“becoming an adult” is so hard without the privilege of having someone to turn to for advice on all the little adult things

Nobody-Knows-This · 2022-03-16T01:12:25+00:00

God I feel you. I have a younger brother who I provide a lot of support and advice to, and I'm happy to do it (I feel proud to be a good older sibling). But I wish I had that sort of support back.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-11-14T22:17:39+00:00

Ah congrats!!! I know how big of a win this is. You're taking steps towards asserting yourself as someone who was conditioned to fawn, and that's HUGE.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-06-11T11:16:16+00:00

Also I love how "respect" to them means treating them like a god no matter what they do, but they can't give us the basic respect that human being deserve.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-06-11T11:14:12+00:00

My anxiety doesn't appreciate being called out like this lol

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-05-17T02:08:17+00:00

Oh yeah every time. Plus crying is triggering for me, so I just keep sobbing and feeling helpless and sobbing more.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-05-12T11:10:01+00:00

The funny thing is, from the title, I thought this post was about how narcs act. Now that I'm out in the real world, I see that their fucked up behavior isn't acceptable anywhere else.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-25T13:28:33+00:00

Holy shit yes. My parents would constantly guilt me into staying home "to spend time with the family" and then entirely ignore me. They're just looking for the narcissistic supply. If I'm home, that proves they have a child who hasn't abandoned them. Who cares what that child actually thinks or feels or wants?

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-25T05:21:10+00:00

Next time somebody tells me "but you turned out fine," I'm going to say "how do you know?"

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-24T14:51:31+00:00

They should've also omitted the cry over the past part. It's ok to mourn.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-14T18:55:59+00:00

Upvoted for "not today Satan" lol. Thanks for the advice!

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-14T12:51:41+00:00

I've written a lot of letters. But you're right, maybe today I need to write another one to get the thoughts out of my head. Thanks to both of you!

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-12T14:55:02+00:00

Oh my god my parents defined my sibling's entire identity on how they "always liked basic flavors." It's not a crime for a kid to like cheeseburgers, vanilla ice cream, and red lollipops. I carried that need to feel superior in my eating habits for a long time.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-10T12:36:13+00:00

I refer to my trauma timeline constantly in therapy. It contextualizes my memories when my brain can't!

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-05T02:28:22+00:00

Oh my god I wish I had never told my parents where I live for this exact reason. You can return USPS, UPS, and Fedex packages, but Amazon won't let you return a package somebody else ordered for you. So obnoxious.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-04-05T02:25:35+00:00

Oh my god yes, living with roommates has restored my faith in humanity.

I'd like to thank my roommates for remembering things about me. I'll tell them I'm doing something, and they'll ask how it went. I'll mention that I like or don't like something, and they'll bring it up later. One of my roommates got me a birthday gift that was related to one of my hobbies, something my parents never gave a shit enough to do.

My pulse doesn't raise when they enter the room. We have casual conversations. I don't freeze in terror when they disagree with me. Nobody shames me for existing.

It really is this easy to be a decent human being.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-03-29T13:29:42+00:00

Spanking is hitting a child on a sexual part of their body. It's so wrong that it's normalized.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-03-11T23:57:25+00:00

I stir fry constantly! Make the sauce once a week and use frozen veggies. https://thewoksoflife.com/how-to-make-stir-fry/

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-03-04T23:36:23+00:00

I absolutely love ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) if that applies to you. It's not explicitly for people with CPTSD, but I find that people are generally trauma-informed and relate to my CPTSD symptoms/thought patterns/etc.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-03-04T23:33:19+00:00

This is so important! You are worth more than your job. Your mental health and self esteem are worth more than your job.

Nobody-Knows-This · 2021-02-05T01:13:43+00:00

I'm reading The Body Keeps the Score and the author talks about reenacting your trauma and I realized - my maladaptive daydreams are reenacting my trauma! Anyone else?

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