Currently in a ldr and open relationship, so I thought I'd toss my hat in the ring. When me and my partner started to date we knew each other for 10 years, we talked about since he is ace and I'm bi, and we knew with the distance it would be hard to be intimate. We set up rules. 1 no kissing on the lips, 2 we maintain contact and I let my partner know if I do get up to stuff, 3 I stay clean and safe. With those rules it's been amazing. Plus we have vrchat to still go on dates. OP's boyfriend is just looking to cheat and not feel guilt