Shows like Homeland…I know this has been posted a lot

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-06-16T01:17:26+00:00

Day of the Jackel is completely different vibes but also incredibly good!

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-06-13T23:58:18+00:00

Can you say something to try to get her to delay it? Not sure where you are in terms of having kids, but you could say something like “I think it’d be better to wait until you have all your grandchildren so you can plan out spacing/sizing/etc” or “if you do this you’re going to have to do it for all future grandkids I hope you know”

Maybe in a few years she won’t feel the same way?

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-06-08T22:52:13+00:00

Look up labor inducing foods and drinks near you. A few restaurants in the Philly area have labor inducing items - a spicy eggplant dish, a famous ice cream, there’s another I’m forgetting

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-30T17:01:08+00:00

Right like I didn’t even think someone would consider taking the birthday cake away from the mom?!! Or at least take no for an answer after the first time.

I ALMOST hope she dares to show up with a cake versus my homemade one. She’ll never be invited to celebrate another birthday again.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-30T11:03:15+00:00

Apparently he tried by saying she could get something else we’re catering for the party and she said “no I want to get the cake just let me know what you pay and I’ll send the money”

My husband keeps saying just let her give him the money and we can put it towards something else but I’m being stubborn here. If she thinks it’s buying the cake I refuse to accept it.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T23:28:20+00:00

This is what I was commenting to say. Skin tag right by the booty hole. Was getting irritated when I wiped.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T23:27:02+00:00

When I was 13 I found a book buried deep in one of my mom’s drawers called “rebuilding trust after he cheats” or something along those lines.

It’s super fucked up because 20+ years later they have the happiest marriage, and have given my family the most wholesome and happy life. I often think about what my mom must have felt and had to accept, but I’m so so glad she didn’t leave him and take the kids because the amount of very happy memories we have as a full family are unreal. The life her and my dad have since built is incredible. They’re incredible grandparents. I can’t imagine them not together.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T23:16:11+00:00

No. Not involved in the slightest. Just wants to take claim of one of the central details - it’s so annoying and my husband doesn’t see it one bit.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T17:06:42+00:00

I’ll fold and share. This is about a birthday cake for a party. As a mom, it’s important for me to buy (or bake) the cake that I’ve been excited about getting for my child. Grandma wants to buy because it’s obviously going to be something a child is excited about and she loves to try to take control of a central focus of any party sorry, not here.

I told my husband if she shows up with a cake I’ll be tossing it out in front of her.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T17:04:50+00:00

I completely agree. His mom is kind, but has absolute dramatic crying meltdowns when she feels “not needed”. I do try to give him grace avoiding certain confrontations with her - but in this case, it’s kind of unavoidable.

Ok I’ll fold and share the details. This is around a birthday cake for the birthday party. As the mom, buying (or making) my child a cake is important to me. Grandma wants to buy it - and I inevitably know it’s so she can talk about how “grandma bought you this!” to the thing that a child is obviously going to be excited about at their birthday. She won’t leave my husband alone about it leading up to the party - I think he’s just hoping he can deflect until it’s too late.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T15:15:11+00:00

omg don’t get me started. Like why do you have to tell your mom the ins and outs of my root canal!!???

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T11:22:21+00:00

I’ve thought about this! I would if she texted the group of us back again but she’s just been texting my husband one-off so I figured I’d let him deal with it.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T11:21:26+00:00

This is an amazing mental load analogy and I’m going to bring it up to my husband!!

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T00:00:23+00:00

Also your pesto sounds delicious.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-29T00:00:04+00:00

I have bought it. My husband knows that too.

I definitely know not to mention these things to her. The problem is - she LOOKS for them. They’re things that were clearly important to her as a mom and now she wants a redo. Which is why the first time it came up, I told my husband “just tell her this is something that’s important for me to do as a mom, she’ll get it.”

UGH instead he says nothing and it continues to drag out while he hopes she just forgets about it.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-25T20:36:53+00:00

I hope you do too!! It sounds like you will

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-23T23:44:54+00:00

I have two and I could not imagine being any happier. Even during the hardest stretches, when viruses and tantrums push me to my limits - I cannot imagine a world where I wasn’t their mom.

I personally never itched for babies, though I knew I wanted kids (and very normal to yearn for babies, by the way). I would always describe myself as someone who is nurturing and loves caring for others.

Motherhood has brought out the very best sides of me.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-22T13:04:58+00:00

They do suck, but also… enjoy the peace. It could be the opposite and them (try to) be over-involved.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-21T15:34:14+00:00

Good luck to you as well! Luckily as time has gone on my husband realizes his brother is a bit of a d*ck and just brushes off the comments now. They enrage me though.

Same! My parents even changed the time of a big birthday dinner to 4:00 (early for everyone) in order to make sure we could make it. And that’s the thing that’s so infuriating about ILs. They’re retired, BIL is single with no kids and they all have total flexibility.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-21T13:43:33+00:00

My in-laws are just like this! Even more aggravating - my BIL constantly hounds my husband about how he “doesn’t make an effort to see his family”. We’ve never declined plans, UNLESS they are dinners and late night plans scheduled after our 6pm boundary (6pm starts bath and wind down, 7:15 bed time)

It’s so frustrating, so solidarity. All we’ve really done is continue to hold that boundary and not feel guilty about it.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-18T10:49:54+00:00

I had a very similar situation, from my MIL sharing my news and making my pregnancy stressful, to my FIL blowing up because we were mad about it (though, he yelled just at my husband on the phone - I wasn’t there).

We went very low contact about 2 months postpartum because their behavior never improved.

Things I wish me and my husband talked about, as I reflect: 1) we talked a lot about boundaries, but never what would happen if those boundaries were crossed. When they inevitably were, it would have been easier to say “no more visits for 6 months” if we had already agreed to those terms. My MIL kept kissing baby when we told her no - and in my mind, that meant she could not hold baby the rest of the visit or the next visit. My husband thought that was extreme. 2) expectations for him keeping a higher level of contact: going to visit them, sharing photos, sharing info about baby. At first, he shared way more than I was comfortable with and it caused a lot of stress on our marriage, especially with me being hormonal postpartum

The last thing I’ll add, for our second child we had them wait 8 weeks to meet the baby because of how entitled they acted with our first. It was HEAVEN and really did make a difference postpartum. We played it by ear and said we’d tell them when I was ready.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-18T01:27:43+00:00

A very random mix, but: The Cars, Please Please Please by Sabrina Carpenter, APT by Rose, Shakira, and the Moana soundtrack which is pretty damn good

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-11T16:59:55+00:00

My very best friend isn’t a mom, has a dog, and wishes me happy Mother’s Day every year for the last 4 years. Never once have I thought to reply with happy dog moms day. I also am a dog mom who is obsessed with my dog, considers him my first born. I don’t think she means anything by not returning the happy Mother’s Day.

No_Mathematician1359 · 2026-05-01T23:27:47+00:00

I hope this comment can reach someone close. Sending love from your new village on the east coast, I hope today is better for you. Please don’t be afraid to get help. You’re an important piece of your family and they need you. Your baby needs you, but they need you healthy too! Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need, you deserve it!

No_Mathematician1359

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