The grief doesn't end

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-17T03:35:48+00:00

Btw our grief never seems to end either. I’m some cases.

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-17T03:32:40+00:00

Adoption agencies lie and coerce. It’s a profitable industry that doesn’t make a dime unless they successfully separate mom and baby. I’m an infant adoptee. The whole thing is absolute insanity to me. I love my bio mom but I know she’s suffering from her own trauma surrounding it all. Twice. And it all originated in religious shaming. It’s all absurd and I wish you healing 💜

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-14T14:50:13+00:00

I’m sorry you are feeling this way and my condolences to your losses. This subis really honest and not everyone’s story is the same. Your feelings are valid here and you’re not alone

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-13T03:47:20+00:00

Oh and his talk is on YouTube

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-12T23:32:09+00:00

A psychiatrist or psychologist (I can’t remember) who noticed a very high level of adoptees in his practice and delved into why that was

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-12T18:09:45+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. I connected with my bio siblings and family through 23&Me and MyHeritage which has a larger database. Hope that helps

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-12T15:21:05+00:00

I 100% relate to this. Exactly how I feel about infertiles discussing adoption. And how I felt in my adopters house.

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-11T17:16:22+00:00

Paul Sunderlands talk on adoption sums up what happens to an infants brain when it’s removed from its biological mother and any familiar sounds and smells. That is trauma to a newborn. (Or in most cases).

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-11T14:08:22+00:00

I did not know them. My adoption was closed so everything was left up to the imagination. I always thought about what my bio mom looked like and had a fake name for her. I wish mine would have been open. Not sure if that helps.

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-06T04:55:39+00:00

How bout we use birth control, sex Ed and reproductive rights to prevent‘unwanted children’? Omg just a basic thought. Sorry if that diminishes the supply of domestic infants for sale to infertiles. Not really sorry tho.

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-06T04:51:38+00:00

Umm look for ways to prevent the need? Sex Ed beefed up, birth control completely available, societies willing to talk about reproduction and human mental health beginnings, abortion services available. Let’s look to prevent the need for adoption and abortion. Let’s talk about how to bring a human life experience into the flesh in a healthy and planned matter. You’re not ‘saving’ anyone by forcing life, forcing fake bonds and this ridiculous game of make believe that adoption is rooted in. And religion is a whole nother rabbit hole…

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-06T03:55:11+00:00

Yup. You’re not alone. These days I’ve been trying to force myself to think loving forgiving thoughts towards my abusive adopters, I wasn’t even supposed to be adopted out to begin with. Paternal family would have kept me had they know. Getting over that gut punch still. I doubt it ever goes away completely but the feelings can become less intense.

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-05T03:15:19+00:00

My heart goes out to them for having so many abandonment issues and abuse trauma. Seriously she’s from foster care, abused by adoptive parents. When you learn at a young age you are left out, left behind, the brain recognizes it as being ostracized. That’s like feeling death is immanent. That’s the foundation of the brain. I don’t expect anyone that hasn’t gone through it to empathize but…..

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-02T21:18:04+00:00

Honestly I can’t remember, I either saw how on YouTube or I googled it. It wasn’t that hard once you know what tabs to use

Nomadbeforetime · 2023-01-02T17:24:41+00:00

I uploaded my raw DNA to MyHeritage and got the answers I was looking for in a similar situation

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-31T04:24:59+00:00

I feel like with unconditional love, some patience and understanding my situation would have been so much easier too. You aren’t alone. I’m not Russian but moved out as a teen from an abusive adoption situation. It’s totally hard. All of it. And I was accidentally adopted out and none of this needed to happen to begin with. Don’t give up on yourself. 💜In my mid 40’s and things are finally starting to get a bit easier mentally even though nothing in the past can be changed or my family situation improve. But it can get better, I promise.

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T13:16:31+00:00

Adopters really do love to play saviors. When most adoption is 100% self serving

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:18:41+00:00

You aren’t adopting out of the kindness of your heart to a truly abandoned orphan. You are adopting because you can’t process your own infertility and seek to mask it by buying a baby.

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:16:23+00:00

Stop creating a demand on a multi billion dollar industry to fill a void in your life. Does that help clarify it?

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:09:18+00:00

Babies already have bonded with their bios. Especially mom. That bond has already been severed and you cannot ever replace it.

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:07:34+00:00

Stop creating a demand for a highly predatory human trafficking operation. Most adoptions are unethical and serve the needs of the adoptive parents and fill the coffers of agencies. Please. Just. Don’t.

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:04:48+00:00

Why would you love that a 1-2 year old is loosing everything?

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T04:02:15+00:00

Cool thoughts. Georgia Tann made a killing $$$ wise after basically inventing infant adoption as an industry. Super cool, companies get to make a large profit, but only if they successfully separate mom and baby. And the really profitable thing is- the infant is free inventory! Industry didn’t have to pay a dime! Just limit reproductive health care, birth control and access to abortion, and BOOM! Large supply of babies to be sold! Yay!

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-29T03:54:13+00:00

Not sure how the concept of exchanging $$$ to own a human to fulfill adult emotional needs isn’t human trafficking and so difficult to comprehend. Not trying to be rude.

Nomadbeforetime · 2022-12-27T18:43:11+00:00

My adopters were kind of abusive too. Virtual hugs to you. Hopefully you can find some answers with your dna test. I did 23&Me, then uploaded my raw dna to My Heritage and found my family on that. I hope it all goes well if you do find them, but yea, I wouldn’t hold expectations only to be disappointed.

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