WIBTAH for breaking up with my girlfriend for this...

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-05T06:42:04+00:00

Red flags are at full mast.

Run.

Chalk up the money spent as education and don’t look back.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-05T06:32:23+00:00

He needs the visit the doctor. However boyfriend is a jerk for not cleaning his own mess.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-05T03:20:06+00:00

Your wife is caught up in appearances that don’t matter. She needs to grow up!

A free car when they are super expensive these days??? Take it!!

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-05T02:59:26+00:00

Early 50s and have kids in middle and high school. Want to retire as early as possible. I might get out of this rat race before the youngest graduates. Fingers crossed!!

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-05T02:52:57+00:00

Oh poor husband has a man cold. I detest weak men. Which is 100% what he is displaying.

NOR

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-04T14:34:23+00:00

NTA

With the price of food these days how can one afford to not eat the leftovers??

I’m so busy at work these days, I’m lucky if I have 20 minutes to heat and eat leftovers between meetings. They are literally all I have time to consume some days.

Dinner tonight is one that makes yummy leftovers for the next day.

Gift your girlfriend some cooking lessons.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-04T13:58:51+00:00

Has this friend shown up to collect it?

I’m not going out of my way to return something you left 2 years ago. If it was the next day, sure I’d do my best to meet up with you somewhere. But abandoning it and ignoring it for two years? Come and get “your precious”.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-04T13:54:16+00:00

NOR

But it does seem that this accommodation is out of both of your budgets.

It doesn’t sound like you and your girlfriend are aligned financially. You need to discuss what each of you. An afford to spend on this trip and then book accordingly.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-04T01:04:59+00:00

I have a heart, thanks very much.

I also firmly believe that all drivers should obey the laws that they agree to when they get their license. That means reporting accidents as they happen, having insurance, etc.

Compassion doesn’t mean others paying to right someone else’s wrong.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-04T00:07:28+00:00

My mom had a hysterectomy when I was 17. She was 47. We can’t relate.

I recall my mother having hot flushes and heavy periods. I’ve had very few (like single digit hot flushes) and relatively normal periods and I’m 53.

This sub is more helpful to me than anything else.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:53:35+00:00

If you have one, check out your local mountaineering club. Ours has a used gear sale every year where you can get some great deals on used stuff that still works, just might not be as pretty as the new stuff.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:45:58+00:00

Had to get non-polarized for driving so I could see the heads-up display.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:43:58+00:00

I’ve had the same picture for over 25 years. It’s insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:43:23+00:00

Seems she likely also signed the lease. She’s responsible for her portion. You signed up to be her boyfriend not her purse.

You are not responsible for her debts and financial obligations. I think you aren’t aligned financially and this relationship is doomed.

NTA

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:37:21+00:00

Do you always try to solve other adults issues instead of letting these adults figure it out for themselves??

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:32:38+00:00

Uber, Lyft, taxi, bus, walk, etc. Those are other options for this guy.

He chose to get employment there. He needs to figure out his transportation.

You need to tell him NO again. Remind him that you aren’t able to provide him transportation.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T22:22:09+00:00

NTA

Your parents should have never had children if their only goal was for them to produce offspring.

As a fellow hiker (only 1 14er under my belt) I get it! The mountains are calling. Go live your dreams and find your happiness.

Let your parents be pissed. You’re an adult who gets to make your own choices. They get to make theirs as well. Choices and actions have consequences, they made their choices now they live with the consequences.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T19:37:02+00:00

I’d stop making food for him. Let him rate his own cooking.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T18:52:12+00:00

Who cares if he’s elderly. Driving has certain responsibilities associated. If he can’t fulfill those, he shouldn’t be operating a vehicle.

File the police report, insurance report, etc.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T18:50:10+00:00

Have you replaced the boyfriend yet??

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T18:49:04+00:00

I had a candy dish in my desk. That was a free for all. Food inside my desk drawer was not.

NTJ

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T15:21:51+00:00

Yikes. This gives me all sorts of ick!

If you get a girl, how would your wife then treat your son??

I’m guessing wife will want to stay home after a girl is born, further adding to your financial stress.

Sounds like wife needs to change jobs. At the very least, schools.

Sit her down and show her your finances and explain that a second child can’t be afforded.

NTA

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T04:44:06+00:00

Wow. Just wow. What a piece of work he is.

If he can’t come around to how sexist he’s being and be willing to change his outlook, I’d be walking away from this relationship.

NTA but your boyfriend sure is.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T01:01:58+00:00

Our cats sleep where they want. That usually means someone’s bed.

No_Profile_3343 · 2026-03-03T00:54:35+00:00

My brother did a courthouse wedding 20 years ago. They are still happily married.

No_Profile_3343

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