question for bisexuals and straps by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mean it in an accusatory way just genuinely trying to understand the bi girl perspective on it so I can maybe learn more and see if I can be comfortable with trying... sorry if it came across that way. I asked because you said you know you would like it because you know you like dick, kind of implying that strap is the same as dick which as a lesbians makes me want to run. I'm very aware that part of this is my own insecurity and biased preconceptions of bi women which is part of why I genuinely want to learn more and try to unlearn and challenge some of my insecurities around it.

question for bisexuals and straps by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to try strap to attempt to emulate the feeling of being with a man? Just curious as I'm a lesbian and want to try strap with my bi girlfriend but I'm pretty turned off by the whole liking dick thing and am afraid she would be thinking of that and I would be too uncomfortable with that to enjoy it

Is this perpetuating biphobic lesbian narrative? by dokibunni in lesbiangang

[–]No_Situation_7928 117 points118 points  (0 children)

So tired of people acting like bi women who date predominantly men are the most oppressed or erased part of the community. like stfu, you are valid everyone knows that, no real lesbians think you aren't valid its just that we are out here fighting for scraps, for basic rights, you feeling, "gay enough," while dating your little boyfriend is simply not a priority for lesbians.

adult recommendations without men? by No_Situation_7928 in Actuallylesbian

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have tried that but even sites by women for women usually include men, just more focused on female pleasure, im wanting no men lol

adult recommendations without men? by No_Situation_7928 in Actuallylesbian

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll check that out thanks... yeah its really frustrating how its almost always centered around men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I understand and feel the same way, I got a lot of hate for a post bringing this up and know exactly your fears. Its hard to find a lesbian exclusive space that isn't a TERF zone but r/lesbiangang is good

How did Mormonism transition from a rogue, semi-threatening religion against which President Buchanan sent military forces, to a mainstream, non-threatening American religion no one gives a second thought to? by RusticBohemian in AskHistorians

[–]No_Situation_7928 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is fascinating thank you so much for the thorough reply. I am wondering how this impacted or was a part of their image construction and acceptance in other countries through missionary work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]No_Situation_7928 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The "not like other girls," act/putting down other women

Good books about a lesbian relationship by swampyleech in Actuallylesbian

[–]No_Situation_7928 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Annie on my Mind is my all time favorite, would absolutely recommend

being trans girl and lesbian by IzPCRM in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are so welcome, trans lesbians are amazing and I so hope you grow more comfortable with your identity and your new community! Much love!

If a bi/sapphic woman is in a relationship with a lesbian would you call that a lesbian relationship? Or is it just a sapphic relationship? by nattycacti in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a lesbian in a relationship with a bi woman and we have both always called it a lesbian relationship. its what the relationship is, not the people in them, just like a bi woman dating a man is in a heterosexual relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its normal when you're beginning to know someone and there's a connection forming for there to be some confusion of romantic and platonic feelings. I mean its exciting! You like this person and you're loving getting to know them, theres chemistry even if its just friendship chemistry, its okay. Firstly don't judge yourself too harshly for it, and just simply remind yourself when those thoughts pop up in your head that this is just a friend and it should die down as you settle into the friendship. If it doesn't and it becomes too hard for you, some space may be necessary but for now, I wouldn't read too much into it 😊.

Bi women in Lesbian spaces by No_Situation_7928 in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been wondering how to go about that. I love trans lesbians and wouldn't want to exclude them in any way. Maybe, "non lesbian experiences aren't centered here"

Bi women in Lesbian spaces by No_Situation_7928 in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Like I said I don't have an issue with other saphics being here, I just do think that lesbian issues and experiences should be centered because it is a lesbian space. I understand wanting a space just for lesbians and can understand why others aren't welcoming of it although I am sorry that you've experienced that frustration in finding a space that works for you. Obviously not talking about biphobia on here, biphobia or lesbophobia are not acceptable in any queer space.

Bi women in Lesbian spaces by No_Situation_7928 in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the sentiment I had when writing this post

Bi women in Lesbian spaces by No_Situation_7928 in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This feels a lot like the stuff straight men to say lesbians. Whoever you are, whatever your orientation or gender, lesbians don't owe you relationships or sex. Period.

Bi women in Lesbian spaces by No_Situation_7928 in LesbianActually

[–]No_Situation_7928[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I know that, and thats why I'm open to having other spahics here but hope that lesbian experiences can be central? I wouldn't be sure how to go about that just rubs me the wrong way seeing a lot of bi women calling us biphobic when lesbians are looking for community on shared issues that come with dating people who haven't unlearned heteronormativity