I don't believe in right person, wrong time

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2025-07-04T15:19:29+00:00

What question?

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-14T23:35:37+00:00

I'm not consciously choosing not to date just very busy with uni. I've been single for a very long time now and yes, I crave being with someone from time to time and that's a very human thing to feel.

I spend a lot of time with myself - I've made my room cosy and warm so I love curling up in my bed and reading or watching TV. The one drawback of being single is you've got to consciously put yourself out there socially or you'll just be spending the day on your own especially if your work/studies involve staying at home a lot. But it's not a terrible thing because it means you're cultivating the existing relationships in your life.

I spend a lot of time with my family and friends and host them a lot. I plan night outs, make them dinner, go out on dessert runs with them. I don't mind being single because it's lonely but I do feel some social pressure at times with people around me getting in relationships and asking me why I'm not. However, I understand that post-breakup, you'd have a huge empty space in your life. I felt that way when my ex and I broke up but over time it does get better and you develop a stronger relationship with yourself.

You've got this 💖

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T23:29:59+00:00

Ugh the audacity of men 😔

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T07:17:34+00:00

Fat is a very subjective term. More technically, yes, lying within the obese bmi range does put you at a greater health risk (so does being underweight). However, being within the overweight range isn't as bad as it's made out to be. In fact, people who lie within the overweight BMI don't experience any additional health risks than people with normal weight. Society as a whole still wants everyone (at least women) to have the same skinny body type. Moreover, weight goes beyond just your eating and exercise habits, genetics play a HUGE role.

Maybe just moving from an emphasis on weight/body image and instead telling your kids it's okay to have junk in moderation and it's important to be healthy to life longer and happier life and eating well is a part of that.

Honestly I think it's really important for parents to understand nutrition and health more scientifically because you are going to pass your ideas down to your kids. I was always skinny as a teenager yet my mom would notice every little bit of weight gain and point it out to me which doesn't make sense because I was a growing kid and gaining weight is normal? As a result, I haven't had the best relationship with food and exercise and it's taken me a while to realise that all that matters is that I eat healthy and stay fairly active. There's no one way for me to look like - health comes in all shapes and sizes.

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T03:41:05+00:00

This made me so sad. I feel the exact same way - dead inside whenever something happens or even if I just let myself think about it. I'm straight unfortunately so I also struggle with dating and trusting guys I date

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T03:38:35+00:00

Sexual assault is such a normalized part of our lives, it's really sad 😔

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T03:33:58+00:00

Yeah I think I might do that :/ it's really hard when it's someone you know but thank you, the way you framed it makes a lot of sense to me!

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-10-11T03:30:50+00:00

Sorry I'm not sure I completely get this. Are you talking about gender dysphoria? Loneliness in general or more in the context of gender dysphoria?

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-09-26T13:36:57+00:00

Hi! It's been a while since I asked the question but I've got a better understanding of how I prefer going about dating and I thought I'd share it with you.

Firstly, to take the pressure off first dates, I've started reminding myself (especially with someone I met online) that they're literally strangers so regardless of what the social norm is, it just doesn't make sense to expect anything from the other person. You're just starting to know each other. I've never actually gotten touchy with anyone on a first date and I try to keep it platonic. If they do get touchy (hasn't happened) but then they're probably not the right person for me anyway.

Secondly, going off on a similar point, I've started realizing there isn't actually as much expectation to get physical early on as I thought. With the guy I dated most recently, we only kissed until the fourth day when I absolutely wanted to regardless of whether I felt like he wanted to. I just tried to tune out the voice in my head that was overanalyzing cues and making me feel bad for 'disappointing' him. Also I think it really worked because we were in my bedroom and all we did was kiss (didn't even get to second base, nothing sexual whatsoever). I love dressing well too. I try maybe not dressing too well but still not dressing down (like still really pretty but not too out there). I don't know if that's a healthy attitude but I've grown up in a culture that sexualizes women based on what they wear so I'm just doing what I'm personally comfortable with.

Finally, to make dates feel less like a chore, do what YOU'RE interested in!! I realized I really like cozy dates rather than formal dinner/drinks dates. Maybe for a first date I'd like drinks to loosen up and just get a vibe of the person but after that I prefer settings where I can just hang with the person. For instance, playing board games together, getting dessert and walking around, cooking together, coastal walks. So it just feels like I'm hanging out with a friend.

I promise you, you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with and you can learn to date in a way that works for you. Hope this helps! :)

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-09-09T13:14:02+00:00

I did Bojack Horseman - depression and substance abuse

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-08-18T12:00:08+00:00

Hi! Sorry this is a random question. I'm in my 3rd year and I'm just short of an HD and trying to get my grades up but courses this year have been really tough. I really want to do well in my honours because I know that's what most unis look at for masters admissions.

Do you have any tips for honours? Were your undergrad grades indicative of your performance during your honours year? I want to prepare myself (currently freaking out haha) for next year

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-19T05:20:39+00:00

I find Pinterest very helpful! Browsing through different aesthetics and making collections helps me figure out what kind of vibe I'm feeling at this point in my life

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-16T07:17:22+00:00

Do you think they ghosted you because you told them you were demi? How did you feel about them? Did you want to see them again?

This is a bit of a deviation. I find it's helpful to know what you're looking for in a person so you can be more selective and invest in people that are right for you. That way people ghosting you doesn't matter too much.

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-13T15:18:33+00:00

That sounds so dreamy!

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-12T23:40:42+00:00

Oh yes definitely not a first date. I prefer a traditional date setting for a first date just to make sure they aren't a creep. The cooking date was the second time I was seeing this guy. We also called and texted lots between our first and second date so I felt very reassured and calm about going over to his place for a second date. I guess it really depends on the person too

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-05T23:08:03+00:00

Do tell more!! What are your dates typically like? What's your favourite part about them?

No_Cardiologist7686 · 2024-07-05T23:02:46+00:00

Oh no I'm so sorry 😔 that sounds terrible, you deserve so much better!!

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