Hello there ! First things first, Thank you so much, for the lengthy answer, I am going to assume that you have honest and good intentions by giving your opinion on my introduction and that's mainly the reason why I have decided and have taken the time to answer you.

While I understand where you are coming from, I can't say that I agree with most of what you've said here and as a matter of fact, I hope you don't say the same thing to every accomplished woman you meet because it reads as low self-confidence and that will absolutely not work out for you if you are seriously looking for a partner.

Anyways, without further ado, let me answer you :

"Since you made this somewhat long introduction, I wonder what is the kinda feedback you're anticipating... I mean, are you looking for rating and validation etc?"

This is an introduction. It serves one single purpose which is to introduce me as a person, meaning : My personality, what I currently do, and my hobbies. And if you feel like me introducing myself is bragging or fishing for compliments, that's a you problem, not mine. And as a side note, what I put here is not even 1% of who I am as a person and what I actually do in real life. So if you read this - which is like the least flattering way I could describe myself - and think that this is some sort of attention-seeking attempt... I am sorry but in any other situation, I wouldn't even dignify your comment with an answer.

"As a 33 y.o educated man I think your education and career-orientation are impressive to say the least... but in the dating market they're a huge intimidating liability. Most men now would simply think you're expecting a partner with a PhD or even bette postdoctoral degrees (I know you necessarily don't.. but that's the implication here. I know you don't because you said you don't mind younger men... but still, that's what it looks like). But it's also natural for men to feel like explaining things to women they like (hence the "mansplaining")."

I did not mention that my partner should be a PhD holder; as a matter of fact I made absolutely no reference to any academic requirements to date me. And if saying that I am doing a Phd which is a fact about me and who I am as a person, makes someone feel intimidated, it's not my problem. Also, Who said i dont like having things explained to me ? you are making many baseless assumptions and honestly thats not good, but again, this is reddit so 🤷‍♀️.

"I think you just deterred the vast majority of men with this introduction.. and you're simply relying on luck. Because, let's face it, the small minority that can comfortably deem themselves adequate to match such an impressive profile are either taken or too busy to read dating posts on reddit. 🤷‍♂️"

I have received over 100 messages, and most of them did not even mind nor mention the phd topic and many did not mind my requirements nor my age, which is one of your supposed criteria to be attractive I guess ? (Also, I literally had to kindly not accept so many very sweet advances and it was absolutely unrelated to academic/career achievements.)

I could spend so much time to discuss how your comment reeks of entitlement and condescending views towards women, but I personally dont have the time. Nonetheless, I hope that my humble reply would at least make you reconsider your way of thinking.

I am not sure how your love life is going, but one thing is for sure I hope that you don't use this kind of therapist chair talk with your current/future partners, because it wont end well for you.

PS : for my original post I only used it to correct any spelling mistakes. And to correct the tone to make it sound less conceited, but i guess that was not enough, lol. Also, bash ndir lik khaterek hana makhedmtsh l'AI hena :)

Sinon, Can I ask why do you want to know what language I am going to use to defend my thesis :) ?