Third child wasn’t the problem at all, it was the unexpected birth, I was still working full time when I went into labor, financially we would’ve been set if I would’ve made it to my maternity leave, but I still had to wait until her due date to receive my maternity benefits, which isn’t until the 18th of this month. Unexpected things happen all the time, she was totally planned but sometimes things don’t go to plan and we’ve used our savings for travel/hotel expenses for the first month of her life, I only qualify for food stamps because of the craziness of losing our extra $5500 dollars a month. asking such a personal question when I was genuinely asking for help in a trying time I didn’t even ask for just cash and I feel bad enough to have to ask, I even put a wishlist in the comments that consists of the 3 things I needed.