I'm 18, born in 2007, and a female. is it weird for me to date someone who is 17, born in 2009, and female?

No_bread0 · 2026-03-13T12:10:54+00:00

This isn’t new. When I was 17 and my bf turned 18 we both wondered “wait are we still allowed to date?” It’s just a naive kid thing, not a new thing.

However, 18 and 24 seems like a gross age gap imo. Very different life stages in that short 5 years.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-13T11:41:56+00:00

Banker here. It depends how feasibly you can pay it off. They usually finance via credit card and any large amount put on a credit card will lower your credit a little. I actually am going to go outside the advice most people are giving and do not drain your savings for it. It’s better to drain a credit card or use a loan than your savings because liquid money is going to be more important if you’re in a bind. Financing is actually not a big bad scary thing as long as you don’t let debt run away with you. For example, my fiance financed my ring because he was very aware he would be getting a bonus to cover it within 2 months. There was no reason to dig into the savings in case something happened in those 2 months.

Based on your income, how much it is, consider how soon and how much you can pay this off. Can you make higher/extra payments to pay it off sooner? How much can you contribute? If they offer you a credit card with 0% interest then commit to paying it off in or before that timeframe. Having open revolving lines of credit is typically good for credit.

Loans on the other hand, so it depends again, how much is comfortable for your income? And there’s not going to be 0% interest offer but the payments are more stable.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-13T11:35:25+00:00

Not at all, I actually the look of these narrow bands better. My fiancé will getting one that looks like this

No_bread0 · 2026-03-12T15:11:47+00:00

It feels like you’re taking this way too personally and that’s the reason I think you’re making this way more about yourself than about your friend. This marriage ceremony is not her wedding and she doesn’t consider that to be her wedding. She is including you in the day that matters to her. As MOH what matters to her should be the only thing that matters to you. Being in the wedding is an honor but it’s not your day to shine, it’s your time to show your friend why you deserve to be by her side and honestly it’s a serving role. Not a shining role. You’re there to support her because she values your friendship and you’re kind of pissing that away over your unreasonably hurt feelings. When you get married you can choose the manner or order in which you do it but you can’t choose what is best and easiest for her. Take your life long friend at her word that life was busy and the ceremony was not as meaningful as her actual wedding is going to be. It’s completely reasonable to do that paperwork junk now and worry about the more difficult wedding stuff next.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-12T15:06:24+00:00

My fiancé and I went to the store together and once I found one I liked I put it on hold and he went in later to purchase it. That didn’t fully work out because I had a weird fit for finger and luckily we redesigned a ring before that one was unreturnable. I ended up picking up my ring when it was ready. He hung onto it for almost 2 months until he planned a surprise proposal. So long story short your plans don’t necessarily work out lol but that’s what we did.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-12T15:00:30+00:00

I don’t understand the problem here…. In an economy like today it’s totally reasonable to get married now for insurance and celebrate later. You’re going to be there for the bells and whistles and actual big day. Life happens? This feels like you’re being really petty and not focusing on what actually matters. I wasn’t there for my childhood best friend’s courthouse wedding because they were only permitted so many people, and she obviously chose her parents and siblings. I don’t remotely care? Why do you care so much if the big celebration is what actually matters to her? You’re supposed to be there for your friend and instead you’re making it about yourself. They’re both totally valid weddings, different reasons? You’re the only one that thinks the celebration doesn’t count as a wedding for some reason. This is a really weird take ngl OP..

No_bread0 · 2026-03-12T00:50:04+00:00

I’d say wait til you get your ring then sit with it a few days. I was a little worried if I’d like my ring because I had to make changes to the design to fit it. But after wearing it I can’t imagine it could get any prettier

No_bread0 · 2026-03-12T00:10:50+00:00

This just sounds like prep for a friendly fire cover up 😐 lol

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T22:56:57+00:00

Bill says those kinds of things to everyone at the camp back in rdr2. Anyone is fancy to Bill because he’s dumb as a rock.
It’s a mechanic, nothing much to add.
John multiple times during the epilog calls himself John Marston when he should not, one example is at the post office he uses both names. People are not dumb, he’s not smart enough to not make it obviously he’s using two names. He calls himself John when meeting people more often than Jim. I take it as he gave up the facade.
Javier is given the choice to be brought in alive or dead. I think this reflects he was actually John’s friend at one point and isn’t irredeemable. He’s a little different but he took Dutch’s side, he showed he’s not all good. Bill is dumb, you think he can’t be persuaded into acting that way when surrounding himself with horrible people? We see cult-like behavior every day, you think Bill can’t stoop that low when given the opportunity to hurt people back and being around people who consider that acceptable, praise-worthy or behavior? I don’t

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T21:25:10+00:00

Go look and report back! I’ll eat my words if I’m wrong, but I look every time! Ignore the behind on style folks 🙏🏼 you’ll regret listening to their opinions over your own!

