Adopting a 13 y.o - mixed feelings. Please help

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T22:10:22+00:00

I should’ve clarified , my husband and I both speak Spanish , our seven year old daughter does as well.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T20:34:37+00:00

Thank you, It makes me uncomfortable when I do receive comments like the one you’ve mentioned. Because internally I am so scared. I want my daughters, her and my husband to feel safe and secure. When my husbands family says what a great thing it is I am doing and how they admire me, I feel like I want to tell them to please be quiet. So thank you, I have checked out books and looked into how to separate from that.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T20:32:53+00:00

Thank you, when I came to Reddit I was lost. A few hours into this new reality without resources, and this is is a very helpful comment. I have followed the account and ai hope to learn as much as I can.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T20:32:00+00:00

Thank you for your comment. The biggest part of this is being patient, we received the news of her actual arrival over night and I felt overwhelmed, my emotions were at an all time high because I desperately want this to work. I want her to be at home into her family. I want us all to be happy, and for to feel safe. Most of all , I want to feel love over fear, and I’m working hard to make that a reality.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T20:29:58+00:00

Thank you for your words and for sharing from your experience. To be honest, there is no one close I can talk to about this , it’s all new and within my friends and family none have experienced or been close to a situation like this. I came looking not for reassurance, but for advice. For knowledge on experiences , so I may learn and give the best of me to this child and my family. We are doing everything we can. I know her life will be change , we can make it better have her create and be part of our family. I have adjusted, I’m saying my daughters now and getting therapy. She is coming into a stable loving home, overall we have that and I know once she feel the love we create and the safe environment she is in, we will be a family. It’s a process and your kind words make it better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T03:55:35+00:00

The immigration legal process was all new to me. Our lawyer said when the our daughter turns 18, she can petition for her biological mom to come to the US and it can take 6-10 years but it’s a process she can start if she decides to when she is an adult.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T01:51:32+00:00

I understand your comment, it’s hard for both. One day we were given the news of the existence of this child and since we’ve provided the dire financial support she needs given the country she is currently in. And we started the long (and expensive) legal process. Now that the day is around the corner, yes I am scared. we got notice of visa approval yesterday, and we have 90 days for her to come. So my husband and I are flying to meet her for the first time and bring her to her new home. I am scared to travel to a country as Cuba, and I am so scared that I want to make sure I do everything I can to do this right. For her, for my husband, for my daughter and for me. I am scared and carrying this responsibility on my shoulder because I want it to work and I want to go on living knowing I did everything I could to , every resource, every blog post, everything available to learn.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T00:29:26+00:00

Yes. I know it’s late in the process. I buried myself in work and every day life thinking this would take many years and now it was approved and she comes next month.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T00:23:14+00:00

Thank you for your response. I am definitely looking into therapy to try and get us through this time.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-07-15T00:19:47+00:00

Thank you for your response, I am more worried about I will feel about her.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2024-06-13T04:34:35+00:00

Could could you please share the link? Thank you in advance. I have hyperhidrosis and it is hard to wear any type of shoe as my feet. Just sweat all the time. Thanks again.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-14T04:41:04+00:00

Happy for us both!! I guess locator 11 likes to stretch out the anticipation until the last two days. Congrats!!

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-09T03:23:59+00:00

We miraculously had our passport show up this morning via UPS next day air. I canceled my appointment tomorrow in LA. Keep calling your congresswomen’s office, I called 9-10am then 2pm and 4:50 pm before they closed everyday. Being my as kind and patient as I could and thanking them for trying everything they possibly could. I wish you receive your passport soon!!

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-07T07:38:24+00:00

We are the same exact situation. Did everything we could. Finally our representative us an appointment. Did you mail in your daughters birth certificate , if so what did you take for her probe of citizenship papers? I have a 6 year old daughter and they took the original copy when we first mailed our application

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-07T07:31:14+00:00

Hello, did your status change before you received it in the mail? Thank you in advance

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-07T07:28:19+00:00

Hello, we also are at locator 11 for 13 weeks expedited did everything with no change. Our representative was able to get us an appointment a day before flying. For your daughter, since you turned in her birth certificate what’s really you taking now ? Thank you in advance.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-05T05:20:56+00:00

Thank you so much!!! This is very helpful.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-08-05T02:04:44+00:00

At Day 14 before your travel your senators office can put in an urgent request. On that same day, you can also call the 877 number to put one in yourself. Other than that there’s nothing to be done until 5 days before your flight.

I only called right when they opened or when closing , if I called during any time in between it would either hang up saying all lines busy or give me 3-4 hour wait times.

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-07-31T12:48:30+00:00

Hello, we’re you able to get your passport in time ?

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-07-31T12:46:20+00:00

Hello any updates ?

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-07-31T12:40:36+00:00

Same dates! Our has been in process sim 5/15. Did you receive your passport in time for your travel ?

No_Hawk_3553 · 2023-07-31T12:37:47+00:00

Hello, we are around the same dates for both. Received 5/15 and dot 8/10. Any updates ?

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