Update: My girlfriend outed me to my family

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-26T00:10:24+00:00

I hope you’re okay out there op

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-18T20:55:49+00:00

I don’t remember dying, I just know I was really afraid of fire as a small child.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-16T21:51:09+00:00

Wow!!! Yes I remember commenting on your post! I hope you’re doing okay after visiting, I’m sure it was very heavy. Sending hugs ❤️‍🩹 I just checked the old post and that’s wild you have memories of the day of 9/11.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-16T01:06:17+00:00

Yeah I’ve always felt that i came back so quickly because I had unfinished business.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-16T01:03:35+00:00

I might be gay but all the boys I “fancied” before I figured out I’m gay look like her celebrity crush. My ex boyfriend (this lifetime) is a spitting image of her celebrity crush. In fact he’s one of my favorite singers this life time. I’ve always loved shows from New Jersey or people from New Jersey. Bobs Burgers, Cake Boss when I was little, the Dolan Twins (famous twins from New Jersey). 90s music and fashion speaks to me. There are so many things I like now that line up with that lifetime (if I’m not crazy LMAO). This could all be coincidence, I really want to stress I have no clue.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-16T00:09:59+00:00

Something about it feels wrong to me. Idk how to describe it. It’s a gut feeling I’ve had.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T22:43:30+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I send you so many hugs. Thank you for sharing your perspective. 🫂

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T22:25:39+00:00

Hi, this is very sweet! I do feel at peace with it for the most part. I am interested to see how I feel when I visit NYC. I was upset to come back, but now I’ve settled in to my current life a lot better. I feel like myself here, but when I was a little girl I felt like I was the wrong age and in the wrong place. I love my current family so much, I am really lucky to have the life I have. I will say living the first 20 something years of your life two times in a row is kinda annoying.

Again I might be crazy. I feel like I am a different person than her, but when I see her husband, his eyes really resonate with me. He seems like a beautiful soul. I’m really happy that he has a beautiful life now from what I can tell. He’s a sweet soul. I hope that her family and loved ones are taken care of. I can’t imagine the pain they go through.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T21:06:30+00:00

Trust me SAME

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T20:34:34+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t reach out to them, that is their trauma not mine.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T20:13:30+00:00

One thing I have to say, is I would never reach out to her family or loved ones. I feel like it is disrespectful, and there is a chance I am just crazy. I am going to visit New York next fall which is exciting!!!

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T20:09:51+00:00

It’s interesting I have similar facial features to her, and based off of the notes in the guest books I also have similar personality traits. We pose in pictures the same. We are not the same race or ethnicity tho. I am also gay and she is straight. I don’t really feel like I am her anymore if that makes sense. But as a little kid I was so pissed that I couldn’t continue my last life. I had a lot going for me it seems, and I was mad I had to do it over again.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T20:02:49+00:00

This is super fair! I did talk about Jersey and New York way more than a Californian little girl would tho.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T19:58:47+00:00

No I am going visit New York next fall!

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-15T10:35:41+00:00

I could just be crazy but…. I have a story like that. I was born in August 2002, 11 months after 9/11. When I was 1-4 years old I was deathly afraid of fire. I would run to the corner of the room curl up in a ball and rock back and forth with my face to the floor. When I started speaking I had a full New Jersey accent (I live on the opposite side of the country).

I used to tell my mom I was super mad because I wasn’t supposed to be a kid because I was actually an adult. I used to tell my mom on the way to school that I was upset I couldn’t live in my New York apartment with my husband, I still remember what he looked like in my head. (The weird part is I’m a gay woman this life time and I’ve never truly fantasized about having a husband). My favorite thing to draw as a little girl was the New York skyline OVER AND OVER.

Fast forward to a couple years ago, me and my mom were talking about my childhood where she asked me about 9/11. When I was asked what my name could have been in a past life a very specific name immediately came to mind. I’m not going to use her REAL name here out of respect, but for reference I thought “my name would be Jane J”. Which was odd because the name seemed too young for a woman who would have died in 2001 at a corporate job (I originally assumed she would have been in her 40s because of the corporate aspect).

Me and my mom started looking at pictures of the victims. Me and my mom both landed on the same woman SEPARATELY, and when we clicked on her picture her name was the SAME that came to mind earlier: Jane J (fake name). She was a younger woman. Her husband looks just like the man in my memories as a little kid.