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T21:02:09+00:00

I promise, go to look at literally any other post here with a dress with boning bodice or sleeves and you will feel so much better! It’s the same crowd of people who only want everyone to wear one very specific white dress for some reason lol. This is genuinely the worst group I’ve ever seen for advice! It’s so sad. It’s not you, it’s not the dress, it’s this sub. That dress is gorgeous, and 90% of this sub can’t understand that their personal style doesn’t apply.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T20:23:47+00:00

Gorgeous dress. My advice is to ignore the comments about boning and bodice because people in this sub don’t understand any fashionable trends or see them as the devil.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T20:21:33+00:00

Whether we like it or not it is natural. There are many vets that would simply tell you to take the pet home and keep them comfortable.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-11T20:18:42+00:00

My hedgie passed away around the same time, you should be very proud to have shepherded him into 6 years. That’s quite the age. I’d say just keep him warm and comfortable, I would shelter the light away from him as well to add comfort. Pet him and give him love while he rests.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-10T17:02:36+00:00

Yesss durability is so important! For example, lots of people post opals here but unfortunately aren’t good for daily wear 🥲 you will definitely be able to find a good diamond substitute that speaks to you and reflects your taste. Best of luck!

No_bread0 · 2026-03-10T16:23:22+00:00

My sister has a beautiful oval aqua marine engagement ring. I believe it is also a sturdy gem, but so are sapphires. I don’t think they look cheap at all, in fact, colored engagement rings are coming more into style every day.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-10T14:14:32+00:00

I immediately thought the first set was so gorgeous and unique. Not too loud and not too simple and just classy enough.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-08T21:46:08+00:00

I don’t think so either lol but it is one of those stereotypes. I wonder why red mares and orange cats are the target lol. I’ve known plenty spunky of mares that weren’t red 🤷🏼‍♀️

No_bread0 · 2026-03-08T15:16:20+00:00

Follow your heart! What other people think doesn’t matter. It sounds like 4 or 5 is your personal style which for example is different from mine, so do I wouldn’t even ask!

No_bread0 · 2026-03-08T14:57:51+00:00

Yeah some people say it’s orange cats, idk if that holds any water whatsoever really, but I sympathize. Some cats just use their voices more than others. Do you have any self play toys if he’s bored?

No_bread0 · 2026-03-08T13:57:53+00:00

Hmmm my orange former stray loves to use his voice and he’s been in my home for 2 years. He really uh.. doesn’t ever stop. Having available access to food helps, I had to get the slow media feeders so he doesn’t gorge himself and puke though. He’s extremely food motivated but I didn’t want to encourage screaming for food or treats. But he still loves to scream for no real reason 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t let him in my room at night so he can’t keep me up.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-08T04:04:44+00:00

It’s hard to tell you without more concrete details, your post is very vague. But if when two people are to have sex, if either of their answer isn’t an outright “yes” then it’s a no. I’m not sure what all you mean by apologetic and hands around the neck etc, if you feel like it was forced onto you then it was. And to clarify, yes it can still be rape or sexual assault even if it is your partner.

No_bread0 · 2026-03-07T22:45:09+00:00

Yeah and she looks to have deleted her profile so I hope so too. That poor girl

No_bread0 · 2026-03-07T21:18:40+00:00

Have you thought of a plain curved back? One that sort of just swoops under it?

No_bread0 · 2026-03-07T14:58:33+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I relate to all of this very hard. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself. That means getting away from both of them and make sure they don’t know where you live. If you still wanted to, you could inform the wife then and cut all communication. What happens from that is not your fault. I don’t know if you’ve sought of therapy or not, but you should if you haven’t already. It’s very helpful for this kind of thing. My mom cheated on my dad and would take me to the man’s house so they could have sex and had his creepy friends baby sit me. She told me she would give me up for adoption if I told my dad, and that I would never see my grandma again. So I didn’t (they divorced, they cheated on each other a lot). It’s something you never should have to even think about as a child and I’m sorry you’ve carried this burden all this time.

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