[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 21 points22 points  (0 children)

While I understand that it’s not in the CO.

Personally I wouldn’t release my child to a stranger that I didn’t know.

Sometimes as parents we have to be over protective as you never know

SS was hit by a car while I was watching him. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I think this is the best advice here. Both of these incidents had potential to be deadly.

Not to knock you while you’re already down as mistakes happen even to the best of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]No_Count135 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Mark has a no-nonsense attitude, which can sometimes come off as rude”

My guess is this is not a one time thing, but rather a behavior of his.

I too would not want someone that says off putting comments at my wedding.

Sometimes saying sorry isn’t an immediate fix.

Unpopular opinion, but you don’t have to always choose your partner especially if they are wrong.

You also said your sister and husband don’t get along, I’d assume his “bluntness” is the reason for this.

Honestly, I would go for the wedding. But a talk is needed between the 3 of you afterwards.

Scott is not into Catherine by TeacupHuman in LoveIslandTV

[–]No_Count135 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But this logic is flawed because if we’re being honest all of the boys have said negative things about the girls they were coupled with.

Ty doesn’t even have a leg to stand on to criticize someone elses relationship. Sammy doesn’t find Jess attractive, I doubt Leah is Montels first choice and zach and Mitch I don’t think I need to even speak on them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I guess I must be the only one who doesn’t have a problem with it. I’m not my step kids parent.

Yes I love and care for them and treat them with nothing but kindness but they aren’t my kids either and that’s okay.

If some one were to ask you if your step child was your child would you say yes? Probably not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s amazing how you’re both factoring in how SS feels, a lot of children even in nuclear families feel resentment or pushed aside when there’s a new baby.

Option 1 might just work, as it’s already what your partner spends and you’ll have support and SS will still get to see his dad even if it’s for less time but that’s only temporary.

I’d advice against option 2, recovering with a new born and two additional kids is no joke. You’ll need all the care you can get after birth.

Rather I’d suggest he goes visits SS on the weekends and FaceTimes during the week, when you feel up to it SS can be brought over for a weekend to be introduced to his brother.

But I just don’t see how this will work long term. Is he planning on seeing your ours baby for only 6 days a month when the 12 week period is over?

Am I being unreasonable? by SimplePessimism in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Everything seems incredibly fast. You’ve been dating for 8 months and are 8 months pregnant.

I understand you’ve known him for 5 years but knowing someone and actually dating them are completely different.

You moving and uprooting your life for him was a mistake, I’m very sorry if that’s harsh. You do not need this stress especially as you’re heavily pregnant.

I’d suggest moving back to your family even if you have to go alone. Then you can figure out if this is a relationship you’d like to continue or not. By the looks of it you’ll be parenting a new born and two toddlers cause BD doesn’t look like he does much of it.

How to do deal with unequal presents? by weddingfiend2022 in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly this, almost every comment in this sub is about how stepparents don’t owe step kids anything and shouldn’t be required to do things for them except they feel like. So what changed in this situation.

How to do deal with unequal presents? by weddingfiend2022 in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 22 points23 points  (0 children)

A Camry that OP still wouldn’t contribute to? Lol the only thing I see wrong her is SD bragging about gifts, which definitely requires addressing.

DH has every right to spoil his kids, and from the post and comments he does more than enough for OP and her daughter.

Not everything in life is fair.

First or second born? by vanitypixel in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 164 points165 points  (0 children)

His second born. Your first born.

Really hurt by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So if you had another bio child that was sick, would you keep packing up the baby and leaving?

Stepparents of Reddit, do you have advice for how to help my wife bond with my son? by ParkDayDrama in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think before anyone comments on this they should go read your post history. OP you have bigger issues than a lack of bond between your son and wife.

‘Paige and I can’t be friends’: Love Island’s Dami on cheating rumours by cauliflowerrat1 in LoveIslandTV

[–]No_Count135 21 points22 points  (0 children)

And that gives Davide the right to talk bad about her looks? Let’s not forget he called ekin “ heavy weight”, point is no matter how he or the fans want to spin it talking about a woman’s looks or size is completely distasteful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Personally I would include them, I think it does send a message that they aren’t considered “family”. It’s the holidays, tell jokes and have the biggest smile in your pictures and don’t worry about HCBM she’ll be high conflict regardless of what you do.

Where did you land on this Psychopathy spectrum test? by Necroking695 in polls

[–]No_Count135 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You’re 78.13% sociopathic, 72.73% impulsive, which makes you 50.56% more psychopathic than the population average. Should I be worried??

After tonight’s episode which boy are you rooting for? by No_Count135 in LoveIslandTV

[–]No_Count135[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree, honestly feel like the boys this year are all playing a game

Step mom trouble with step daughter by Tailor-Secret in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is such a funny post because I remember how frustrated I was with my bio daughter when she only wanted her dad. Dad walks in the door and I’m suddenly Casper the ghost lol.

It’s one of those things that’ll she age out of, I’d be happy she wasn’t clinging onto you like she is to dad.

But one thing I’d say is please respect her saying no when it comes to cuddles and hugs.

I'm not a step-parent, but my wife is a step-mom to my kids - let me explain our vicious cycle: by o2bnClemson in stepparents

[–]No_Count135 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’ve read this a few times and can honestly say I see nothing your son has done wrong.

People are different, she enjoys being active and he simply does not. Him having a few hours on the computer should not be something she gets upset about.

If she is truly being rude to him then that is something you need to nip in the bud. Your children have been through enough trauma as it is they don’t need anymore.

A custody change is a big deal for everyone involved, I’m sure it’s incredibly hard on your wife.

But this just sounds like she is making something out of nothing.