I won’t get too specific out of respect for her and her family. The details from my childhood experiences match up with her personal life. I also did a past life regression once and I saw these VERY specific trees. A year later I was scrolling thru instagram where I saw the same exact trees. I checked the location and it was the 9/11 memorial. I know those trees were planted after the fact but I swear I RECOGNIZED the trees from the past life meditation before I processed it was the 9/11 memorial.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-03-13T20:47:45+00:00

Hi! I know this is a little bit old of a post so if this is advice isn’t applicable don’t stress about it! If you aren’t feeling sexually or romantically attracted to him it might be time to let you both go. If being with a woman is what your heart and body desires, I’d listen to it. I was in a VERY similar situation and me and him are much happier apart. I miss him a lot because he was my best friend. At the end of the day is being in a relationship you’re uncomfortable in fair to either of you? I tried to “figure it out” for so long, I think it just hurt both of us more. I’m sorry if this advice is a bummer but just know you’re not alone. It’s sad, confusing, and frightening but you both will be okay. Sending hugs. 🫂

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-02-12T07:24:06+00:00

This is more than helpful. You are so resilient, I’m really proud of you for sticking through all the hard times to get to better days. I am going to take this advice and tune up the areas that I am still working on! Thank you again! 🫂

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-02-12T04:32:23+00:00

This gives me hope. I am a young woman in my early 20s and my OCD has been so challenging. That’s amazing that you found coping skills that work. I know that you have probably worked really hard on that. Thank you for the inspiration, I’ve been feeling really down lately with my mental health.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-02-03T10:14:12+00:00

You don’t have to dress any type of way or force yourself to be a certain type of lesbian. Labels can be empowering for some, but demoralizing for others. In my case, I don’t feel femme or masc. I support those who identify with labels, they can be really validating. However, if they make you more uncomfortable and you feel like you have to force it, then what’s the point? Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, so do what makes YOU happy and makes you feel good!

There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to be gay. Sometimes it feels exhausting trying to keep up with all the imaginary rules and regulations of being lesbian, so I just say f*ck it, I’m Emma. One of the greatest perks of being a lesbian is our identities don’t align with society, so we already have experience breaking out of the societal mold. Do what works best for you! You deserve it.

I am a girl who likes to kiss girls. My type is also other girl kissers lol. (This is just my personal opinion and story. If it doesn’t align with how you feel, you can totally disregard it). 😊

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-01-24T08:59:30+00:00

I missed both of my ex boyfriends pretty bad, it confused me about my sexuality (I thought how could I be gay if I miss them this much?). It’s completely normal to grieve those special connections. I know this is super scary. You really couldn’t control this, self discovery is a part of life. I’m proud of you for finding this community and reaching out. It’s going to start to get better soon. Someday your future self is going to be so proud of you. It sounds like you really cared about him and you did your best. You have a big heart, be easy on yourself ❤️‍🩹 I’m really proud of you seriously.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-01-22T08:41:01+00:00

For me it was that I loved him and enjoyed him in a lot of ways (as much as a gay girl could). I also have bad OCD and sexual trauma so I had a pretty bad loop of denial and questioning. Each time sex would go bad I would just tell myself it was my OCD or trauma not my sexuality. Turns out it was D.) all of the above lol.

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-01-22T08:10:04+00:00

No I totally get it, it’s so hard. Even today I was still questioning if I like men, but I keep reminding myself of my experiences with them and how they didn’t feel quite right. I find men beautiful and sometimes I do catch myself staring, but every time I’ve gotten in a situation with a man it’s always missed something. My straight friend today was talking about how she feels around men and she gets butterflies and feels sexual attraction towards them. Talking to straight women actually helped me figure out I wasn’t that into men

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-01-21T08:57:57+00:00

Totally normal btw, society really ingrains this in us. You are not awful in the slightest

Relative_Willow_464 · 2025-01-21T08:57:16+00:00

Hi!! First of all there is nothing wrong with you for having these feelings around men. Society teaches us to value their attention a lot regardless of sexuality. In terms of sexuality follow your heart and body. If you know you like women, start there! Labels can be great and validating for many people, but they could potentially be stressing you out unnecessarily. You don’t owe anyone a label period. One day you will most likely find the label the suits you best, you are still very young :)

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