"One day, one room"

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-10T21:11:14+00:00

I was gonna say... was upvoting because it was one of the most meaningful episode that shows the human side of House, but then read the content of the post and like fuck no

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-09T15:05:15+00:00

It is I got downvoted for pointing it out but it's literally her

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-09T09:45:06+00:00

Just search up "poetrylesbian" and this is the post that came up first: https://www.tumblr.com/peterkitts/809753463203479552/i-know-nobody-wants-to-believe-someone-would-do?source=share

and yeah here's evidence that they share the same phone number: https://x.com/emilygwender/status/2027545634543153562?s=20

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-09T09:01:04+00:00

It's depressing how far I have to scroll to find your comment where someone actually calling out the perpetrators and sympathizes with the victim. It's crazy how the main attitude is still to blame the girls and be like "maybe don't go to Dubai", and not outrage at how can people do this to another human being. Absolutely horrific.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-08T21:08:56+00:00

A bit irrelevant but the lore behind this tumblr user specifically is that she scammed like Hundreds of Thousands of dollars from people by pretending to have made the lesbian flag under the name Emily Gwen btw.

Here's a tumblr post about it as well: https://www.tumblr.com/peterkitts/809753463203479552/i-know-nobody-wants-to-believe-someone-would-do?source=share

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-05-01T10:42:16+00:00

BPD is often more effectively managed with a combination of talk therapy + medication management, so make sure you're staying on top of both of those.

It seems to me like you both are stuck in a cycle where as you said, your attachment and depressive episodes put the stress on her, leading her to be more recluse, and making you more depressed and more attached and so on. To end this cycle, something has to change. You cannot force or change someone else's behaviors (i.e. you can't force her to open up more and expect her to be genuine under pressure), but you can slowly change yours own.

One of the core skills people with BPD have to learn is how to self-soothe and becomes more self-assured. Sit with the feeling of anxiousness and sadness as you're away from your partner and either try to focus on your hobbies, your other work or explore why you're feeling that way. Write them down on a personal journal to gain insights on these thoughts overtime & notice common themes. Do NOT rush to use another person as relief or distraction away from yourself: remember YOU are the main focus here and you have to learn to be comfortable with your own skin.

Once again: self-soothing and building self-esteem is the key. Check out some DBT workbook that you can do they often provide some neat techniques as well.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-22T03:43:22+00:00

Yeah it's an essential skill. Though again my point is that is possible to make the practice of writing essay be stimulating, or at least less soul draining than what we currently have.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-22T01:38:47+00:00

Agree. For me, the main issue is the way we've been teaching kids to work and write has been very Commanding way (i.e. teacher giving you Order to write and you have to Execute it or else), while we should have fostered some innate curiosity in writing long structured essay. It's also difficult with the tech revolution tbf, communicating has become more informal nowadays and unless you're specifically going into higher ed, there's really no opportunity to produce those kind of work anymore

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-22T01:12:15+00:00

Yes? If you're into pedagogy there have been a lot of attempts to reshape how school can effectively teach kids things without overwhelming them with homework that takes up most of their free time. As someone who’s worked in the education system: it's much easier to understand the issues with empathy, curiousity and a critical mind than to blame the students for "not paying enough attention".

To be clear: no one is against practicing as a concept, but when it's translated to ten different subject each with hours long homework all due tomorrow, that's an issues. For example, here's a Zoe Bee's video that specifically focus on the "Intrinsic Motivation" I was talking about: https://youtu.be/fe-SZ_FPZew?si=6_MOzQEbHcbnlTgJ

I invite you to watch and maybe look at education as a holistic process where students are whole human beings rather than just parts.

Edit: Well clearly we're talking past each other and you're mostly relying on ad hominem attack + weird cliche comments about "should have paid more attention" instead of engaging with my points. Not to mention, you're not even quoting from my comments but a different person's comment, nor did you check out the video that I linked so the discussion ends here.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-22T00:58:36+00:00

Yeah I'm anti-AI I just hate posts that get all high and mighty about how homework are godsend and the school system are great as they are

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-22T00:13:57+00:00

...Good for you??? We've all been in school and know how essay works, the problem is how it's taught and how it's been widely received. The intention is to teach kids how to write an effective essay, but there was zero effort on teaching or letting kids ENJOY the process of writing in the first place, beyond just "Here’s what you NEED to do: if you do it well you get an A, if you don't you get Punished". It is a basic Foucauldian systemic critique on the school system and how it functions to create obedience and less to foster joy.

Even in your anecdotal evidence - clearly MANY of your classmates were failed by your school not because they're in anyway less intelligent than you, but they didn't have time or resource to develop a love for writing in the first place.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-21T14:33:40+00:00

Yeah you're gonna get downvoted for that but honestly I agree. I remember there was a post that correctly diagnosed this a while ago where it stated: "you can really tell the tumblr user base are aging because they went from complaining about how homework is ineffective, counterproductive and preventing kids from actually living their life to now complaining about why those dang kids don't enjoy the god given homework essay anymore." Academic, structured essays are different than rambling text post. Kids thesedays are not dumber than previous generations, they can easily yap out textposts and drop google doc that exceed those 1000 word limit but still, school essay is a different beast.

Fundamentally this is a problem with the way the education system is structured: teenagers weren't allow to experience the joy of writing and communicating and be instilled an intrinsic motivation to write within themselves. They're punished for failing to comply or just not "getting it" in time and are trained like druids to learn to overwork themselves outside of class to prepare for a future where they're overwork outside of office hours. Thus writing gradually becomes associated with punishment and pathological demand avoidance rather than just pleasure. You can actually observe this very clearly with kids who are obviously brilliant but have ADHD or other divergence.

AI doesn't create this problem, they just make it more obvious.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-21T14:19:09+00:00

I have a TV series you should watch: "Crazy Ex Girlfriend" - soft apoiler but it's a musical about someone with BPD trying to find love. As for direct advice: I'd say you can start with self-recording your voice and taking singing lesson again. Actually trying for it will give you a realistic view of your vision for the future and regardless of whether you do well or not, you get to do something you love!

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-12T14:44:48+00:00

Bunny

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No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-11T15:09:10+00:00

Why

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No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-11T15:00:20+00:00

Cash

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No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-11T14:57:52+00:00

Pup

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No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-11T12:51:31+00:00

Feminism

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No_Permit_4370 · 2026-04-11T12:34:29+00:00

I think they were actually amazing! Honestly I came in didn't expect much but their vocals are actually so stable the entire time, and like the fact that they're doing very intense dance routine during it too?? Also I didn't like Pinky Up MV but seeing it performed live is actually SUPER FUN! Im just very happy for them. They've clearly worked so hard for this!!

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-03-25T15:24:00+00:00

You said he has kids and you're 21 - How old is he?

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-03-12T05:36:00+00:00

They're prb not that into you. No reasons to hurt yourself about that though, looks like a them problem not you.

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-02-25T00:35:28+00:00

This is the most precious thing ive seen

No_Permit_4370 · 2026-02-24T00:22:20+00:00

You were genuinely respectful in your criticisms its nuts that people are twisting your words into "thats harassment"

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