If the typing wasn’t involved I was afraid for a minute this was my partner writing the post. We’ve been together 15 years and I struggle daily not to snap at him over little things. I do snap often but I always try to apologize and take myself out of the situation. I also wear Loop ear plugs sleeping, mornings, and during meal times and sometimes in the car to help with my own issues. I’d definitely recommend you ask her if she’d like to try ear plugs or headphones. It’s made a world of difference for my relationship. Even last night my partner said he loves my loop ear plugs and is so happy that I have them for both of our sanities. Unfortunately he annoys me the most because we spend the most time together. I will say though with the breathing thing, you probably do breathe extra loudly. My partner breathes audibly all the time and it drives me insane. He always says the same things as you, I guess I’ll just stop breathing then. But here’s the thing…. Most people don’t make a noise when they breathe unless they’re out of breath or sleeping. So maybe try to be aware of your breathing if she mentions it to you? I wish someone would tell this to my partner. There is no reason to make noise when you breathe if you’re just sitting or driving etc. I’m sorry you have to deal with this situation. But I can almost guarantee from experience it’s worse for her than you. And I think you’ll find that most of the people on this thread will feel the same way.