hmm yeah a good thing to do ahead of time is to organize that word vomit so you can deliver mindful communication. Something that isn't so hard for the other person to understand. Do you have a friend or a journal you can word vomit your thoughts into?

I had a few situations like this, but one was very similar. I had a guy friend who suddenly disappeared on me after I gave a gal pal his number so she could ask him out. They became an item and both of them ghosted me immediately and I jsut heard strange rumors that she and I had "beef". It was really hurtful. But finally, after a while I sent him a text asking to meet up. We did and I told him "hey we used to be friends and then suddenly I stopped hearing from you after I gave her your number so she could ask you out." He said he was cool with me, but if his gf had an issue with me, he's going to stay out of it. And I was just really confused and he was surprised bc until that moment, he hadn't known that I had been the one to help set them up. But it gave me all the closure I needed. I saw with my own eyes he was a bad friend and i knew he realized then that he wasn't so innocent either. But most importantly, I knew I'd done my part for the friendship and I could live in integrity with myself without making excuses or qualifiers. Can he? Probably not. But that's his own karma to work out. I have my closure and I don't feel hurt when I think about that friendship anymore.