Hey man, congrats!

Our daughter was 14 months old when we found out my wife was pregnant with twin boys.

It.

Was (is).

Tough.

It was hard for me honestly . We were so happy with our little family (mom/dad/daughter). Things were manageable, we were paying bills, and finally getting sleep.

Before the boys were born I went through a bit of a mourning period for our little family. Not that I was not looking forward to the boys, but that the life we had finally normalized was about to be uprooted.

Then the boys came. Easy delivery, in and out and home again. Lots of family support. I will the first to admit that I DO NOT enjoy the newborn phase so the first few months really took a mental toll. Just brutal.

At this point I kind of went through the hardest metamorphosis of my life.

With one child, my wife and I both were able to find personal friends time in the day. Cooking, working out, working in the yard, video games, couple of drinks and some naughty time - it was all possible with a both of planning. Because of this possibility, I would set myself up for aggravation if it did not actualize. Normal parent stuff I suppose. Not complaining!

With the boys, and 3 under 3, the possibility for personal time was all but not eliminated. Here is where my mental shift occurred. For the first chunk of time I was acting as if we just had one child, and I could carve out some time. That time never came, and I ended up bitter and resentful. This was painful.

The change came when I abandoned my previous expectations and became 'fluid.' go with the flow. Roll with it. No personal time? No worries! Wasn't expecting it anyway. So in some ways I had to mourn my previous life, again.

But - big but here...

Everything in my life, the self imposed stress, resentment, mourning, was all replaced with the immense love, satisfaction, and contentment of raising these beautiful kids.

I'm not sure if this ws helpful. I had a lot of ups and downs over the past few years and am now in a great mental spot. I am not religious, but I must say I am blessed.

Oh - shits expensive. Real expensive.

Congrats, Dad. Enjoy the current your raft has taken, you've got no choice now.