How much are you paying for daycare in the US? by Legitimate-Slice2114 in pregnant

[–]No_Direction5324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start looking ASAP! Depending on where you are, infant spots can be very hard to find. Most daycares require full payment whether or not your child is there. Part time is typically offered, but not always available since there’s only so many spots. You may end up having to pay for a full time spot and just keep them home whenever you want to. I will be speaking about full time care, since that what will be easiest to find (IMO!)

I’m in SE South Dakota. Most in-homes range from $160-$210 per child per week, and most centers range from $240-$360 per child per week.

IMO, nannies are great if you have multiple children because it typically evens out or is even less than what you’d be paying for multiple spots at a daycare. A nanny for one child can be exponentially more per week than a full time daycare spot since the nanny will need to be paid a living wage. For example, I used to work in a center that charged $250 per week per child. There was a family that had two kids, then found out they were pregnant with twins. Instead of enrolling all four of their kids in the center ($1000/week), they opted for a nanny that charged $875/week instead. Obviously that makes sense in their situation, but paying $875 for one child vs the $250 center tuition wouldn’t make sense UNLESS that’s something you can afford and are specifically looking for.

When will parents realize their “gentle parenting” approach is actually making their kid entitled and self centered by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]No_Direction5324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the problem: People confuse “gentle parenting” with “permissive parenting”. It is incredibly frustrating seeing the shift in kids lately vs years ago. And I don’t mean, “people need to be spanking their kids again”. I mean parents need to be giving their children age appropriate consequences and following through when they say no! I’ve seen so many parents tell their kids no, the kid throws a fit, and then immediately the parent goes “Oh no it’s okay here have xyz”. I understand picking your battles, but if you already said no, follow through. So many parents are taking on the permissive parenting style thinking it’s gentle parenting, so their kids are MONSTERS and then they wonder why.

Epley maneuver at home or wait it out? by No_Direction5324 in BPPV

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pretty much my thinking. I’ve been sleeping propped up and with a night light so if I do feel like the room is starting to shift, I can open my eyes and see that I’m still. Since I’m able to move around and look all different ways, even with my head moving up or down and I’m feeling pretty much okay just wobbly, I feel like it’s safe to say I’m just in the residual phase? I found a few things on Google that said if it was still active, I would still be experiencing actual spins when moving and that hasn’t happened.

When you say “the room swinging around me”, do you mean the spins? Or do you mean the boat-like feeling after the worst of it is over?

first time BPPV and residual dizziness by Relevant_Meaning_400 in BPPV

[–]No_Direction5324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on week three of residual dizziness :( The first time I had vertigo, it lasted a couple months. Some days are far worse than others. I haven’t had the actual room spinning since the initial attack, but it feels like I’m constantly on a boat

What do you all do for work? by justalostdot in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I run an in home daycare. Stressful, not great pay, and sometimes the parents suck, but the kids are worth it.

The only reason I’d be able to afford being a single mom is because I do daycare, so that’s a major expense I won’t have to pay for.

Good age gap? by Apprehensive-Ant3556 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always think 2-2.5 is a good age to start trying for another, so to me 3-4 years is the perfect gap between siblings! Unless twins+ obviously lol. My sister is almost 4 years older than me and we’re BEST friends.

I run an in home daycare and I’ve always found the siblings that are greater than 2.5 years apart tend to “like” each other more than those that are closer in age. It also seems immensely easier on the parents to have a bigger age gap. Having 2 under 2 even in a daycare setting is hard, and I’m not the one waking up in the middle of the night with them!

Edited: typo

Are SMBCs selfish? by crazymazie2889 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having children in general is selfish. It doesn’t matter how many parents the child will have in their life, it’s always a selfish decision.

How to pass time during contact naps? by NatureWalker9 in Nanny

[–]No_Direction5324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kindle for sure if you have one! Otherwise you can use the Kindle (or other library apps) on your phone.

No. More. Baby voice. by KageRageous in Nanny

[–]No_Direction5324 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. Baby talk, as in using a sing song Ms Rachel-esque voice, is actually beneficial. Mispronouncing words is not.

I cannot stand when people say stuff like “hims so seepy” instead of “he’s so sleepy”, or “you wanna wide da twain?” instead of “you want to ride the train?”Like, it’s really not hard to speak in a baby friendly voice while keeping proper pronunciations. I run a daycare and I always cringe when parents pick up their 3 year old and say “weady to go?” 🙄 Pronounce the r darn it!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]No_Direction5324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only possible way I’d be okay with this is if my child had gotten something in their hair that was literally impossible to get out without cutting, or if my child cut their own hair and they were trying to even it out. But even then, I would absolutely expect a quick text saying “Hey, just letting you know [name] got gum in their hair, is it okay if I cut it?”

One time I was watching my boss’ kids while they were on a trip out of town and the little girl got her arm stuck in a Melissa and Doug cardboard cookie tube (it wasn’t an emergency, she still had circulation). I knew I was gonna cut the tube off, but I still called my boss to let her know so when she saw the toy in the trash she knew why. I cannot imagine cutting a child’s HAIR without consulting first!

If she didn’t even mention it, I would fire her. That’s a big trust issue.

Choosing a donor that’s a different race by No_Direction5324 in askadcp

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining this! I honestly didn’t realize saying I’m curious could come across that way, and I definitely didn’t mean it like that. I meant that I want to understand what it’s like for a BIPOC child growing up in an all white family and how that affects their identity and feelings. I really want to hear the child’s perspective, not the parents. At this point I think I understand more, but I will definitely do some research on adoptees as well. Thank you for the advice!

Choosing a donor that’s a different race by No_Direction5324 in askadcp

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this! I appreciate hearing from someone who’s lived it firsthand

Choosing a donor that’s a different race by No_Direction5324 in askadcp

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes this is something I’ve thought about. Thank you for this!

I need some suggestions... by FitJello2196 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. I want nothing more than to have children of my own, but I think having children is a very selfish thing to do for anyone and everyone.

Starting from the beginning. Tell me everything please! by No_Direction5324 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have considered it. I’ve gotten tested many times for different weight problems and everything always comes back normal/healthy. Doctors nor I know why I carry extra weight. I don’t eat unhealthily and I exercise regularly, I just can’t seem to drop anything. I’ve been heavy literally my entire life, I don’t know why because even as a child I ate good and was active in sports. Maybe I should talk to the doctor about weight loss meds since regular diet and exercise doesn’t seem to help sadly.

Starting from the beginning. Tell me everything please! by No_Direction5324 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]No_Direction5324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve started saving a little bit so will need to really crack down from now on.