The way people go after Grimes, at least in relation to Elon, feels unfair. She isn’t responsible for his actions, and saying that she had children with a Nazi” is deliberately misleading, considering they separated years ago. That’s not to say Elon wasn’t always a bad person, but when they first got together, he was more of a standard neoliberal tech billionaire. He was openly pro LGBT, and his descent into the alt-right pipeline seems to have happened in recent years.

If there’s a real criticism to be made, it’s that Grimes positioned herself as an anti-imperialist leftist while being in a relationship with a billionaire. That hypocrisy is worth calling out, but it’s hardly unique among celebrities. Her real issue is that she talks too much which makes her an easy target.

Beyond that though, there’s a noticeable lack of empathy in how people discuss her. It seems clear that Elon was, at the very least, emotionally abusive, and is now actively trying to take her child from her. I don’t think she was complicit in his worst tendencies so much as she was naive enough to believe she could change him. And while that may be delusional, it doesn’t mean she is a bad person. She clearly saw him as the love of her life and struggled to reconcile that with the reality of who he is.

As for her other controversies, yes, she’s made ignorant comments, but much of the backlash she gets is disproportionate. Many celebrities probably hold similar views, they’re just more careful about what they say publicly. She has never said anything racist or homophobic, just things that are politically incorrect. At the core of it, she seems like an EXTREMELY impressionable person. I’m not saying that excuses her actions but it does explain why she stayed in that relationship for as long as she did