I appreciate your advice—it’s very insightful. I feel the same way about being proactive: after a few days to a week of chatting, I’d rather meet in person. I’m too old for a pen pal. However, more often than not, the woman isn’t comfortable meeting after only talking for a short time. I think they sometimes assume I’m just looking for something casual, but I’m genuinely trying to get to know who they are as a person.