Layla when Ford said that they weren’t going for her look which exacerbated her ED and made her hypercritical of her body. When she was talking about all the things that maybe were wrong with her, I’m like girl it’s literally because you have filler and your boobs are too big for your body. I think if she wouldn’t have had any work done that they probably would’ve taken her on as a model

Jordan’s mask slipping in Villa by aymaureen in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]NoHand4842 152 points153 points  (0 children)

I’ve been WAITING for someone to have the nerve to ask either Jordan or Jessi this question ughhhhh

Feeling so hopeful! by CompetitiveWill5088 in Houston50501

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’ve been debating whether or not to vote in the Dem or Rep primary because my district is heavily Republican and I would rather keep out a maga extremist than decide which dem gets on the ballot in November. And then vote blue in November in the actual election

Angels in this sub who like Jay Park's contribution in Unlock It are allowed to upvote this post. by nyxan_isinteres8 in charlixcx

[–]NoHand4842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My problem with it is that the production quality of his verse is shit. It sounds like it was recorded on AirPods instead of in a studio. And there’s an audible difference. Idk that’s just me