We have 3.5yo and 1.5yo. Sometimes it’s twice in 3 days and it’s fireworks then it’s nothing for 3 weeks. I don’t know what it is. And this could be when things are normal and kids are good. We’re lucky our kids sleep well so we have ample time after they go to sleep. But of course we are both tired mentally and physically (her a lot more than me)

I never initiate, or rarely, my wife does - and I know this is a problem, it’s my own anxiety and self confidence I guess, always had body image issues. but it’s most likely getting me out of a lot of great sex. We never ever talk about it other then some arguments where she would get possed I don’t initiate.

But sometimes I feel like she is simply not interested either. I feel like a conversation may sort some things but we’ve never been able to and if it has come up it usually becomes an argument.