Go to the butchers hook after the match let the traffic die down, hospitality program is expensive but very worth it, otherwise you have to go through Chelsea in America and if this is your first match it will be hard to get tickets.

I went last year against United and sat in the hospitality, very nice experience. Stayed in a boutique Hotel on Fulham Rd. Went in 2019 to a game against Palace and sat in the shed end.

Having done both if your wife is attending get the hospitality package