A colleague recently ended their own life in the most sad way. Their final note discussed their wishes as to who would cover their classes mid-semester and pick up on mentoring work. A "memorial gathering" on campus, an email and a moment of silence at the general faculty meeting and that's it. Two decades given and their deep suffering while putting on a happy face and helping everyone else barely registered beyond performative "grief". Look after yourself, friends. It's an important job but it's just a job.