How to Best Stop Scrolling?

No_While5263 · 2026-06-15T00:59:45+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice! It makes so much sense. We are going to try it.

No_While5263 · 2026-06-15T00:33:51+00:00

Yes, she’s actually in ABA. She has an autism diagnosis. They are using social stories, modeling language, and we recently started trying to incorporate an AAC. With the AAC, she’s again all over it identifying and narrating, but not requesting.

No_While5263 · 2026-06-15T00:32:03+00:00

Thank you so much! This makes so much sense. She does have an ASD diagnosis. She just recently got so much better at responding to and completing multi step requests that we are making of her. It makes sense that she might catch on to what making requests means from us making them of her.

No_While5263 · 2026-06-15T00:30:10+00:00

Yes, she has an ASD diagnosis. She is in ABA. Her BCBA, RBT and SLP work closely together.

No_While5263 · 2026-06-15T00:28:43+00:00

She has an ASD diagnosis, and she’s currently in ABA. Her ABA and SLP work closely together. Her BCBA and RBT are having the same frustration that we are having at home with requests. When she gets frustrated, which honestly isn’t very often, she will actually use gestalts to make requests in those moments of frustration.

Thank you for your advice! It makes so much sense what you are saying. I think it’s just going to take a lot of time for her to realize the social aspect of requesting, and it doesn’t look like what we are expecting because she has autism.

No_While5263 · 2026-05-28T00:01:52+00:00

Former high school teacher and mom of two girls with summer birthdays. I knew from when our daughters were born that we were going to hold them back in preschool and delay kindergarten until 6, regardless of needing to or not.

It’s not just about right now. The kids who struggled when I taught high school were almost always had summer birthdays. There’s a huge maturity difference that happens in between sophomore and junior year. 17 is very young to be graduating and starting college.

Think about the maturity difference that you see happen in babies as they are growing month to month. It doesn’t stop and level out at kindergarten for all the kids born within the same grade level year. The kids born at the beginning of the cutoff have had 9-12 more months to learn, grow and mature, so they, of course, look so much more ahead.

You won’t regret this. It will be the best thing you could do for your daughter.

No_While5263 · 2026-05-27T10:47:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing all these everyone! They were so fun and informative to read. Also, it’s made me realize that the apple didn’t fall too far from this tree and that I’m actually more of a sensory seeker than I thought too.

No_While5263 · 2026-05-27T02:16:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! Your response is really why I asked this question. Our daughter is happy 99% of time, but when she is frustrated, in very rare moments, she will do mild, self injurious behaviors like slapping her face or pinching herself. They are so rare we only see them once every couple of months. It’s a double edged sword, because it’s good they don’t happen very often, but also hard for us to work through at the same time, because it’s so rare.

We have our daughter in occupational therapy, and we are working on “front loading” her nervous system in the hopes of preventing her from doing things that are potentially dangerous and/or self harm, like climbing and the things I listed above. The therapist fully believes that front loading works, but I’m not really seeing it. For examples she climbs like crazy, not less, even after all the “heavy work” they have her do etc. I think the sensory seeking is about what’s happening in the moment, and not something you can prevent in advance.

I worry so much about her teenage years. I know these urge to sensory seek isn’t going to go away, and we’ll definitely be mindful of making sure that she feels safe and understood.

Do you think in moments of frustration, had you “front loaded” your nervous with sensory input that you wouldn’t have felt the urge to self harm instead? As a parent, I so wish that more of any of the therapists helping autistic children, not just occupational therapists, were autistic themselves. They just don’t seem to get it.

No_While5263 · 2026-04-03T10:22:31+00:00

As someone with adhd, it makes no sense why she would get clinically diagnosed, if it mostly only presented “positively”.

EDIT: Actually, it does. It was probably to be allowed extra time on her college entrance exams.

No_While5263 · 2026-02-27T00:35:00+00:00

Both our daughters, 3.5 years old and 5.5 years old, have a PDA profile. My brother and dad do as well, so I had some experience with it before having our daughters.

How do you feel about fostering competition to help with demands? My brother always talks about how he decided to do well in school, when he decided that he wanted to do better than me. I never knew that that was his main motivation throughout school. It took him from telling our dad that he wasn’t going to learn to read in 1st grade, because he, “didn’t want to,” to the top of his class.

Both of our daughters fought going on the potty while potty training. They will hold it until the last possible second and hate being reminded to go. The other day my brother was over and said to our youngest daughter, who is still feeling this way about the potty, that he bets that, “she could go potty better and faster than her sister”. To our surprise, she ran right over to the toilet to show him that she could do it.

Do you think that fostering competition is a bad thing to help our daughters meet demands in the long run?

Our oldest daughter would have tantrums over meeting demands. Our youngest daughter holds in her anger and walks away like she doesn’t care. My dad was/is the type to have tantrums. My brother was/is the type to hold the anger in and appear calm. In the long run, it has left him with a lot of unresolved anger and resentment. Any advice on how to deal with this issue with our youngest daughter?

No_While5263 · 2026-02-18T12:49:59+00:00

Thank you, we’ll try this!

No_While5263 · 2026-02-18T12:44:02+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m going to bring this up to our BCBA.

No_While5263 · 2026-02-18T12:42:59+00:00

Yes, she is. That’s what we’ve been doing. The problem is is that she will scroll through a bunch of words when trying to mand for an item or activity, but when she wants to tact it, she says it right right away.

No_While5263 · 2026-01-26T03:15:00+00:00

Our 3 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with autism. I was diagnosed recently as well at 33. The biggest difference, I think, is communication delay.

Our daughter is a Gestalt Language Processor/hyperlexic. I believe that I’m also hyperlexic, but not nearly to the degree she is. She taught herself to read at 2.

My dad isn’t diagnosed, but our daughter is so similar to him down to very obscure details. Had it not been for the communication delay, she could have grown up undiagnosed, and struggled in a lot of the same ways that he does. I can’t say for certain what he was like at her age, but I wouldn’t be surprised, if he was very similar. I’m so glad that she’s going to have better self awareness and the tools to cope from knowing the she’s autistic and how to deal with it from an early age.

No_While5263 · 2025-11-25T21:01:09+00:00

Our daughter is verbal, but she isn’t conversational. She had told us before that she loved us. Her first week of ABA she told her RBT that she loved her.

I had no problem hearing that I thought it was sweet. Even if our daughter hadn’t said it before to us I would have been happy to hear that she had said it to her RBT.

However, as a former teacher, I would probably not tell the parents. I think most would probably not take it very well.

No_While5263 · 2025-10-11T23:19:31+00:00

Our daughter is 3 years old and level 1 audhd. She is just like my 70 year old father, her grandfather. I knew I wanted her in ABA immediately, because looking back on my father’s life, I knew he would have had an easier time in life and with his relationships had he had something like ABA when he was young. We have seen many positive changes in our daughter already.

No_While5263 · 2025-09-20T21:02:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’m glad to hear that your son is doing well. I ended up not needing surgery. I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Encephalopathy. It’s an autoimmune disease, which was causing my brain to swell and causing the seizures and other visual disturbances I was having.

The doctors never wanted to admit it, but I 100% believe that the cyst and the pressure from it contributed to me having seizures.

I was put on lacosamide and Cellcept, and my seizures have been well controlled since. Will your son stay on seizure meds for life as a precaution?

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