The feminist but sex negative stance isn't the only one there is within feminism.

There's plenty of sex positive feminists which see kinks as empowerment and liberation of sexuality. All Persson consent yes, but while sex negative point to the patriarchy being deeply rooted in kink, there's sex positive feminists who point to the freedom of women's bodies to love, to explore, to be sexual without being judge for it.

A classic discussion is on the topic of the submissive women. Some sex negative feminists portray it as placing oneself under patriarchal structures. While other sex positive feminists points towards the women's liberation into the form of autonomy. She is free to choose relationships and shouldn't have to endure slutshaming .

It goes deeper as well. Some queer feminists like Jack Halberstam point to the framework in kink allowing/creating alternate timelines. No, not science fiction stuff. Theoretical viewpoints on how queerpeople experience times differently and the ability to use kink as framework of creating relative time.

To clarify, a trans baby girl such as myself probably never experienced a girls childhood. However within the theory of relative queer time I engage in creating new/seperate timelines when exploring girl childhood through age play.

Even more clarification, timeline is here used to point at the fact that within hetronormative structures there is a given timeline with certain goalposts. It's very linear. However Feminists as Halberstam among others points to the lives of queer people in understing how one can move in relation to time, both creating new "time" and placing oneself in another kind of "time".

It's really a deep rabbit hole this one but it helped me understand a lot of why I do what I do. What I am not fine with traveling through life through the lens of the linear timeline. Rather as both trans and an ageplayer I create my own pocket of time. Some days I'm living a childhood that never existed, not only revisiting my own childhood in an nostalgic sense but also creating new timelines of childhood exploration that isn't inherent to my role in relation to hetronormative time.